i live on my own for a few years. dont have any family.i am feeling very down and sad..i am a clever person great personality but some how started to loose interest in enjoying life i don`t seem to find the right woman..if you have been in this situasion please give me your kind advice many thanks!!
2007-02-08 09:06:19 · 13 answers · asked by Michael69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sounds like you are depressed. you should go to your doctor and talk to him or her. they will be able to tell you wheather you should see a counselor or not. sometimes medication can help in these situations. If you have some close good friends, try to make yourself spend time with them. tell them of your situation and ask them to help you. as far as the right woman. until you feel good about yourself and raise your own self respect, you may not find the right woman. You should concentrate on healing yourself before you worry about finding the right woman.
2007-02-08 09:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by molly b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got the qualities - clever, good personality - your own words. You can only go up or down and it's your own choice. You may need a little medical help then again you may not. Try tomorrow to push yourself a little and do something you haven't done for awhile or call an old friend. Understand difficult as you say you don't have any family but there must be someone from your past, can't determin your age but if you are getting on a bit (like me) others may be in the same boat. If there's no one you know of it's time to aquaint yourself with new people. Unless you live iin the back of beyond, newspapers, radio advertisements, church notices, library notices give endless lists of things you can join. Something must be at least of a little interest to you. Bowling, other sports, literature groups, voluntary work, gardening clubs,language classes, computing classes, model making, friendship clubs bingo, chess clubs - The list is endless but it's all out there waiting for you.
2007-02-08 18:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you are in a bit of a rut just now, you have to really give yourself a shake and ask yourself what it is you want from life.
Like you said you are a clever guy with a great personality which means you must have friends, so go out and have some fun and stop thinking about trying to find the right woman.
I am a great believer in the fact that you have to learn to love yourself before you can let someone else love you.
Be patient, good luck xxx
2007-02-08 17:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This too shall pass. Go talk to a counselor, you are depressed. I know because I battle depression and social anxiety. You need to remember that people care about you, and you matter. I am not saying lower your standards on women either. You are probably not looking in all the right places for that woman either. Try going with a couple guys to the night clubs or look around at the supermarkets. Women are looking too!Good luck!
2007-02-08 17:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by mrs. savealot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u need a good hobby that gets u out of the house. everyone feels that way at some point but to be totally honest-LIFE IS TOO SHORT! stop worrying if u'll meet someone, just go out have fun b urself and u'll meet that someone special. i found the person i want to spend the rest of my life with from school, we've been together for 5years and have a child. i stopped looking for love when i had so many disastrous relationships and paul was a comfort when they went wrong and we fell in love. love hits u when u least expect it babe. dont waste time worrying, u'll meet that special someone soon. love will find u when u stop looking for it.
good luck babe x
2007-02-08 17:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by Natalie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I often go through stages like this. It's hard for people to understand who have never gone through it. I try to focus on the good things and get more exercise, try to speak out to a certain friend. As for finding the right woman, when I got on with life, someone found me. I still feel like it every so often but remember to not worry! Also try taking herbal remedies, I went to a herbal shop and starting taking extra vitamin supplements which certainly helped me feel better. Good luck.
2007-02-08 17:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by vikky t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a nice people! share with me! there is more to life than finding the right woman sweetie.Find some nice Friends first then the rest will follow!
2007-02-08 17:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by bevalou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like depression. I suggest seeing a therapist just for a pro's opinion. Talking it out helps. Sometimes meds are needed.
Do you go to church or have hobbies? Try to get out and meet people. Joining a club for people with your interests would help also.
2007-02-08 17:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by toplessone19700 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta get a grip. This life is not a practice you are getting the only chance you'll ever get SO ENJOY IT, go out and find happiness, there is someone out there for you.
2007-02-08 17:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by Branded 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going on a healthy diet. Stop drinking alcohol and junk food. Change the places you socialise in.
2007-02-08 17:09:33 · answer #10 · answered by Boscombe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋