2007-02-08 05:35:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude - just master these three lines
"Rilly? Wow."
"that's a corker."
"Well, you said she was a b*i*t*c*h!"
You can carry your end of the conversation for 2 or 3 hours with just those. Just putter and get s*h*i*t done while you "listen", and be sure she knows she has to say important stuff like dinner dates and crap TWICE so you can go write it down - cuz if you forget anytyhing they say during their 3 hour how was your day debriefing, you are in deep kimchi, buddy.
2007-02-08 11:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her that, she'll get really mad at you, you'll get "the silent treatment" and she'll make you sleep on the couch!!
In the mind of many women, the way they show emotional closeness is to tell long detailed stories of things that have happened to them and to go on and on and on about how they felt about what happened.
In their mind, if you really love them, you'll sit there and patiently listen to the whole long rambling story and you'll unconditionally validate how they feel about what happened.
Unfortunately, these women typically do not know how to SUMMARIZE or GET TO THE POINT.
Instead of saying "my boss made me look stupid during an important meeting with the district manager" they'll tell you "well my boss came to work today and she had an ugly suit on, and she stopped at duncan donuts but she didnt' get anything for me and she KNOWS that I always have a medium hazlenut and a cinnamon cruller..." and it will take her 10 minutes to even talk about the meeting and 10 minutes of describing the meeting in excruciating but irrelevant detail and then another 20 minutes to describe, minute by minute, HOW her boss embarrassed her and then she'll vent for 30 minutes on how hurt her feelings were.
It sucks - but that's how a lot of women show love.
You can either tell her you don't want to hear the details and risk hurting her feelings.
Or you can just nod your head, say "yes dear" and agree with her on everything!!
2007-02-08 05:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first off tuning her out is the wrong answer because once you become good at this she will notice and start asking did you just hear anything I said. My trick on this is no lie listen for a few minutes and then say oh "I have to go do this before I forget", oh say "oh I really have to pee". by the time you come back in the same room they usually move on to something else.
2007-02-08 06:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by dirtyhotshot 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just that. Tell her that you love her, but to stick to general description or non at all, since you are not interested. Frankly, I suggest nodding your head, tuning her out, and just pretend to listen. Most husbands have perfected the skill and also most therapists:
You nod your head once in a while, smile, use phrases like: "I see", "Uh-Hum", "Really?" and on occasion turn the last two words of her sentences into a question; "Your Boss?"
2007-02-08 05:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In every relationship, the best thing is honesty. However, use caution when the truth may hurt a person's feeling. Don't just say, 'I DON'T WANT TO HEAR ABOUT IT'. Explain in detail why you don't want to hear it and make sure she understands. Good luck.
2007-02-08 05:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by maryc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man all she wants to do is talk to you. Listen is that so hard. And then tell her every detail of your work day.
2007-02-08 05:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Tonya B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not set a time limit on this. Perhaps 15 minutes each. I think you need to be interested, but she cannot monopolize the time.
After her 15 minutes, then you get to go at it for 15 minutes on a subject of your choosing.
The time period is flexible of course, but it has to go both ways.
2007-02-08 05:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a common problem with some people. My b/f does that to me! Drives me crazy, he's got a very boring job to top it off! I have told him, but it didn't do any good. I just pretend that I am listening. LOL
2007-02-08 05:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by justlookin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL! Women like to be thorough. Just try tuning her out. Go somewhere else in your brain when she talks about her day. Nod and say "uh-huh" occasionally. My husband doesn't listen to me either. I keep talking anyway.
2007-02-08 05:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Am I. Incognito 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU DON'T you sit there and listen and at least pretend to be interested how manty times do you think she has had to endure something about you she didn't feel like. Stop being so selfish.
2007-02-08 08:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by annetm2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋