The kids are grown my jop is done and now I leave the married one?

Question

Why should I stay married when the kids are now grown and I'm not in love with her?

Answer 1

Can you spell "mid life crisis" boys and girls?

Answer 2

Are you truly not in love with your wife after so many years, or are you just tired and worn down. This is a time when you and your wife could reclaim your lives. Do things for yourselves and each other without interruptions or having to consider other's reactions and needs. You know the saying "The grass is greener on the other side?" Well, it isn't. It's the same color, different day. If you've invested this much of your life with this woman, why not try to revive what you had in the beginning. Go on dates, call and whisper sweet nothings in the middle of the day, take her to a hotel overnight on the weekend. Find yourself and her all over again. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

I am actually in the same predicament. Kids are grown and I am just tired of trying to keep this marriage going. I have even told my husband I want out. Now he is making me out as the bad guy and my kids are not to happy with me either. But I am tired I making everyone else happy it is time for me to be happy. If you feel this way then you should go as well.

Answer 4

I'm married, kid out of the house and now I'm finding this is the best most intense part of our marrriage. Working out our future together. Financial, sexual, soulmate. Why did you get married to start with. Marrige is not a job but a commitment and relationship toward a life partner.

Answer 5

So when you took the marriage vow it was for a limited
time only, since you are not in love with her now that
kids are grown. Well you need to tell her that and see
what she says and if you still don't love her then you and
her should know what you both need to do next.

Answer 6

you have taken care of the wife and children all these years and now you want your freedom, correct?
you should do what makes you happy. the wife will be hurt and so will the children, your neighbors will be stunned, your friends will be shocked, but what will you be?
every day we make decisions that affect us and everyone around us. sometimes in this life its a hard decision but you have to make a conscious choice to change your life so that you at least have the opportunity to be happy.

Answer 7

Does she feel the same way? Talk to her because she has time invested in you too. If she doesn't feel the same, go to counseling, you did say vows and you should try everything to get back on the right track.

Answer 8

Too bad you wernt up front with your love from the beginning. You have to be happy, and sometimes that makes someone unhappy. Thats life. She will get over it, cause if you dont love her, I am sure she knows that, cause it will show.

Answer 9

You did not make a commitment to your children until after they were born. You made a commitment to her regardless if that included children in your future. If now you feel the need to break that commitment then it is up to you to decide that, not us.

Answer 10

Do whatever you feel in your mind and heart. Please be honest and human about it. AND do not be UNkind. But first, take a brief look at one of the single matchmakers online. The divorce rate is horrendous! You may not find what you may be seeking.

Answer 11

don't really think u will be as happy as u think u will be. but if u are not in love with her than set her free, as love is a choice not a feeling. love is unconditional or should be, but be fair to her and ask for a divorce if u don't love her.