I'm quiet, but i'm easy-going. Sometimes i feel like i don't have much of a personality, just kinda boring. Alot of people think i'm boring. I feel so horrible all the time because i'm quiet even around family members, that's just my personality. I wish i was more talkative, truly i do. I think that's why i have depression, i can't stand how quiet i am, i try to change but i just can't. What can i do? Do men even like quiet women?
2007-02-08 05:57:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Every man has his preference. some like quiet women, some like loud women, some like ordinary women.
2007-02-08 06:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by Soji Guy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, they definately don't dislike them! Read 'Men Are From Mars, Women are From Venus' (or take an interpersonal communications class in college) to get an understanding of why men don't relate to very talkative women. You already have one advantage there!
That said, boring is boring. I don't mean to be mean by that, but perhaps you need a litte assertiveness training. I'm sure you're not a boring person. You probably see zero value in small talk don't you? However, you need to realize when it's necessary to kick-off or continue a conversation and the benefits you can get from that. You may need to get some help in this area - try not to be so analytical and let yourself go a bit.
I'm no expert, technically. Just my observations from having conquered this very problem. I wish you the best.
2007-02-08 06:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Tymothy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each to their own. You say you're a quiet person, I'll bet that makes you a very good listener. Too many people talk without saying anything at all anyway. Embrace who you are and concentrate on your good qualities...we all know you have them.
As for your question, though it's really quite general, I do believe that there are men who truly would appreciate a quiet person.
Maybe when you've met the right one, you'll open up more and knock him off his feet.
2007-02-08 06:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the man's preference. I suggest that women stay away from grouping all men together by saying: Men like or Men eat or Men don't. Like you, we are all different. There is no magic formula to figure us all out. Some of us are dumb, some smart, some black, some white, some gay, some straight, some from NYC, others from MIA, some listen to rap others to jazz, some like racing, some like volleyball, etc... We are all different. Perhaps you should concentrate on the type of man you like rather than worry about if a man likes you based on how quiet you are or aren't. I am sure you have a lot to offer. Sometimes it's the quiet ones that are the smartest. They allow the talkative ones to put their foot in their mouths first.
2007-02-08 06:09:58 · answer #4 · answered by Drew 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem...sometimes people feel quietness = boring... but often it means that the person values connections with people more than vapid/meaningless talk... I'm quiet yet I have hobbies or do things that might surprise more outgoing people (belly dancing!)... sometimes we have to force ourselves out of our comfort zones or people will just not bother with us, and that would be a shame as we all have a lot to offer... as for guys liking quiet girls... well that all depends on how loud/outgoing or forceful a guy would like his girlfriend to be... it might take a while for quiet people to find love... but there are others out there... just be patient and try to find stuff you enjoy doing, and concentrate on finding people with similar interests... that always helps confidence!!!!
2007-02-08 06:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by tarzanatvw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, if you put on an act in the beginning the real you will come out eventually and when it does it will just make you look like an insecure weirdo fake. When they see you have been putting on an act the whole time it will just seem desperate and weird. I'm not a man, but I am bisexual, and I think everyone likes different things. What one of these cute guys find attractive might repulse another. But, I don't really think anyone has a certain "type", because everybody is different. So just be yourself and hopefully you will attract somebody.
2016-03-28 22:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by Janet 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello Kiera!
I want you to congratulate for the person you are. You see there are a lot of people who are talkative and dream to be like you. You are quiet cuz you do know life better and you don't make noise about what you already know. Yo uare quiet cuz you do respect the others when they show an opinion.
Wise people are quiet...they don't talk with no reason...but when they do ...everyone listen to them.
When you don't talk too much...you have more respect from the others...cuz when they talk ,they are insecure what are you thinking about them, cuz you don't make a comment, don't let them know about your opinion.
You do have a personality more than you think. Just stop feeling pitty about yourself...be proud of who you are, cuz no one is like you.
And when you will realise and accept yourself..every man will admire you for being the true you.
I wish you good luck! Take care!
A yahoo friend!
2007-02-08 06:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
A quiet woman is made for a content man. He is comfortable being at home in slience but love still speaks in volumes. Quiet is good. I think the only men who really enjoy a quiet woman is one that can preoccupy himself with other activities around the house and his own hobbies, beside u--know-what.
2007-02-08 06:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by EyeKneadPoints 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I very much prefer quiet women, but I am also quiet and very introverted.
It's in our natures that quiet men and quiet women are gonna have a really hard time finding each other. But don't try and change who you are to attract someone... you'll only regret it later. Trust me, there are men out there who'll appreciate you... it's hard but give it time.
2007-02-08 06:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends on the man, personally i love quiet women because of the challenge of trying to figure them out. quiet equals interest
2007-02-08 06:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by jbbell66 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋