My boyfriend Say's that I'm insecure and jealous but he's always telling me how other women are attractive?

Question

Most of these women are my friends.

Answer 1

Your boyfriend sounds manipulative. Have you told him its no wonder that you feel like that when he talks like that? Honestly what a jerk - I'd have dumped anyone who went on and on about other attractive women.

Answer 2

is there any chance that you will bring any of these women home for some naughty fun with him? Is there any chance that they will sleep with him behind your back? If No for both of the above perhaps you are a bit insecure. But the real question is, do you have a reason to be? What else about your relationship is making you doubt you're the one for him?

Guys say stupid things all the time, "Man, Look at that", "Oh what i wouldn't do to her", "baby would you turn for that?", "Grunting sound", "Are they real?" and so on. Being comfortable enough with you to share these Man feelings and thoughts could be considered a good thing- although if he is hurting you by saying - Why cant you look like that, or She puts you to shame, or can you hold the camera while i do her - it is time to find another guy.

Answer 3

I would feel the same way you do. My husband is very conciensious of my feelings and would never say that another woman is beautiful or hot or anything. I am realistic, I know that he must be attracted to other women, of course, because I do understand I am not the only woman on the planet but I have a wonderful husband that CARES about the way I feel and watches what he says in front of me because he is kind.

You need to find a guy like that!

Answer 4

You really need to see that he's just a guy and that if he was really chasing those other girls, he wouldn't be with you. He'd be cheating on you already. It seems like he gives you a lot of complements, but if they start sounding fake, you should definitely figure this out.

Answer 5

If he's calling you insecure thats a big red flag. Dump his *** like now. Some men target insecure women because they want to feel dominant over them and because insecure women won't leave, even if their boyfriend is neglectful or abusive. If the woman they are with is not as insecure as they would like (or as they need in order to feel like a big man), they tell them constantly that they are insecure or have bad self esteem and they do things to make their girlfriends feel worse about themselves like talking about how attractive her friends are. He's hoping you start feeling like you aren't worthy of him and you stay with him just because your grateful to him. Show him just how secure you really are by showing him that you don't need the likes of him.
When someone tries to make their partner feel bad about themselves like that it means they dont respect their partner or care about them and are only in the relationship to make themselves feel better. It is also a textbook warning sign of a relationship that could become abusive.
The problem is not that he's looking at other women or finding other women attractive, that is normal and natural. The problem is that he is telling you that you are insecure. That is a big, big warning sign.

Answer 6

Is he dating those other women? why, of course he is isnt!! Then GET OVER IT. There are going to be other attractive women in the world. You are not the hottest thing on this planet. I'm sorry!

You should know that he just thinks they are cute. Thats all. You are being jealous that he is a guy and has eyes and thinks well, that there are other cute girls in the world. And you are being insecure by thinking he doesnt like you, because thinks other girls are cute.

So what if they are YOUR friends...they may very well be cuter than you. You have to face it. It hurts, but once you realize that he doesn't have any ROMANTIC or sexual interest in those other women, then you will get rid of your jealousies and insecurities..:)

Answer 7

well he wonders why you are insecure and jealous. my husband doesnt tell me the people he think are attractive he just stares at them and that makes me feel the same way if he wants you to feel beautiful and not jealous then he needs to stop checking out all of your friends and telling you ever girl that he thinks is hot it just makes him seem like a jerk and that he doesnt care about your feelings

Answer 8

Mine says the same thing to me and I tell him if he doesn't like what I have to say about it then keep his opinions to himself. I know that I am not insecure I just feel that it is rude to constantly rub it in my face what he finds attractive. If he is with you then you know he must find you attractive as well!

Answer 9

There is a difference between looking at other women and throwing/flaunting it in your face. One is natural behavior the other is disrespectful.

Your BF is being disrespectful and mean. You need to confront that behavior and if he will not adjust his behavior you will want to consider moving on.

Answer 10

if your boyfriend who is suppose to love only u keeps telling u about other women it will definitely cause u to feel insecure, basically what he is telling u is that your not enough for him or your not attractive enough for him, he needs to keep his thoughts about other women to himself.