we have never in 18yrs had this big of an argument i no its flirting no sex i think the co worker would like more her marrage isnt a good one and its her 2nd marrage
2007-02-08 05:36:15 · 22 answers · asked by blr3938 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You shouldn't have to get over it. Your marriage should come first to your husband. If he is engaging in a behavior - however innocent it may be - that is making you uncomfortable with the state of your marriage, he needs to stop. I think it's telling that it's such a huge argument...why, when you brought it up as a concern , was his answer not "Honey, if it bothers you that much, I won't continue communicating with her in a flirtatious way any longer." ? If he's not emotionally invested with her, why should it be a problem for him to not flirt with her?
2007-02-08 05:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Flirting is not a good sign. Sure he was ''only'' flirting no sex right? Why is it ok for married men to flirt with co workers or any female for that matter i mean come on would your hubby like it if the shoe was on the other foot and you were the one flirting behind his back and he found out about it im sure he would be mad too. I already seen proof that men have more freedom in relationships/marriages they can flirt all they want with whoever they want and it's all ok but if the wife did it then she would be known as a slut. Do you really believe your hubby is happily married to you? Go with your gut instinct if your gut tells you he was going to cheat on you with this woman than you need to tell your hubby you would like a break from him for awhile or seek counseling.
2007-02-08 05:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women both flirt to get attention from the person they are flirting with. For some reason your husband is wanting attention from her. Maybe it is her personality. Is she witty, funny, serious? It can't be just looks alone to make your husband crave her attention. There are thousands of knock out beauties in the work field. After 18 years without this type of problem, I would scratch the possibility of beauty. Maybe she makes over him and makes him feel special in some way? I don't know what it could be since I am only reading the information you have provided. Try to find out where the problem is at home that causes him to want outside of home attention from another woman. Then take it from there. Good luck.
2007-02-08 05:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be angry. Flirting with a co-worker is different you have to see this person every day. It isn't like flirting with the cashier in the supermarket. This can lead to many things. What if see does want more and claims sexual harassment in the work place. Or others in the work place think their having an affair. To sum it up this is risky behavior and it shouldn't continue. Your feeling are important you didn't know when this behavior started. But now you know and it is hurtful to you and making you uncomfortable. Your husband should stop talk to him.
2007-02-08 05:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by GoldenGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is flirting that much of a crime? I always looked at it as harmless fun. I never felt threatened if the man I was dating was a flirter. I guess because I like to flirt myself. Infact, there have been times when both my boyfriend and I flirted with other people while we were out together. If you are secure in your own sexuality and have trust for your partner, I don't see what the big deal is.
2007-02-08 05:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How do you think affairs start? Tell your husband that it must stop. He is disrespecting you. Would he like it if the shoe was on the other foot? He must stop and he should even change jobs. When he flirts with someone else he is saying that he does not love you and is not loyal to you. Don't put up with it. He stops or you go. And, mean it.
2007-02-08 05:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what his problem is !! You have nothing to get over,
he just needs a reality check ! If he's happy at home and in love with you, then he's the one with the problem. (Maybe low self-esteem). By the way, how do you know he's flirting ? Do you also work with him ? If he's bragging about it to you, he's just looking for attention !
2007-02-08 05:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think, Have you ever flirted with a guy, maybe to get a better seat, or to get someone to give you favors?
If you have, then you shouldn't make your husband feel guilty for doing the same.
Flirting is fun, life would be boring if people didn't flirt!
2007-02-08 05:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by Fiona M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is likely flirting because it is something new. you have been married 18 years, and you have a solid relationship by the sounds of it.......But 18 years can also get to be stale, you both get in comfortable safe habits. Something new, exciting, unknown, it's a breath of fresh air......that's the flirting. I would suggest you can get him to stop flirting with her, and flirt with you by mixing things up a little, try something new, keep him on his toes, add a little excitement, mystery. Give him a glimpse of another side of your personality, give him something to be curious of.
2007-02-08 05:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would sit him down and have a heart to heart talk with him. let him no that it is bothering you and it hurts you. if he doesnt listen or etc (you know how "some" men are) go talk to the co-worker maybe hes bored give him what he is fishing for
2007-02-08 05:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by candi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋