a few months ago, my bf and i had a pregnancy scare...turns out everything was ok, but we got into the discussion of what would be do if i would have been pregnant? i'm against abortion...he would want me to have an abortion and says if he had a kid at this point in his life he would go crazy (literally)...we wouldn't be financially ready for a child...however, we still have sex (i'm on birth control and we also use condoms)...should we be having sex as much as we do?? what do you think i should do if i would become pregnant? basically what are your thoughts on what i'm saying??
2007-02-08 07:19:16 · 13 answers · asked by cantthinkofauseridsohereitis 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
if you dont want a kid........then dont have sex. Abortion is not a form of birth control.......and i dont know any one who can afford a baby. But you make sacrifices and some how things have a way of working themselves out. It sounds like your doing good using 2 forms of contraceptive .......good work on that.
2007-02-08 07:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, this is what I think knowning what he has told you and you have true feelings for him then you should respect his words and make sure you take those pills and don't NOT take them because you don't believe in abortions so I know if you were to get pregnant you wouldn't get that abortion and then that would lead to conflict between you and your boyfriend's relationship so you should both try to have protected sex until you BOTH are ready to have a kid and yes still continue having sex as much as yall do it's ok as long as you don't miss a pill.
2007-02-08 15:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by letsey g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are being responsible about using protection. the pill is 99% effective, and adding condoms on top of that seems like it would be even safer. if you get pregnant, it would seem like it was "meant to be". if you're against abortion and not ready for kids, you could always give your baby up for adoption. there are many mom's and dad's who desperately want a child but are unable to. or, just raise the child on your own and face the consequences of having an immature boyfriend!
2007-02-08 15:29:46 · answer #3 · answered by junebugger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are using appropriate protection and you are unlikely to have another scare. However, since the two of you are open enough to have this discussion, be sure you include adoption on your options list. If abortion is unacceptable, and being parents is untenable, making an adoption plan can the best thing for everyone involved.
2007-02-08 15:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way not to have children is by not having sex. There is always a chance you could get pregnant. If you dont want to have a child at the moment you seem to be doing all you need to do to in not having a child. but again, Not having sex is the BEST way not to get pregnant.
Good luck
2007-02-08 15:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are taking all of the necessary precautions, CONGRATS on being responsible when so many are not!!!!
As for the second part of your question, if you are against an abortion you should never be talked into one. Besides you would be surprised how both of your opinions and views would or could change if and when you are in that situation.
2007-02-08 15:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by dragonfly7887 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop having sex. he is not ready physically,mentally, finacially if u get preggo.chances are if u do become preggo he will bail. condoms, and bc pills only prevent alittle bit, havent u heard of people getting preggo from being on the pill? close ur legs until u find a guy once ur married that is ready for the responsability of u and ur kid. besides if ur young, enjoy life while u can with no regrets.
2007-02-08 15:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by cowgurlmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend went completly potty when i got pregnant, became a c**t and we've now split. he started fighting cuz he was going out all day everyday n not telling me where he was, having a go at me when i called at 4am cuz i was worried n never going out with me. anywayz, he turned round n sed he's moving out but not splitting wiv me cuz he loves me, i translated that in to, i dnt want 2 b wiv u, but i kno i can get laid with u so i dumped him. ANYWAYZ, i am still pregnant, and will b pregnant until may-ish when shes born n if he told me 2 hav an abortion i'd kill him. :) any excuse.
i dnt think he has any right tell u what u can and can't do with ur body. im not financially ready, but i got pregnant so i'll hav 2 deal with it. and anywayz, its not like ur not using any protection
2007-02-08 15:28:37 · answer #8 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to have kids just yet slow down on the sex..but atleast you are taking some precautions..no matter what though...if you were to get pregnant it should be your choice to have the child or not...
2007-02-08 15:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by kauaichic420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are being careful, have sex. however, anytime you have sex you run the risk of becoming pregnant. if you were to become pregnant, do what you want to do. it's your body, not his. if he doesn't want a child so badly, tell him that you are going to stop having sex altogether.
2007-02-08 15:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋