a few months ago, my bf and i had a pregnancy scare...turns out everything was ok, but we got into the discussion of what would be do if i would have been pregnant? i'm against abortion...he would want me to have an abortion and says if he had a kid at this point in his life he would go crazy (literally)...we wouldn't be financially ready for a child...however, we still have sex (i'm on birth control and we also use condoms)...should we be having sex as much as we do?? what do you think i should do if i would become pregnant? basically what are your thoughts on what i'm saying??
2007-02-08 07:18:51 · 9 answers · asked by cantthinkofauseridsohereitis 3 in Health ➔ Men's Health
hey there!
im dee here. you should definitely keep having sex just maybe not as much. using birth control and condoms are a great way to protect yourself. if you do get pregnent, do not go against your personal beliefs, dont have an abortion. if you are the one having the baby, dont let your parent decides what happens to him/her. believe in yourself and do what you believe is right, if you need back up, im here for you! contact me anytime! =)
-Dee
2007-02-08 07:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you become pregnant the father has absolutely no say in wether you give birth, abort, raise it yourself, or give it up for adoption. If he is unwilling to accept that, you shouldn't be having sex with him. If you become pregnant and decide to keep it, he is liable to support the child, wether he wants to or not. That's a big responsibility and a big gamble, which is why people will advise young couples to avoid sex.
You should talk to someone at Planned Parenthood about what options are available. You may be suprised. You should have that talk before you need it, rather than after.
2007-02-08 18:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have as much sex as you want...just remember to take your birth control! Remember, its up to YOU! Try taking it at night before bed, or when you wake up in the morning. If you create a routine, you won't get pregnant. I've been on birth control since I got with my bf, and we've been together for over 4 years and no babies! Good luck!
2007-02-08 15:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by luvlygrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do the crime if you can't do the time! Even with condoms and birth control, they are not 100% effective, so remember every time you have sex you are taking a risk. That risk grows every time you have sex, so just make sure you are ready to deal with what can happen, good and bad.
2007-02-08 15:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you become pregnant, be ready to support your child yourself. It doesn't sound like he's ready for a baby. I don't think you'll get prenant though. You sound like an intelligent careful person.
Lots of sex is still fine. BC and condoms control 99.9% of unintentional pregnancies.
2007-02-08 15:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not mature enough to be having sex. The two of you need to discuss what you would do should pregnancy arise and agree on it.
As for the quantity - it only takes once.
You probably were pregnant and miscarried. Very common.
2007-02-08 16:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should have all the sex you want to have. If you get pregnant, just have the kid and deal with the bf. Miranda and Steve worked things out. You and your bf can too.
2007-02-08 15:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by efriend1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't deal with the consequences he shouldn't be doing the deed.
If he's saying he strongly doesn't want a kid now, but he'd be able to do what's necessary if it happened, that's ok.
2007-02-08 15:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by tabby90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut his dick off
2007-02-08 15:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by DuBtZZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋