Abortion...right or wrong?

Question

I am a single mum with 4 kids..me and my partner of 10 years have just split, and i know that i cant cope with 5 kids by myself....what is your opinion?

I dont have any help from friends or family...i am totally alone with no support...

And also i know i chose to have a baby but had no idea that my other half was having it off with another woman!

Answer 1

Please dont listen to these people who are slating you for thinking about this - you know your circumstances, the ages of your other children and how you can cope on your own - YOU ARE NOT WRONG TO THINK ABOUT THIS OR TO GO AHEAD WITH IT IF IT IS RIGHT FOR YOU

Answer 2

Firstly I'm a guy so my opinion on this is probably bias and i would like to say that for the best part against abortion. I think that everyone has the right to live or a chance to survive just like our parents gave us.

However, there are always exceptions to the rule. I think that if you cant support a child and that by having another you will put your other children's lives at risk - i mean lack of funding or mental ability to deal with this situation or you that your relationship has become abusive. Then for these reasons in some cases I think it can be justified.

But don't do it because you want to hurt him, you'll only end up hurting yourself further.

Answer 3

Abortion is murder. Some people will say "it's just a cell, it's not a human". Guess what? That cell is going to become a human. The only reason a woman should get an abortion is if she physically wouldn't be able to handle the pregnancy, if there is a 100% chance there will be something wrong with the child when it is born (and there is no such thing as 100%), or if she was raped. Other than that, if the excuse is she's too young, can't afford it, or some other equally absurd reason, there are two things I can say about that: 1.) Everyone knows the result of those actions and if you don't you shouldn't be doing it (not referring to you in paticular, just girls who use those excuses), 2.) there is a such thing as "adoption".
I honestly regret taking my best friend and her younger sister on a two and a half hour ride to the state line to get her sister an abortion because "she couldn't afford it".

Answer 4

i think it depends on the situation i have had 2 abortions and in both cases i don't regret them it was the best thing to do at the time nobody can tell you what to do only you can decide but my advice is if you are finding it difficult to cope with 4 kids then having another is only gonna make things worse 4 you there's no point making a bad situation worse but at the end of the day its your choice hope this helps you out

Answer 5

There is no right or wrong answer to this question. Asking it will get you answers from people ranging from "Abortion is murder. The bible says it's wrong. etc..." to "It's your body. It's your right to do what you want with it. etc...". When it's all said and done you have to do what's right for your unique situation. You have to ask yourself some tough questions such as, "Will I be able to provide for and care for this additional child? What kind of help will I have raising my four children and a new baby? How involved will my ex-partner be? What's best for me?" You have to look at this from all angles. Take yourself out of the picture. Look at the situation as though it were happening to someone else. Then step back into your shoes and look at things again. Weather you think it's right or wrong (morally, ethically, religiously, whatever.) the fact that you asked this question means you are considering your options. I wish you the best of luck in your life ahead. Try not to be influenced by others who my force their opinions on you. This is your choice.

Answer 6

Well its always going to be difficult question.
I guess the subject falls under what morals you have as a human being? how do you feel about it? what pro's and cons are there to it i guess asking someone else you feel inclined to be a part of society if everybody else decides its wrong and they can justify thier arguments then fair enough, but what about those who can see no wrong? their arguments can be just as believable so it really is up to you to decide. remember no one else but you has to live with what you may or may not do and only you have yourself to answer to people over time will forget it happened. so ask yourself how would YOU feel about it and see if you can make sense for yourself.
i personally am not against it as i trully believe there can be cercumstances which out weigh the prospect of going through with the pregnancy. you are already a mum to 4 and im sure they are beautiful children ypour pride and joy you shown yourself you can cope if it becomes too late but also i understand if you feel personally if 4 is enough.
its your choice sweetheart good luck with however you chose to go on.
xx

Answer 7

For me it would not be possible to live with having killed my baby. But you must go inside your own heart and deal with it for yourself. Studies have shown that almost all women who have had an abortion later feel deep regrets about it.
I understand that raising yet another child by yourself would be very very difficult.
My husband got brain injuries in an auto accident when I had four young kids--- I had to care for him and them all by myself. Life was VERY tough for quite a while. No money, many struggles. But now, 11 years later, the kids are pretty much grown and they all turned out wonderfully. The things we went through as a family really pulled us together and made them into mature, compassionate, capable young people.
If you truly feel you would not be able to lovingly raise the baby due to too much stress etc., adoption is such a loving alternative. People who very much long to have a child to love and nurture would be given this wonderful gift.
Please consider it. There are ways to get financial help while you carry the baby, too.

Answer 8

Wouldn't it be murder if someone shot you in the stomach and the baby died, YES, because it's a Life.. Abortion is murder. Please don't do something you will regret. Do what is best for THE BABY by putting her/him up for adoption, not what is best for you. You can't just go around getting pregnant and aborting any time it's not convenient or you can't cope. Would you be able to look at any of your kids in the eyes and say, "I can't cope with you so I'm going to eliminate you"

Please just give your kids all the attention they need by raising them and DON'T get involved with another man until those kids are grown and out of the house, then you can do with your body whatever you want. Don't make the unborn baby pay the consequences for your mistakes. Do what's best in the baby's interest.

If you were having problems with a man who never committed to marrying you, why in the world did you make another baby with him?

Answer 9

what about adoption? I am an adopted child, it is very disturbing how many people on here are looking into abortion, even more disturbing coming from a mother of 4, i have 5 children, 5 brothers and sisters, 25 nieces and nephews, my adopted parents, a whole loving family all because 6 brave biological mothers had the guts not to abort us, sometimes the right thing is not always the easiest

Answer 10

Sorry, but wrong wrong WRONG.

I know it must be really hard knowing you are going to have to cope with 5 kids, but isn't it better to give the baby life, however strained, rather than end its life because you think it would be better for it?

I think abortion is only acceptable when the baby has medical problems, but aside from that i think it is never the solution to "kill" it. Sorry to put it like that, but so many women skirt round that issue, but it is the hard truth, it is technically killing the baby!!

I know it sounds ridiculous but i really don't think abortion is the solution, but just make sure you get lots and lots of help... i really hope everything works out for you whatever you choose to do..at the end of the day only you know whats best!

Xxx

Answer 11

personally i think it's wrong, i could never forgive myself for doing that to a human life. But i think you should really go over the options before deciding anything final, perhaps the other kids would be able to help out and any support from friends and family?

whatever you do good luck!