I'm twelve and I know I'm gay. I want to come out to my friend.?

Question

It's not that hard to figure it out, as I'm very pooftacular (ie: camp).
He often jokingly calls me a the G-poof and such.
Every part of my heart wants to tell him but what if he'll hate me?
I tell him most my secrets, like one time I dreamt I'd kissed the lead singer of this band (a guy) and he didn't seem that shocked.
Should, How or when should I tell him?
P.S. I haven't told anyone else.

P.P.S. As a friend, I really love him.

How dare you, lieshaann!?
Do you think I chose all this?
Why would I want to have felt so upset coming to terms with my homo sexuality.
Congrats, you just pissed me off!

By the way to clarify, I meant I said as friend meant as friend!

Answer 1

What a dillemma.can i just say,dont listen to these idiots who say you dont know what you want at age 12.of course you do.You come to terms with it and accept it,its just the ignorant people in the world who cant.its hard coming out to the people you love for obvious reasons.but they love you for you.they might find it hard to come around to the idea at first,but they will.and those who dont,are not worth having in your life.my brother is gay.he was the most misserable boy growing up,trying to hide/fight his sexuality [although most people knew anyway..but as you say,it cant be helped.its who YOU are.when he finally 'came out',he was a changed boy.so happy.he's only 15.he's lost friends and family since coming out,but he's gained loads too.at the end of the day,the ones you lose are not worth knowing.you and your friend sound close and i doubt he will be phased.he probably already knows deep down.i wish you all the best and i admire you.good luck.

Answer 2

What you need to keep in mind is that this is your friend and as a friend he should accept you as you are and unfortunately if he doesn't then he was never a true friend to begin with.

I'm sure though he'll respect your openness and to be honest if he calls you the 'G-poof' and you've told him you dreamt of kissing a guy then I can't see it being a total shock to him and it sounds like he's already cool with it.

Don't make a big deal of it just drop something into a conversation and see what he says after all you have nothing to be ashamed about and like I said if he has a problem with it you're probably better off without him anyway.

Answer 3

DON'T TELL HIM - not yet anyway.

You might well be sure of your feelings, but at 12yrs old most boys will be far too immature for this information. If you tell him I'm afraid your going to be in for a rough ride - Its not right but unfortunately its true.

I really hope you can keep this to yourself a little while longer, for your sake.

Also 12 is very young to know tour 100% gay, you haven't gone through puberty yet or your just starting to now. A lot of things change and there are so many hormones flying around!

Just wait a couple of yrs either way.

Good luck

Answer 4

if hes the great friend that you say he is, then he should be accepting of it and get over it soon. make sure that if you only want him to know, that he knows not to tell anybody. and, youre still young. you havent experienced girls yet, so how do you know your really for sure gay? maybe as you get older, and so do the girls around you, you'll find that maybe you arent gay. you never know. but if you feel comfortable telling your friend, then tell him, just make sure that he knows that you dont look at him any more than a friend, and he wont freak out so much. Good luck!

Answer 5

Oh mate, you ought to tell him. i'm a lot older than you yet I knew at the same time as i grow to be 8 that i grow to be gay. i'm not camp. I were loopy about numerous adult adult males regardless of the indisputable fact that it has continuously been very difficult to say so. So I have loved from a distance all my existence. do not do this. purely say ... at the same time as i grow to be 12 I used to sneak out of residing house and flow and stand outside the residing house of the boy i extremely loved and fancied, and imagined that i grow to be in his room, in his mattress, etc yet I not in any respect did something about it. don't be scared. purely say it.

Answer 6

Just tell him, you silly little Brit. If he's really your friend, he'll accept you (although he may not know what to make of your feelings for him, any more than you probably do yet). Just please don't take the gay thing too seriously just yet, OK? You have some surprises in store for you over the next few years, physical and emotional, that may affect how you feel about a lot of things. But having someone you trust to talk to and confide in is worth more than all the gold in the world. As young as you both are, if you trust him, then share with him. It's better than bottling it up, then, isn't it?

Answer 7

Although you may feel that you are 100% gay & adult enough, your friend may not be so mature. 12 is a very uncomfortable age for any teenager, male or female & our hormones really are up the creek. I would leave it for a while to see how both you & your friend develop. No-one needs to get heavy at this age but we all need good friends at any age. Friends are a lot more important than sexual experiences, believe me!!

Answer 8

If he is a good friend, he'll learn to accept the fact. But within the next few years, you'll go through alot of changes, trust me, i know, my son has been going through it. He's 14 now. But he's got a way to go yet. If you are 100% sure that you are who you are, test the water first, see what his opinions are on homosexuals, then wait a few days, then tell him.

Answer 9

I think if he likes you and you are as camp as Christmas then he won't hate you for being gay. It will hardly be a massive shock compared to a really tough butch fellow coming out.
I am sure he will be fine, or at least grow to accept matters after an initial period of shock. Make sure you tell him straight away you don't fancy him or he might think you are chatting him up.

Answer 10

Hi sounds really difficult had some knowledge as work in the youth work you really need to be careful who you tell and think carefully if you can trust them as unless you have a very resilient personality it can cause a lot of misery with bullying at school. Theres loads of help lines you could phone and talk it over with some one who knows there stuff and can talk you through it do a Internet search.