Every time I try to talk to my bf he says we just don't get along anymore. I say we need to communicate to get along. He says we don't communicate because we don't get along. Every time we have a disagreement he says we should break up. The next day he acts like nothing happened. He doesn't ever initiate sex anymore. He has lied to me. We have a 9 month old baby. He makes all the money - with the biz I helped him start. I'm a stay at home mom. When I ask him what he wants or what we should do he says "I don't know." Is this a lost cause?
2007-02-08 06:59:03 · 15 answers · asked by gail s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It certainly is, you're not attractive to him anymore, plus he probably is one of those guys (although "BOY" would be a better word) who thinks that the baby is getting more attention than himself.
It's pitiful - He's pitiful and more than likely is screwing someone else. A tell-tale sign is when he's takes every opportunity to say it's over.
I feel for you and hope that you'll be able to fend for yourself and your baby when he decides to call it quits.
2007-02-08 07:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by Slim Shady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll say this, when somone says we should break up, over a disagreement thats not a good thing for future outlook. It's not something you should say unless you mean it. You deffinetly need to communiate. If you don't you have nothing. I know that i hate when my boyfriend and i argue and then the next day he acts completly normal. That drives me crazy... All the guys I've ever dated have done that, i think it's just that they like to avoid confrontation. If he's lied to you I think it's time you start considering your options. Also if he used to initiate and doesn't anymore something isn't right. Did all this recently start? the lieing? Alls i can say is give it your all if he means that much to you which he obviously does and if he doesn't respond it's time to think about moving on.
2007-02-08 07:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by CandyCane1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to hear it but it sounds like a lost cause...you cant make something work that isnt gonna work and when both the partners in the relationship arnt trying to make it work then it becomes a lost cause. I dont know shouldnt be a sufficent answer for you and it sounds like he just dosent care anymore but dont jump to conclusions. Sit him down and dont take i dont know as an answer...you need to talk it out and come to a conclusion on either whats wrong in the relationship or if it isnt going to work anymore. Your trying and hes just obviously not. But stay friends cause it will help the baby in the future...it needs a mom and a dad. Good luck.
2007-02-08 07:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by chelzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why there are marriage certificates. You can't have the luxury of being a stay at home mom. If he says this every time you argue, someday he will leave and then who's sofa are you going to be sleeping on? Go get a job and sock some money away for just that time. If it never comes then use it for a wedding. If it was just you and him I never would push marriage but you have a child and in the grown up world they come first!
2007-02-08 07:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me its a loss cause. be thankful that you are not married to him, and found out that he does not want to work out the problems with you. and he's looking for an excuse to break off. do it and ask for child support so he can at least take some responsiblity for your child. The only person right now that you should be thinking of is your child. give her a good and stable home where there is no fighting all the time. and you need to find a guy that will give you the respect that you deserve. good luck.
2007-02-08 07:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like he has lost interest in you,sorry.but if he has not he must have found some1 else and he is hiding it from you.You are very right that you should communicate so as to get along,without that there is little hope of you ever going to be together,well the only thing keeping him there is the baby.So try to keep some distance 4 a while,he might get his bearings back BUT he might also go 4 good. good luck!!!
2007-02-08 07:14:48 · answer #6 · answered by oskido 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are trying to talk to him and he is not putting any effort at all. Maybe he stressed cause of work and the new baby I think you should seek counseling and if he wont go then he just does not give a sh!t and I would move on you deserve better.
2007-02-08 07:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honestly it seems like ur relationship is over. Maybe u two should have a break and see what happens next. After the break u and him will truly know what is left of the relationship.
2007-02-08 07:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to make a relationship work. It sounds like he wants out but for you to make the first move. Talk to a relationship counselor so that you know your choices. If it does come down to leaving him make sure that your baby gets the child support from him.
2007-02-08 07:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't want to try to make it work you all are not going to make it work. There is nothing else you can do. Just make sure he takes care of his child and you move on because you deserve more than that.
2007-02-08 07:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by kiki_t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋