What can I do to get over wanting a baby?

Question

It is not the right time in our lives to bring a child into the world, but I want it so bad. We're not going to, but how can I stop myself from wanting it? I've tried everything. I've tried "just not thinking about it" and spending time with other peoples kids; nothing works. Any suggestions? Thanks!

Thanks for all the great answers so far! Just because everyone so far has asked, I don't think it's the right time because I am very young (19) and we don't have a lot of money right now. It's hard enough to support ourselves, and we don't feel that it would be fair to have a baby knowing that we could not support it in the best way possible; we want the best for our future children as everyone does and we could not do that at this point.

Answer 1

I know what you mean. I too have been 'craving' a baby for about six months. I'm considering a kitten. Much less work than a pet, especially when I am able to have a baby.

Answer 2

I am going through the same thing. I've been in denial b/c I know it is ridiculous to want a baby right now but I still do. I know that he doesn't want one right now, which of course makes sense, so I just keep thinking that this isn't a decision that I can make on my own. It has to be something that we both want. When the money, time, and stability is there a baby won't seem odd. (I'm not sure about your situation but perhaps you could help with getting these things, make your life more stable and financially secure, etc. but if that's not the problem then I'm not sure of any other physical things you could try.) If you believe in God then pray about it (or meditate if that works better for you) about you wanting to have a baby but feeling that it is not the right time, maybe you can come to some sort of peace that way.

Answer 3

At 19, you can remind yourself that you have plenty of biological years left. It's be a different story at 35, but you're got time. Comfort yourself to know that you'll still be able to do it for 10+ years. Easy.

Love the life you have now. Revel in the relative freedom. As restrictive as life is for you (lack of money,etc.), it'd be 100 times worse with a child. So, remind yourself to enjoy life now.

Know that it'd be the wrong this for a child to come into this world to parents that aren't prepared. Not to say that, should a child appear, you wouldn't be excellent parents. But, if you waited 5 years and were better prepared, you'd be doing "better" by the child and your family.

Think about WHY you want a child. That's key. Is it because you want someone to love? Someone to control? Because society expects it? Because babies are cute? Because you have an unrealistic romanticized view of what having a baby is like?

One you know, you'll have the answer to your question.

Answer 4

You are going to make a WONDERFUL parent!! That is so sweet of you to wait until you can afford the baby. Most kids your age, don't consider this fact. But you'll never be completly READY to have a kids. My husband and I have good jobs, just bought a house, paid off our car...and we still don't know if we are ready (i am 17weeks). You are going to be a great parent.

But their are a lot of things you can focaus on...

1) if you need to lose any weight...do it now...because you will grow.

2) SAVE. It's going to cost about 6,000.00 to have a kid...thats not including the Doctor bills.

3) Get GOOD insurance that will cover EVERYTHING.

4) Creat a home. Apartments suck to have babies in. My best friend is trying so hard to get a house. If you are going to be in an apartment, make sure it has what you need (yard/near parks/space)

5) Make sure your job will pay you leave when you have the baby. Make sure you have enough sick days built up...cause you will need them. Doctor apotments EVERY month. Blah!!

All thoses things can keep you busy until you are ready. Enjoy being young. Get all the drinking out now...because you won't drink as much when you have kids. If you smoke, brake the habit now. Baby sitting is alwasy a good idea, to get some of that baby out of your system.

But the best adivce i can give you is get married before you have kids. I know its just a pice of paper, but it makes things feel better if you know THEY CAN"T LEAVE if they get scared. It shows commitment...and you need that for a family.

Good luck

Answer 5

Get a puppy or kitten
Sometimes a pet will help with that need
Good luck
If you get a puppy look at a Silky Terrier
There between 8 and 12 pounds
They need a lot of grooming
A good dog to take care of

Answer 6

There is nothing is this world sweetheart that is going to get you over a situation such as this. You are going to continue to want a baby bc you want it more than anything. Its hard looking at other people children bc it makes you want one yourself and you kinda stare at them with envy. Just keep in mind that when the right time does come, you will have your baby and if your lucky maybe more than one. I would try to stay patient and just keep in mind that you will have one when the time is right for you. Good luck!!

Answer 7

I want a kid too, but I still enjoy going out on the weekends and being able to come home and crash when I feel like it. When your doing your everday stuff, just think how much harder it would be with a kid. Try going out more and enjoying yourself, that might help take your mind off a child.

Answer 8

You know it's not the right time...That should be enough. If you spend time with other kids, I found that does not make it any better. Enjoy your life while you can cause after you get pregnant, you are going to want to do everything you cant do!

Answer 9

There is nothing that you can do that will stop you longing for your baby. Why is it not the right time now? I wish you a peaceful time until you are able to hold your baby in your arms.

Answer 10

All woman go through this during hteir lives, it comes & gos and comes back again. Their is not to much that you can do. It is just natures way of telling you hey you can have a baby now, to bad nature doent know our financies,. etc,lol