I've been with my b for 2 years.he gave me a ring 3 mths ago. However, I discovered he's been flirting extensively with a female co-worker for the past 4 mths. they've met several times at her place for hrs. he'd tell me he's going to his friends but he'd go hang out with her. She tried made 3 passes at him but he pushed her away he told me. He says he's just very comfortable around her, they think alike and he likes her. says he was flattered by the attention she gave him and never wanted to do anything sexual with her.yet I feel cheated, I'm hurt and I can't trust him anymore.He says he loves me and that is why he is with me. he promised to stop the flirt and avoid that girl as much as hecan. The girl has not given up on him. she still email him and behaves as if she owns him.He never clearly told her to bakc down because he wants to maintain good work relationship. they work in the same room and chat all day long and i'm afraid the flirting will resume.. i dont know if i should go?
2007-02-08 06:16:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the flirting continues because of your guy then you should do what you think is best for you. You should know this.....two people of the opposite sex can work together in the same room or office and keep things professional regardless of their personal feelings if this is what they wish. In other words, if I loved my wife and she loved me, do you think for one moment I would jeopardize my relationship with her by allowing myself to become involved with some co-worker? Love is where the heart is.......don't forget this. So where is your heart and where do you think his heart is? If you do not know for sure about him then ask him and evaluate your feelings and see if his actions back up his words. Then act accordingly and listen to your heart. Your heart will never deceive you.
2007-02-08 06:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now let me see, he enjoys flirting with her. He enjoys hanging out with her at her place for hours. He lies to you. He likes the attention that she gives him. He is very comfortable around her. He receives emails from her. He wants a good relationship with her. They think alike and he likes her. He never tells her to get lost and that he is committed to you.
But yet, he loves you, has promised to stop flirting and avoid her, as much as possible. He hasn't had sex with her (Ha Ha).
Are you nuts? Is this the kind of person that you want? Let her have him. He is full of himself and he is a joke and will do her the same way he is doing you.
Do you really not know what to do????????
2007-02-08 14:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I was in the same situation last week. My boyfriend's ex girlfriend suddenly called him out of the blue. They'd talked before but it was over 5 months ago. But the first thing she sent him was a dirty text message. He didn't respond to it, but nor did he say anything back to her. Then, one night he was sleep and she kept calling and calling, then she sent him another text message calling him her jewel. I woke him up at 3 o'clock in the morning and told him to tell her, and I left it at that. The next night, she texted again. So I took the situation in my own hands. I texted her back told her we'd been dating 2+ years and are having a child together and that I didn't appreciate her sending him messages or calling him in the middle of the night. The next day she sent a text message cursing me out b/c she was upset and he told her don't call him anymore. Also, if your man insists that she is a friend ask him can all of you have lunch, one day. If she knows about you this shouldn't be a problem, if she doesn't it will.
2007-02-08 14:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's dedicated to you, it's very inappropriate for himto be at her house for hours on end or even for a few minutes. He wants both worlds: he likes her attention and he likes the stability of your relationship. Just the fact that he's lied to you means you can't trust him, and if he cared for you at all he wouldn't be telling you he likes this girl or flirting with her. Take it from me, my exhusband started out that way with his secretary and now they're married. It hurts, but better now than wait until you are married and trapped with three kids that will be hurt, too.
2007-02-08 14:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by redheadedemt_1972 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I just can't trust a guy who goes over to another girls house that he flirts with for hours and says nothing went on. He has to CLEARLY tell her to back off or I would think he has been lieing to me the whole time.
2007-02-08 14:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is your gut telling you? Go with your gut feeling!! How would he feel if it was you doing that to him. I don't know you or him but I can see a player in the works and you don't need to get played!!
Ah remember the song to the left to the left!!!
Make sure he knows not to think for one second he can't be replaced!!! What is trash to one is treasure to another!! Keep a careful watch on his actions. Specifically if he comes home from a chat with her and heads straight for the shower!!!
2007-02-08 14:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by stefanibrown74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best answer comes from your gut,not to be confussed with your heart.its a different feeling ,like the one that tells you dont go into a financial deal with a stranger ,because he will rob you blind.but keep your eyes open all the time if you choose to stay and then decide if you want to live that way,good luck in life.concrete
2007-02-08 14:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by ron d 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave. If she is that persistent then they had to have had sexual relations. If you slept with a man wouldn't you want him way more than if you hadn't? You will never be able to trust him if they work all day together. Get out while you can!
2007-02-08 14:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember together we achieve more and work is a way of replenishing knowledge,that might be the only case that exist between them coz ur thought might be different from what is ensuing between them so becareful of not loosing ur lifepartner to someone else.u can leave if and when u catch him red handedly cheating on u,becareful once more.
2007-02-08 14:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by olawale michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be able to firmly tell her they work together and NOTHING more. If he's unable to do that....Then you need to tell him, the same thing. If it continues, then YOU are HIS loss. Because you are strongly affected by his behavior, and you wont tolerate it. Make that clear to him. He's a big boy, and needs to make a choice, as to what's really important in his life.
2007-02-08 14:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋