Ok, so i made a plan to leave an abuser, now i need a plan to stay gone. Any advice?

Answer 1

Yes, my wife is a advacate for abused and battered women, but this isn't the only thing groups like this help with. Honestly, 75 percent of women in that kind of relationship end up dead or seriously injured upon making the choice to finally leave. I urge you to not talk with him and leave as fast as you can. the main thing is he will either change, which doesn't happen often. I m case i made it an effort to not act or think like i would ever wnat to abuse a women for any reason. It's easy and 98 percent free or totally free they will give housing to you and any childern, including clothes and food until you manage to make it on you feet. Use the phone book to find the number and give it a call, heck they'll even come pick you up! Great part is he'll never know where you are so that he can't hurt you emotionally or physically. I don't even know the location of where my wife works!

Answer 2

you Willl be able to stay gone depending on your self worth, because if u had any self worth u would know this is abuse and that no one deserves this, but after being in an abusive relationship so long we tend to look at the thing as somewhat normal a thing, as maybe not so bad. to get free of this boost your self esteem, get a job, attend some self help groups where u can make friends with others in your shoes, get educated on just what abuse is and why it is bad. sure he will try to lure u back to him with all kinds of promises, but what u have to decide is do u want this to be your life or do u want a better life? do u want to be your own girl or do u want him in your face the rest of your life abusing u hurting u. often times women go right back to the abuser due to fear of her future, and financial problems. so get yourself some kind of job, get some kind of therapy, and know u don't belong to him.

Answer 3

Just stay away from him and never go back. Make sure he cannot find or bother you. Go to http://www.drphil.com and email him for help in this situation as well. You also need counseling and help for what you have been through so you can start to heal. I give you alot of credit for taking that first step and getting out and away from the abuse! More women should be more like you! I am so proud of you girl and here comes lots of hugs your way. Whatever you do stay away from him and NEVER go back!

Answer 4

Get a job,
Then get a second job,
and then maybe a part time job and slip in some night school.

That way you don't ever have worry about what to do?
You can always care for a family (once you make enough)

Part of putting up with an abuser is being to lazy to get three jobs.
Three jobs is truly the path to the promised suburbs and it is worth it.

Made-it

Answer 5

Get a job and if your afraid of him , put a restrainer on him. You need to follow through with your plans, move to woman shelter until you get you a job and get set up in your on place, that is if your short on money. How to stay is up to you if you still love him and don't want to stay gone then go back and take whatever punishment he puts out, it's up to you. . Your the only one that has to make yourself stay gone, if that is what you want. best of Luck
Happy Valentine day to you.

Answer 6

Don't cave in to the feeling of panic that will come once you're gone. Don't think about the lonliness. Remember that really, you were all alone before, this is no different, other than you won't have anybody treating you like dirt anymore. Keep putting one foot in front of the other, just like a baby learning to walk, and you'll do just fine.

Answer 7

Threaten to get a restraining order, and if that doesn't work then really get one. I'm not kidding about this. You need to protect yourself if you really want an abuser to stay away.

Answer 8

Call your local Women's Shelter, if you can't find a number, try calling the local hospital and they will get you in touch witha shelter. The shelter can provide transitional housing as well as counseling and other support services to help you make this couragous change.

Answer 9

Please don't allow yourself to be in this relationship. You deserve better, never settle for anything less. It will not be easy but you have to want better. Go out with friends, visit family, pamper yourself, do some volunteer work, get more spiritually grounded. Find something to your liking and stick with it. Someone will come into your life (don't go looking) that will be deserving of you and your heart.

Answer 10

Good for you! My question is define "staying gone". Are you wanting out of your state, or in hiding completely? What status are you wanting to accomplish? Let me know!