Can anyone suggest ways to put a little more life into my relationship?

Question

Since moving in together things between me and my boyfriend have cooled off a lot. I know this is to be expected to some extent, but I think it might be going a little far. Sometimes I get pretty upset with him about it, but I have to recognize that it is probably me too. Maybe we have gotten too comfortable around each other and we aren't working as hard to appear as attractive to each other anymore. I dont know. What are some things I can do to maybe liven things up a little? The least I can do is my part, if that doesn't help then I know we have a big problem to deal with.
Some things that would be good to know:
I am on a budget, so buying lots of new clothes, lingerie and gifts are not things I can do much of
I work ten hours a day, four days a week in a military uniform, so its hard to do much to make that sexy
I go to school most of the night three days a week

Another thing that would be good to know:
He works at home. In fact, he kind of is like my house wife. That kind of creeps me out, actually, and is probably part of the problem for me. Wow, I'm making some valuable self discovery here. Good for me.

Oh, and for the record, I don't need him to afford the bills. He lives with me so we can see each other more often and because my apartment is more suited for his work than his last one was. Answer #1 is a jerk.

Answer 1

try cpr? that might help-lol.

Answer 2

Did you try to talk to him about it?
It is normal. You settle in. It happens. You get home from work, put on sweats, and watch the tube together.

Talk to him and see if he feels the same way. It doesn't mean you don't love each other, it just means the relationship is going through an adjustment phase. You are both probably tired, and working hard, and it is difficult to remember that your other "job" is each other.

Make a date night once a week, when you both have a night you can go out, that way you are plan ahead. You can get ready, and get dressed up a little, put on makeup if you like to, and go have some fun together. I think that is part of what happens (at least what happened when I was in this situation), you forget that you have to work at having fun together. Go on a date, have a few drinks or whatever floats your boat. Just spend time together and remember everything you love and enjoy about each other.

Answer 3

Sounds like you have every excuse NOT to make it interesting. But honestly, sister the best things are the small things. One time my husband surprised me and got the sitter for the kids and we took out a row boat on our lake and watched the sunset. Turns out he had stocked it with wine and blankets and I can't tell you how wonderful and simple it was to be somewhere out of the ordinary with the person I love. So, try a row boat or a picnic, or a homemade meal by candlelight. It's not so much the money, but the thought and the effort.

What does he like? Do something for him that he loves that you don't usually do. Then do something different the next week. Pretty soon, he'll be returning the favor and VOILA! it's like a breath of life into a routine relationship.

Answer 4

IF YOU ARE ALREADY FEELING LIKE YOU NEED TO SPICE THINGS UP. THIS IS SOME OF THE THINGS I HAVE DONE OVER THE YEARS.THERE IS A COUNTRY SONG CALLED"NOTHING BUT YOUR APRON ON". WELL I MADE A CANDLE LIT DINNER AND I HAD NOTHING BUT AN APRON ON. ANOTHER TIME I PUT A PAIR OF G-STRINGS IN HIS SANDWICH SO WHEN HE TOOK A BITE ALL OF THE CREW SEEN A PAIR OF G-STRINGS HANGING FROM HIS MOUTH. LEAVE LOVE NOTES TO HIM. IF YOU REALLY LOVE ONE ANOTHER ,LIVING TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE I TRULY RECOMMEND. YOU GET TO SEE THE REAL SIDE OF ONE ANOTHER.MY HUSBAND AND I JUST CELEBRATED OUR 14TH ANNIVERSARY AND WE LOVE EACH OTHER SO MUCH. BY THE WAY MY HUSBAND SAID HE NEVER SEEN A WOMEN LOOK SO BEAUTIFUL IN FATIGUES. I HOPE YOU ARE GETTING THE HINT. YOU ARE AS BEAUTIFUL ON THE OUTSIDE AS WELL INSIDE. STAY IN SCHOOL,MILITARY,AND LIVE EVERYDAY HAPPY. EVERYONE HAS A DREAM. WHAT DOES YOUR HEART SAY? IS HE WORTH THE TEARS? NO!LISTEN TO YOUR HEART & KNOCK DOWN ANYTHING THAT STANDS IN THE WAY. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 5

try to going out to places with each other, that does not require lots a money! like take him to park or something in the weekends, picknic, drive around find nice places, go hicking, or somethng - you cant just stay home and work and go to school - you need to heat things up again b/w you too somehowe.. and you know him better than we do, what does he like to do,? where does he like to go? try doing those things with him - if he likes sport surprise him by taking him to a game that he likes... and most importantly talk to him and see if he feels the same way and if so, what would HE sudgest to do to make things better again! you guys need to talk to eachother about things that you feel like is hurting your relationship! Good luck - its valentines day its a perfect opportnity for you to do something nice - drive to somewher and get away from here togehter for the wekend or soemthing -

Answer 6

Revising the theory of love could help a lot. Have you noticed if the common interests have changed? What happen to you guys having a lot of conversation? I don´t think it´s only a matter of physical attraction what it makes a matrimony to work out. There are lots of "matters" to be on the account. Make sure it isn´t a intimacy interest only (find out to yourself, first).

Answer 7

I'm not gonna say, for sure. But it sounds like he knows that you're gonna be there. Theefore he my grow use to seeing you. Think back to whan you "hooked" him, in the first place. What caused him to throw caution, to the wind? What sent him over the edge? Use that, for Valentimes Day. It's like drawing a Line in the Sand of Love. You can start fresh, as of Valentines Day. Nothin' but Love, for ya!

Answer 8

Try simple things, run his bathwater, warm his shower for him. Meet him in there when he is already in the shower. There are many little things you can do. If you pack his lunch leave notes in his lunch, or leave a note on his steering wheel telling him you love him or how sexy he is. Just a few ideas :)

Answer 9

Regardless of job and school, your relationship will go downhill without nurturing. You must spend time with him doing things both of you like. If those have become mundane then do something new - cards, movies, comedy clubs, nice dinners, etc.

Answer 10

It seems there is a time factor involved in the relationship. instead of doing the expected, do the un-expected. Be naked when he comes home or strip naked and sit on his lap. then there is the ":sweetie, my back really is sore will you rub it for me as you are reall good at that" be naked for that bit also.

Answer 11

Wear some nice lingerie!