2007-02-08 07:00:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you don't.... there is no need to convince yourself of your own beauty.. or to focus on it at all...when you focus on looks you will always feel inadequate... no one is perfect...
if however you focus on being yourself and accept yourself for who you are and learn to laugh and work on being a good friend and neighbour a good member of society then your attractiveness to potential partners rises dramatically...
I have a friend who started out in the lower rungs of life and worked hard at building his own business and making his life a successful life, he owned his own factory a couple of houses, a four wheel drive car a boat and motorbike. as his income stabilised and became secure he turned his attention to his looks became conscoius of his diet and went to the gym regularly he became very focussed on looks... he would hook up with very beautiful women and soon become bored... he had everything to offer and no one to offer it to... he asked me for advice..
I told him I thought the problem was that he was focussing on looks... he needed to try to find a woman that was compatible, one that he shared some background with... one that he could talk with about business, and boating, and one that he could share his inner self with.... he needed a woman who was intelligent like him but also related to his poor immigrant background and could respect his hard work to build up his business....and most of all he needed to find a woman who he could laugh with...
He became very thoughful for a minute and looked at me with a softness I had never seen before and said well that would have to be you.... (I did have a mad crush on him at the time).... I stayed silent while he thought this through...
But somewhere in his head was the thought rolling around that such a successful business man needed the a woman who looked the part...
He smiled at me and said... "You know if you lost ten pounds I'd consider it... "
I smiled right back and said... "If I had to lose ten pounds then I would not consider it"
he is still looking for his perfect barbie doll.....
And me... well I am very happy in a relationship with a man who loves me just the way I am..
2007-02-08 07:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider myself to be plain, slightly overweight and not at all attractive. However I seem to have far more success at attracting men than my more attractive friends! How? I am completely myself, a total flirt and dress for my shape. I don't care what other people think about my looks, but when I have my favourite knee high boots on, a great skirt and my hair is looking good I feel like the sexiest woman in the world. That confidence comes through and I think men love a woman who doesn't put on an act - or who constantly worries about what she looks like.
2007-02-08 07:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by Jojotraveller 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm reading this book: The Fine Art of Flirting! Its wquite old but got some good tips there! Get over it, when you think yourself down. You can make yourself believe in yourself!
2007-02-08 09:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by Norah B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO JOJO!!!
I have days where i look and feel as rough as a dogs bum and i just want to hide away.
Other days however, i wake up, get myself sorted, look presentable, feel confident and attractive, and could face anything. When i'm in the confident mood, i find i am approached more, smiled at and get farer in whatever challenge of the day i am dealing with. Stance, composure and verbal communication all change.
At the end of the day, we are who we are, and it is society who decides who is considered attractive and who is not. You do not have to look beautiful to be beautiful.
2007-02-08 07:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by nik xxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By believing in yourself... no one will like you unless your contentment with who you are shines through. It's amazing what we think people see and what they actually do see... a great test and way to make yourself feel good is to walk through work/town/shops/school and just smile and people when they talk past... maybe even say hello. Make it a big, beaming smile and let your eyes do the thing theydo best...
2007-02-08 07:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by Kirralilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh no. If i replaced right into a guy I in all probability does no longer choose to date somebody like me. yet I do have enormous breasts and that's the place maximum adult adult males seem first besides so consistent with probability if I save wearing low cut back tops, i will save their interest removed from my face or no longer enable them to comprehend I actually have a sarcastic character.
2016-11-02 21:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be clean! Most people are attracted to someone who looks and smells clean and fresh and who is touchable and kissable all over.
There are other things of course like being friendly and nice, wearing alluring clothing and fixing your hair. And being positive
2007-02-08 07:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by jupiter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first have to convince yourself then it dose not really matter what others think.
2007-02-08 10:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by mcspaner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by loving yourself and then everyone will be able to see that . loving yourself is very sexy and attractive to the other sex!
2007-02-08 07:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by shortyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smile! dress well! smell good and feel confident! THAT does it all! and a few pints helps too makes ya feel the bestest woman eva! works for me!
2007-02-08 08:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋