I am a 16 year old who has always thought that you shouldn't look for love, but that it will come to you and that i should wait for a guy to ask me out, however, a couple of weeks ago i started to notice this guy that works in a shop i visit very often. I'd like to start talking to him and maybe even ask him out for a coffee...There's a part of me that is saying i should totally go for it as he could be a really nice guy and yet im not sure if that's forcing love to happen...What do you think? I'd appreciate any advice! Thanks :-)
2007-02-08 05:43:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
It's a cup of coffee, not a lifelong commitment. Whatever happened to friendship?
Date first, love comes later. Much, much later - you're only 16. See how long you can go ignoring your impatience. Falling in love is easy. How to stay together is something that takes years of mistakes learning.
2007-02-08 05:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by DeanPonders 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't just happen. Someone has to start the conversation. Talk to him. Ask him out. You can't wait for him. He may be shy. He may not know you are intersted. He may feel that he can't because he's on the job but there's nothing to stop you. You aren't forcing anything. You are just giving things a chance.
2007-02-11 19:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by Bob 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sixteen as well and know how you feel about this dilemma. How does he react to see you ? Looking too much and too long is a typical reason for beeing interested. Start to talk to him , If he seem nice I should say go for it. Better do to much than miss a chance. Keep that in mind !
Wishing you a lot of Good Luck !!! :)
2007-02-08 16:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by x•°meadow°•-|- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are talking about isn't love..its companionship. Ask him out...have a cup of coffee...be friends....Love, well, you are too young, too inexperienced in YOU to really know what it is, or how to accept it. I'm not being mean, just truthful as I see it. Let love come without thought, purpose or reason....seek companionship.
"It is more important to have the company of friends than a single love that excludes all others."
2007-02-08 13:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by aidan402 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is a woman asking a man for coffee "forcing love" but not when a man asks a woman? I just don't get it.
2007-02-08 13:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd just say ask him out. Maybe instead of looking for love first why don't you just become good friends then think about love if you have peace about it after you are good friends?
2007-02-08 13:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This question should be in the dating section...but you should wait. I know women think that old standards are gone and we are liberated to be like men...but men like to be men--they like to ask, and they generally use the ones who come asking them. I say generally because it is not a rule, there are exceptions.
2007-02-08 13:52:33 · answer #7 · answered by Emmy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can't force love unless you take it too far. i believe you should look for love as long as it doesn't hinder you in your walk in life. go for it! take the chance! im sure you'll have success!
2007-02-08 13:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forcing love? If you want something girl, go get it.
2007-02-08 14:03:04 · answer #9 · answered by Immortal Cordova 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do it. You're not forcing anything, just being friendly.
2007-02-08 14:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by lisateric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋