how do i stop depending on her?

Question

i have a friend for almost 6 years now and i feel so dependent on her. she is much older than me. and the thing is i dont really have other friends rather than her who knws me well enough. but lately, as in the past two days i feel that she is ignoring me and i feel so down. so please help me to stop being independent on her and to try to do things my way and my style. please i need to start standing on my own two feet...but how do i go about. i feel really low cause of the way she is treating me lately...we swore to be close always...why the distance now..please advice

Answer 1

hello
try to start every thing again find new friends but i think you don't need to tell EVERY THING to ANY best friend that you have got have a few nice friends but always have God next to you
you'll never have any problem dear friend
God is the only one who always sees you hears you feels you and loves you more than any one else
talk to your God you feel better than ever, safe and independent to every one except your GOD
Good luck
i hope you think about what I said and hopefully reach what your thinking of(even better than that)
bye bye
and about your friend stop being dependent on her
seriously
just as someone who wants to help
bye bye

Answer 2

Sweet_ang,
I hear so much pain and feel so bad that you feel so abandon. I think you should see a counselor, if your confidence is so shallow that your friends abandonment has you so shaken you need to work on you. You sound like someone who is very sensitive and maybe she just has something right now that is consuming all her attention but because you need her you feel it means you did something wrong or she is mad at you, don't just jump to that conclusion. Wait and see what is really going on before you make up your mind the friendship is over. In the mean time though you need to make yourself feel better and you need to get help with that. We are our own worse critics I know if you spoke to a professional you'd see that only you are holding yourself back from being the independent person you crave to be. You sound so desperate to be that person too so I have no doubt that you will be, you just need help with direction is all.
If your friend is a true friend she will not leave you just hanging there she will be there to help you find your independence too.
Goldie

Answer 3

well, its pretty hard when you only have one person that you can connect with, because if that goes bad, then what? i'd try making more friends, and tell this person how you feel and that you don't like the way that she is treating you. tell her that you really cherish the friendship and she means a lot to you and you don't want anything bad to happen to the friendship. in the meantime, you shouldn't depend on other people to make or break your life. it never works out. try making more friends, and also try learning how to enjoy life alone, because there will come a time when the only person you've got is YOU.

Answer 4

Well confront her that your sorry for being so dependant you should try getting a job or something that helps you on your way to your independance and you learn a lot. Try finding a room and sharing responsibilities here's a site on how to become independant and also a link in there on how to be yourself good luck!

Answer 5

XxX♥ First, I would ask her why she is ignoring me. Friends don't do that to eachother & they're supposed to be there for you. Second, I would realize that you ARE an adult & you can't depend on someone when you're an adult. She has a life of her own & can't always be depended on. Maybe she's afraid she'll let you down, cuz you're always depending on her. Tell her you're sorry & tell her you're going to try to be more independent, cuz you need to find your own strength. Otherwise, you won't be able to pick yourself back up when things go wrong.♥XxX

Answer 6

I suppose that fren of urs is not that mature yet. Sorry to say that, maybe she feels very frustrated or bothered by you at times because of ur over-dependence on her. As she have her own problems, work, studies, etc.

Try giving her, her own personal space. Everybody needs their own private time.

I believe that fren of urs will feel happy for you to if you van socialize more and make more frens, rather than being with her all the time yah?

All the best!

Answer 7

She is probably getting tired of doing things for you. This is good that you want to be more independent. The best way to go about is to do the things you normally have her do for you yourself. If you don't understand something ask people like you did here.

Answer 8

Do you get that feeling to just call her because you have no one else to talk to.They have their own life and you have yours. Think of your relationship as a advice line. What I'm doing right now is staying home, letting him call, and we still talk but don't hang out as much. When we do hang out though we have a blast instead of getting tired of each other.

Answer 9

talk to her. tell her how u feel. hopefully she will tell u wats up. and try get some new friends. or back up friends at least :)
and wiv the 'my way' thing. Do it steadily, do things bit by bit.
thats what i did anyway XD

Answer 10

Friend always has its highs and lows.i'm sure she has her own reasons for that.if u really wanna start to be on your own feet,
start making other friends,just for fun.Then stick to the good ones,the group that suits you.Then i guess,you'll be ok