How do you know if you married the wrong person?

Question

What are some red flags to watch for?

Answer 1

Marriage is difficult no matter what, and even happily married people have tough times. Way too many people give up too fast. People who say they become unhappy and then need a divorce don't understand the idea of marriage and what it means. Life is tough and nobody gets a free pass from the ups and downs and pain that life brings. So - don't make feelings or emotions or "needs" be your red flags. HOWEVER - if your spouse is disrespectful, violent, abusive, overly controlling, lying, manipulative or cheating, these are red flags. The key questions are: Do you feel respected? Do you believe your partner wants good things for you? Do you feel wanted and loved? If so, find beauty in your commitment and your life together even if it doesn't always come with a romantic dinner for two and a candle lit bath.

Answer 2

You should know these things before marriage. That's why people should not get married right away, but should date for 2-3 years or so.

Some red flags could be: controlling, a pattern of cheating, a pattern of alcohol, drugs etc.., a compulsive liar, abusive behavior like: verbal abuse, (yelling at you, name calling), abuse: hitting you, pushing you, etc...or mental behaviors.

There are many things to know if you married the wrong person. But why ask such a question if you already know that maybe they do some of these things. If you are already in that situation, many things can be done. It depends what the situation is or how the person is too.

Just remember, if you know that you or your kids are in danger with a violent man or woman, then do what it takes to get you and your kids our of the home and to a safer location.

Also, think of the married 'vows' that you two have made, are you going to keep the contract or break them? Do what it takes to stay married, you are there to help each other, don't break your 'vows' just to look for an easy way out.

I would consider on getting these two books called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and the "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage".

Hope this all made sense.

Answer 3

Red flags that will tell you if you've married the wrong person:

1 If the name you call them does not match the one on their
birth certificate.

2 If you have to tell your wife to let the hem down on her skirt
because her weenie's showing.

3 If your first born is African-American and neither of you are.

4 If he or she has jumped bail more than three times.

5 If your first born is mongoloid and you swear it had nothing to
with the missus being counsin Betty Jo.

6* If you have a single mark on your body, , mind, or soul from
any manifestation of violence.

7* If you have to ask for approval or permission to do anything
within the resonable bounds of freedom, decency or sense.

8* If you fear or loathe the humiliation, abuse, disdain, neglect,
regection or ridicule your spouse can subject you to.

9* If you had to give up, without compensation, your love for
your God, family, culture, country, or freedom.

10* If YOU did not join your life to your spouse's with a clean
heart, mind, body and with all the intentions of sustaining
each other.

*these are serious and harbor no sarcasm

Answer 4

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Answer 5

This is a question to ask before you get married and not a question to ask after you get married!! I can't see why people don't look for red lfags and warning signs before getting married!! You should have an did your investigation before getting married and making emotionally tides!!

Answer 6

The other person is NOT selfish and you ARE. They are the wrong person because they deserve better.

The other person is SELFISH and you are NOT. Probably knew this before you got married.

If you are both SELFISH just stick togther (save the rest of the world) and don't make kids.

That actually covers everything. Marriage requires you be giving, if you both are things WILL work.

Answer 7

have they seemed to change after the marriage into someone else. are they selfish, controlling, and narcissistic, does every thing have to be their way? are things alot different than before u married them, are they suddenly unreasonable and do they threaten to leave u when things don't go their way? are they hiding money? have they begun to lie to u, is there alot of financial infidelity and are there things u have just found out that they didn't tell u before u married them? are u feeling nothing but regret when u should be happy, does your intuition tell u something is just not quite right?

Answer 8

if yer falling OUT of love with them, but marrying the wrong person and marrying a bad person is two very dif things...marrying a bad person, well, yew kinda see...if they try to hit it from behind when yer not looking and tell yew its a disease then yewve got a prob, lol jp, like when yew start to notice that they have a hidden a agenda then maybe yew should pull away but yeah

Answer 9

If you feel the need to ask the question...then you married the wrong person.

Answer 10

When you start asking the question....

"How do you know if you married the wrong person?"

If you where with the right person you wouldn't need to ask it.!!!