There are only two of us in my little professional services firm. She is an excellent support person and i don't want to lose her. We have fallen in love and I have fathered her two children. We generally get along well togethe and have wild and incredible sex. But i feel committed to my sex hating wife and 4 kids (3 are in college now). As far as I know, my wife doesn't know of the affair. How can we end something so passionate? Can we still work together?
2007-02-08 06:56:10 · 40 answers · asked by Willy179 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say that unless it is a mutual decision to end such a long standing affair that it won't be easy. I don't see how your wife and not know of this if it's been going on for 17 years, you may be good but nobody is that good for that long. She probably has chosen to look the other way if you are financially supportive and emotionally supportive, she's letting you get your sex elsewhere. You need to set down and have a long chat with your wife and your assistant (and not at the same time). Perhaps seeking counseling for yourself will help you to deal with this very emotionally difficult time. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-08 07:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a mess! Well, how can you end it, I mean you can, but to be a good father to the 2 kids you have with her, you need to tell your wife...You cant keep the kids a secret forever.
I think you need to talk to your assistant, and tell her that you are gonna tell your wife...If you and her or so close talk about this.
You wife deserves to know the truth though...and that is what you have been doing at work for the past 17 yrs, she needs to know about the other kids...You may not have to make any choices, she may make them all for you! As far as you still working together, that will be up to her probably, and if she can handle being around you, after the affair has ended, and you are the father of her 2 children. And Your wife, if you tell your wife all this...will she want you to work with her anymore? Probably NOT!
Honesty, is the only way you can go now...Be honest...you have to be, if you ever want to be released from all this. Its going to hurt alot of people, but the truth will set you free.
Wishing you lots of luck...
2007-02-08 07:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by ~Annette~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me, Your wife doesn't know for 17 years meaning she's probably having her own little affairs as well and that you don't know! Sex hating wife, that's weird coz she might be sex loving wife somewhere else without you knowing. You commited to your wife and she doesn't give you satisfaction? Come on your wife doesn't know because she just doesn't care about you nor really love you, she's using you! Get a divorce and marry your assistant! Orelse if you leave your assistant, she will tell your wife and you will end up with nobody!
2007-02-08 08:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ian Smith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convert to one of those religions where you can have multiple wives. Move your wife, mistress and all your kids into a big house.
I don't think it will be that easy to end it with your assistant. She'll feel used and abused. She'll tell your wife and go after you for child support.
You have a commitment to your wife and you don't want to hurt your other kids...
I would say, just keep your mouth shut and continue the affair.
2007-02-08 07:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by •√¡rgő• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks to be you. Karma will pay you back for cheating on your wife all these years and cheating the 2 children you fathered with your assistant out of a loving family home. What a horrible thing to do for so long and what an awful person you must be.
2007-02-08 07:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut your thing off. That way we don't have to worry about you making any more children without a REAL MAN for a father.
You have four at home (but she hates sex)
And two from the bimbo (Do thoes two kids get a real father)
No none do because you just be poking and banging
They have a father that is a BIG self-centered LITTLE boy that likes to get his thing wet and don't thing about the consequences.
Keep your description acurate, you are not dad or a father, you just a selfish seeder. Please just cut it off socity don't need overgrowen BOYs we need MEN. Loser
2007-02-08 07:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a disturbing question, what a disturbing person you are. You are living a double life, and because your wife has sex issues you've been seeing the other woman for 17 years and fathered her children, oh my gosh, dude, you need help and the 2 women in your life need to see each others side, and leave you high and dry. Work together? oh for petes sake, thats your issue? oh i can't answer this one, what a cheater
2007-02-08 09:32:38 · answer #7 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no possible way you will be able to look at this woman and just keep it on a professional level because of everything that has happened within 17 years of being her boss. You may be fine with it because you at least have someone to go home to but this woman who is very much so in love with you may find it harder to cope because she's the one who has the empty bed at night. My advice if you want to stay with your wife will be for you to let this other woman go because there will be to much temptation that you won't be able to resist.
2007-02-08 07:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by bettyspagettii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask this AFTER 17 years! You need major help! Have the balls and either end the affair or tell your wife so she can move on and get rid of a scum bag like you!
2007-02-08 07:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T BE QA FOOL
OF CROUSE SHE KNOWS
just because she has not left you that does not mean she does not know why don't found out maybe she is having her own affair as for your assistant you two need to talk after all this time you must have some respect for each other so be honest
and you also need to be honest with yourself
STOP USING THESE WOMEN
2007-02-08 07:10:03 · answer #10 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋