its been a while now and people would think ud get over it but im still not able to celebrate valentines day , i still get upset and emotional around that day . why well my father died on valentines day 8 years ago and a piece of my heart died with him .
2007-02-08 05:39:59 · 12 answers · asked by 4ryan 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
death is hard event to go trough . i was only ten then , after that day i grew up too quikly ive learned too live with the situation , but i wonder if i would ever get over it . thx for all your answers so far .
2007-02-08 06:04:51 · update #1
My grandpa, whom I was very close to. He was my best friend, lol. He was a landscaper. I remember him letting me put the bulbs into the holes he'd dig in our yard, he bought me a little gardener set. My grandpa Joe died on Dec 31st a few years back.... I hate New Years eve and day, because I didn't find him until that morning. Well, I was about 11, and he let me water the garden in our backyard *all by myself* I thought i was cool, lol... I went out to do my job, and found him lying on the ground by my favourite rose bush... Every time I see roses I think of him... I lived with him, so it hit me hard.. Sometimes I still cry about it, but I know that he's in a better place... I get in trouble for it every year, but for the past few years, I go on New Years Eve to that rosebush... I just feel closer there, I dunno, maybe because I know he had his last breath there.
You made me cry! :(
2007-02-08 05:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father's funeral was on Valentine's Day almost 30 years ago and I know it was some time before my husband felt able to give me a card. The day always brings back memories and I do still miss him Not so much on a particular day but at important times in life, or when I hear a joke I know he would have enjoyed I remember he told me once that you should try to let the bad memories of death fade and let the memories of the good times rise to the surface. I suppose a bit of me is still a child and we were very close I don't think you ever exactly get over it you just have to find a way to go on
2007-02-08 13:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i havent experienced anythin as such but i can understand. Its no big deal if u arent able to celebrate valentines day, any day can be valentines day not neccessarily the feb 14. Express you love on the 15 or 16 whenever u want y wait for feb 14 only.
2007-02-08 13:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by Hafsah Q 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get the same thing about christmas, my Dad died on christmas eve 1988 and my sister just a few days before christmas 3 years ago. I hate the whole holiday and can't wait for it to be over.
2007-02-08 13:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry for your loss. first i would like to say i havent personally experienced a death on a certain day but my nephews uncle died (he was only 28 bless him) died on mothers day with his mum holding his hand, then 2 years later my nephews grandma died mid december ( the mum of the uncle who passed ) both by cancer. as your father passed on this certain anniversary it will be more of a constant reminder for you and i just hope that some day you will find the strength to move on x
2007-02-08 13:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by xxSHORTYxx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister died in a hospice,on The 27th dec i cannot forget her trying to sing christmas carols with her three young children.Twenty years on christmas is still a very sad time for me never celebrated it since i understand what your saying.
2007-02-08 16:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by suger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i havnet had the same experience either...this is why i disagree with valentiens day its a coprate holiday to show up those people who have no one to celebrate it with. instead of being sad on this day commerate the day by doing something your dad always or wanted to do. Perhaps do it with a pertner to make it more valentines day. Your Dad would love for you to be happy...dont disappoint him. Hope you have a nice day. :)
2007-02-08 13:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by Vixz06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the way you feel is totally normal considering what happened on that day, it will always hurt and it sounds like you feel guilty if you enjoy that day, like you're betraying his memory or something. this can be a subconscious reaction to stop your conscious mind from feeling worse by stopping you from feeling guilty if you enjoy yourself. its just your subconscious protecting you.
you will never replace your dad or the memory of him but maybe you could try doing something fun you used to do with him with someone you care about on that day. kinda like a way to honour his memory.
you obviously loved your dad very much, share that love with someone else who loved him and maybe it will make the day happier (and easier) for you.
hope this helps x
2007-02-08 13:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saint Valentine's is a day for sharing love. Share your love with those who loved you in the past with those who love you today.
God Bless you
2007-02-08 16:27:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad is close by and wants you to enjoy life. You would be honoring him and his memory by doing that.
2007-02-08 14:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by Erica R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋