I recently lost my fianceé suddendly of an illness i did not know about. he was the perfect man for me and i still cry at night thinking of him....can some one tell me how does one live after that?
2007-02-08 08:10:59 · 11 answers · asked by Lornaz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is not easy but u can do it i lost my wife several yrs. ago & sometimea I still cry because i do miss her but at least she is not suffering any more it took 4 mos. befor she died it was hell they say time heals all things well yes but they may never go away so when u think of him be thankful he is not suffering & remember the good times u had and be glad u knew & loved him because as long as u remember him he is not dead he will always live in ur heart so be happy & live like he wants u to its ok to cry a little u will hav his love forever & he has urs good luck&live long
2007-02-08 08:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by slapjack458 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You slowly and gradually heal. I buried the love of my life almost 17 years ago now - and my life has not been the same - but I have gone on. I remember those days frequently - but I live in the present. Things happen for a reason that we don't always see when we're going through them - but in the future, you may come to realize. If you want to communicate offlist - contact me. I have been there - and at the time - I didn't think I'd survive it - and sometimes it still seems like it was just yesterday that it happened - but I did go on - I have two great kids now - but the things I learned back in that time has kept me going even today.
2007-02-08 08:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by lifesajoy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart breaks at hearing that. But I can't do anything for you.
God's heart is broken for you and He can do something for you. He loves you so much. Let Him hold you right now. Give it all to Him. Rest in Him.
Take one step at a time. Start small, if you feel you can't breathe and will burst into tears.
Above all, let the grief happen the way it must happen. Everybody grieves different, nobody can tell you how long this or that should take. Don't beat yourself up about still feeling in shambles. It's okay.
2007-02-08 09:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know from experience so my heart goes out to you! I am sooo sorry to hear that.
I would say slowly but surely. There are support groups for people in your shoes, you can read up on some literature to help guide you through this troubling time, or seek counseling of some sort. I would recommend the support group cuz there will be so many people in your shoes you can relate to and talk to for support.
I think you will always remember this and even be sad to think back to this even once n if you are married etc...years from now. Hopefully in time you can move forward n meet someone to love you and who you will love as much as you deserve!!
Best wishes and God Bless...I will pray for you!
2007-02-08 08:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by tr95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost a boyfriend of mine when I was 16 years old. I know its probably not quite the same, but i feel your pain. I cried for months, like any 16 year old girl with a broken heart. I moved on after about 6 months, with the help of prozac and friends.
2007-02-08 08:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss. Here's something that may help.
Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there
I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the gentle Autumn rain
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds
In circled flight
I am the soft stars that shine at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there
I did not die
Author Unknown
2007-02-08 08:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry.
I can't tell you anything about how to move on, other than to just do it. What choice do you have?
There will be another. Honest. He's out there. Don't focus on finding him now, though - you are not in the right state of mind to do it.
Get out there and be you again. Hang out with your friends and family.
2007-02-08 08:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry for your loss- i know those words seem to have no meaning, i understand. i think you should get in to some type of counceling- i think that might help you. any type of loss is so hard to deal with- when you find you soulmate no one can ever take that persons place. hold your memories close, remember him always. my father just lost my mom in sept. he is going down hill-married for over 47yrs- it will take time. how much? no one knows how long it will take to get pass this but in time you will your own time. i will keep you in my thoughts- take care ....
2007-02-08 08:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by terry t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my goodness...hun I am so sorry. go to grief counseling....seriously. No need to live with that your whole life. I am assuming you are young and you WILL love again someday...but you need to heal yourself. Remember though...your fiancee will always be with you, watching over you and I am sure he wouldn't want you to be alone forever.
PS- Pay NO attention to what tewar... said hes an *ss.
2007-02-08 08:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry for your loss. the only thing i can say really is time is a healer you will never forget or stop loving him hel always be in your heart.
2007-02-08 08:15:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋