Is it okay to kiss your friend (opposite sex) on the lips even if you're in a relationship with someone else?

Question

My best friend and I (opposite sex) have kissed each other on the lips. While I am happily engaged, I'm not sure if this is okay. There is no sexual attraction between the two of us whatsoever and neither of us see the potential of a sexual/dating relationship. We just wanted a way to express our love towards each other (which is more like family than a boyfriend/girlfriend). Is it considered cheating since it was only intended as a friendship kiss and there is no intention of going beyond that? Also, do you have any experience with this type of situation? Would you mind sharing?

Answer 1

it all depens on the feelings behind it... and ofcourse the length of the kiss....
i got a friend (opposite sex too) and when greeting there usually is a kiss on the lips in stead of the cheek... even though at some point both of us were in a relationship...
but neither of the partners were aware, which might make a difference.........

Answer 2

If you felt comfortable with this you wouldn't be asking, I think you are trying to convince yourself. In the country I live a quick kiss on the lips (more a peck) with a close friend, relative say on parting is the done thing. If it was just like this I don't think you would have a question. Sounds more like a lingering kiss......you say more like family..........when does anyone kiss family on the lips other than the usual perk? Who are you trying to kid? In times of happiness or stress etc it is normal to see family members tightly hugging as a loving or comforting gesture but NEVER spending time on each others lips. If you are so sure of your love for this person and want to demonstrate it and certain it is not sexual there are ways to show it as in kind gestures, complimentary words etc. If you are hell bent on the 'kissing thing' do as in Europe. The Continentals on meeting/departing kiss each other warmly on each cheek.

Answer 3

It is not proper to kiss anyone on the lips unless you are in a relationship. A kiss on the cheek will be good enough to express your love for a dear friend of the opposite sex. Lip kisses should be for your partner only. I have male friends ( I am female) and a friendly kiss on the cheek with a hug is what friends do. I wouldn't call it cheating, I would call it not showing respect for your future spouse. Save your sweet lips for your lover.

Answer 4

Im a girl and I kissed my gay friend, who is a boy and my boyfriend was kind of unhappy.
I understood why and that was because if I didn't see my mate in a romantic light, then why use the sort of guesture that you would with someone you do see in a romatic light.

For example, I wouldn't really kiss my brother on the lips anymore, definately not how I kissed this mate, so then why is it okay to kiss him on the lips like that???

But it all depends ontrhe situation, but if you did feel weird abou it, then that is a good starting point for thinking it is probabyweird

Also, how would you feel if it was your fiancee kisses a girl who was just a mate? just something to thinkn about

Answer 5

I never had this type of situation and if I had a bf who did this I would not like it but that's me. I think it depends on how your partner feels about it. You could kiss them on the cheek that would be more acceptable I don't think it is cheating at all cause you two are not attracted to each other but it might make your partner feel uncomfortable

Answer 6

Because you are now engaged, true their your friend, but your fiance would not agree with that I'm sure. I always put it as if the guy you were kissing is your fiance and you are his friend, in other words put your self in his shoes. A thing my boyfriends family does is kiss on each cheek, it's sweet without crossing somebody's line. Try it out with your friend and see if it works.

Answer 7

It is said that a question cannot answer a question but the only thing that comes to mind is a question when I read your question and your answer to my question will answer your question (lol... if you're not totally confused by now).

How would you feel if your best friend or some friend of your husband kisses your fiance on the lips (knowing that they are just friends - of course)?

Answer 8

I kiss my best friends husband on the lips. She is right there and she has no problem with this, he is my friend to and I love him as a friend, nothing more. I don't make out with him just a quick kiss on the lips. I see nothing wrong with it. If your boyfriend has a problem he should mention it to you and then you could go from there.

Answer 9

you being engaged changes everything. if you had a girlfriend.......it might be considered. but engaged means a-lot. if you are sure that all you feel toward her is family-like attraction, you should stick to cheek kisses. if there's more.....well.....you should do something about that engagement.

i have had a like experience.one of my best friends who was a guy and me kissed while i had a boyfriend. it was a little more than just friendship. we realized that we had feeling for each other. so, i broke up with my boyfriend. he wasn't mad, just glad that i told him the truth.

Answer 10

I don't think its a good idea to do something like that because you're asking for trouble! There's nothing wrong with maintaining a friendship with him, but I wouldn't kiss him! You're already involved in a serious relationship with someone else, so if I were you, I would think twice! Besides, don't jeopardize your relationship with your fiance over something so little! Good luck and congragulations on your engagement!