2007-02-08 06:02:38 · 10 answers · asked by Smuckers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a terrible feeling.
2007-02-08 06:34:14 · update #1
No, once I married my husband, that was it. I don't even look at the opposite sex that way anymore. You start thinking it then you might do it. To me, it's the ultimate betrayal to cheat or even consider it.
2007-02-08 06:05:34 · answer #1 · answered by slo1970 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with the first and third responses. It's normal for people to have crushes even after making a life-long commitment, and sometimes it's not adaptive or even appropriate to try to simply deny those normal feelings.
However, if you think this crush really feels like love, it could mean a few different things:
1) Your love for your spouse may not have ever developed as much as you once thought it had.
2) You really are falling in love, and your marriage may eventually have to end.
3) Your own emotional security is lagging a little, and you might benefit from talking to someone professionally about what it is you feel like you need that is driving you to become attracted to others.
4) It could be a combination of the above too I guess.
I would be as honest about this as possible. Something has to happen, and the more covert you are, the messier it gets.
2007-02-08 06:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your chum ought to cope with him like he's married because really, he's married. Off limits. If he's prepared to cheat then he's a liar and yep, a cheat. He also has no credibility or integrity and does not deserve his spouse and likely youngsters. not something solid ever comes from having an affair with yet another human being who's in touch or married. His authentic sturdy inclination is in the route of being stupid. If he must be unmarried then he ought to get his thumb out and be unmarried. Your chum ought to do properly to save herself quite a number of emotional soreness via completely ignoring this guy.
2016-12-03 21:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is very possible to think u don't love your spouse anymore and feel u love another. usually your not getting something u think you need out of your marriage, but as long as your seeing or planning things for your future with this other person u will never see your spouse the way u should. our feelings are our emotions and we should do our best to try to control our emotions as they sometimes guide us down the wrong roads in life. forget this other person chances are it's only lust, and once that lust wanes your going to want your spouse back again, and that may just not be possible.think before u leap into anything.
2007-02-08 11:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i am currently dealing with the same problem. I hate having these feelings but I cannot get him out of my head. He has the same feelings as me (or so he says) and we talk online alot and see eachother around town alot. It is hard to fight temptation, but I have a marriage of 10 years to think about and 3 wonderful kids. I do think you can def have feelings for two men at the same time.
2007-02-08 09:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people are always attracted to other people. Bottom line is you are married. If you want to keep it that way, tell youself what you are thinking is wrong. The grass always appears to be greener on the other side. Once you jump to the other side you mostly hear horror stories of how much better you once had it.
2007-02-08 06:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by hank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's called treading in deep water.
2007-02-08 06:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Nunya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes only once shes gone now
2007-02-08 06:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by wrfab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I hate those comflicting feelings, it happens
2007-02-08 06:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by Sxoxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
2007-02-08 07:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋