Dealing with my friend is my main problem….?

Question

Well, I’ve got a best friend 10 years ago and until now we are friends but now things changed our friendship wasn’t much like before it changed.
I will firstly tell you what our friendship like 10 years was ago:-

- when people see us together they think that we are twins because she was about my height and my weight and that what made me feel that she is my sister, so we started sharing our daily problems and secrets and what is going on in her house. I use also to tell her the same… whatever happens to me.

- she used to stay with me every now and then.

- in our town, there is two kinds of school one are public school (which are free to study)and private schools (which has fees to pay). We were in private schools and she decided to go to public but I put the idea in her mind that leaving private school will be hard for you and I kept telling her that until she agreed to stay and go ahead studying in private.

- when her parents got divorced I heeled her pain and I kept supporting her until she got more wiser and understood it and face it.

- when we get our reports, its hard to see your grades low as you spend a lot of effort in studing. So once they gave us the reports, so she started crying because she failed in Science… no one cared about her but I did. I usually was better than her and I study more than her.

- After a long day of school… we come back from school and call each other and talk talk talk…. We use to be very good friends and talkative.

Ahhhhh… now its different totally different.. everytime I see her in school my heart get hurted from her doings and I just quit.

Now its different and the way she thinks about me is different. She thinks I’m her babysitter or servant or her doctor or what so ever… but the main thing is that our relation changed from a friends to a master and a servant!!
Its hurts me how she does treat me after a long time of love and care to each other, she is attracted to other friends. She keeps ignoring me and when she needs help from me which her friends can answer she asks me and go have fun with her new friends.

Now can you explain to me what is friendship? Is what all I did these years result is leaving me alone? did I did something wrong which made her leave like this? Did I do something which makes her ignore me? Am I her friend or just someone who is asked such questions and left out? Don’t I have the right to be her best friend?why don’t she thank for all these years by giving me attention.??

Darlene:- what if your friend ignore you?

Answer 1

You need to talk to your friend and share your feelings. No one can tell you that you deserve to be her best friend! It is up to her who her friends are and who she thinks of as her best friend. It is hard for some to accept that there best friend does have other friends, but it's not the end of the world you just need to understand she is human and needs to communicate with others to. My best friend wasn't a people person and I am so I talked to everyone and she accepted that. We are still best friends! I just talk to other people and have fun but she IS my best friend and always will be! She has other friends and does things with them and it's normal.

Answer 2

After all these years you need to talk it out with her. You don't want to lose a friend that you've had for this long. I've been through it before & it's awful. I think you should just talk with her about it & see where the friendship is going. Ask her why she doesn't hang out with you much anymore. I'd just talk to her. Set a time to go have lunch with her or something cuz I think the two of you could work this out if you tried.