Do you get married because you love each other or because it is the right thing to do?
2007-02-08 06:13:46 · 30 answers · asked by LostinLove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm in love of course
2007-02-08 06:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are many things people can do. Some are right and some are wrong according to the way the individual is raised and their morals and/or values. Your question does not have a definitive answer for all people. Instead, only the individual you ask could answer for himself or herself according to their definition or perceptive of marriage. Is it the right thing to do? Could it be the wrong thing to do? If one is in love should the person get married or not? If both agree then the answer is yes. If both do not agree then the answer is no. There are individuals who live together and are very happy and love each other very much. The same is true of people who are married. Think about it.
2007-02-08 14:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because we loved each other, and we had no kind of serious objection to marriage as a social convention.
We would love each other the same no matter what, but we chose a simple ceremony and that was that.
Regardless that it may be the "right thing to do," that wasn't really a big consideration for us.
2007-02-08 16:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not a game or a way to try to "fix" something. It should be viewed as a SERIOUS, LIFETIME COMMITTMENT. It is not something you do because you're "hot for someone" or because the sex is good. Couples should not get married until they have received pre-marital counseling in order to make sure they are both on the same page about what each one expects from the marriage and that they understand that the "honeymoon phase" does NOT last forever, so they need to be sure they truly are ready to commit to one another "for better or WORSE", because there WILL be worse. They also need to understand that in order for a marriage to be successful, there can be NO "self-centeredness". Two people get married to "become one", but it's the "becoming" that's the hard part and most couples now a days aren't willing to stick it out.
2007-02-08 14:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Marriage takes two dedicated people to work on it. It's like a garden, you are always having to weed and maintain it or it will get out of hand. Love is not enough for a marriage. It takes lots of patience, understanding, common sense, and communication to name only a few. Get married when the thought of not seeing that person when you are old and grey and too decrepit to have sex makes you ill. If you are doing it b/c its the "right thing to do", that terminology in itself says to me it's not b/c you can't live without each other.
2007-02-08 14:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by redheadedemt_1972 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
for a happy marriage you get married cause you love and want to be with the person. think: is this someone i want to spend the rest of my life waking up to and going to bed with. . i been married 17yrs. been with him 21 yrs and i married cause i wanted to. i love him and cant picture life without him. hes my bestfriend, my lover, hes my world. when u find someone like that u will know marriage is the right thing. if u dont feel that way then run for the hills...lol
2007-02-08 15:13:07 · answer #6 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I married because we love each other, we are best friends and, we are committed for life. We wanted to raise children, have fun, and be with each other. I can't think of any other better reasons. We have been married for 29 years next month and were still having fun and it was the right thing to do.
2007-02-08 14:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
isnt getting married the right thing to do if you are in love? that is why i did it.. now it is give and take.. i give 90 he gives 10..just kidding.. marriage is wanting to spend your life with someone and sharing all the ups and downs. it means growing together, constantly learning about each other... it shoud be fun and serious and you should always feel that you are needed and wanted.. i am glad i got married and 18 years on i have no regrets.. it is hard to be married, alot of work and alot of give and take.. but well worth it..
2007-02-08 14:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by hcat 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Marriage is a meeting ground of two people and it is only the right thing to do if you are in love. No other reason is sufficient for marriage.
2007-02-08 14:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
a lifelong, intimate, relationship consisting of two soul mates who share all of life's experiences together..are each other's lover and best friend...
Love is the only thing that should be considered..I loved someone and let his past and external factors come between us..I regret it I wanted to marry the guy and we could have had everything I described above and so much more
2007-02-08 14:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't know I've never been in love. Just when I think I am they go and do something stupid, like cheat with her boss. Haven't found one worthy enough to call my wife. So to me marriage is a buncha of B.S. I preffer to be the guy that they run around with, instead of the one waiting at home for his girl. In fact, I was just with a girl who is engaged a couple weeks ago. She tells me she broke up with him and she is not wearing the ring anymore. Then she said she wanted to come home with me. She is hot, so I said ok. Well needless to say, they are still together and still plan on getting married. Hmmm, better him than me...LOL
2007-02-08 14:22:36 · answer #11 · answered by Daniel R 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋