Ok this might sound a little crazy but what the hell I will ask anyways...This is my 3rd child (36 weeks) and I am having my tubes tied this time because I think 3 is more than enough. I was wondering if ,and I am serious about this,do ya feel any less of a woman if you get your tubes tied? I mean , do you not feel complete like a woman should knowing you cannot have kids anymore? I am having it all the way , tied , burnt, and steel as they call it. Hubby thinks I am silly for feeling this way. Thanks for any suggestions.
2007-02-08 05:29:47 · 10 answers · asked by Insult_with_respect 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Of course you're still a complete woman. If you don't want more children after #3, that's your choice. You will have given life to 3 beautiful children, so how much more woman can you get than being a mommy? You're being responsible by preventing unwanted future pregnancies.
2007-02-08 05:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of 4 and I had my tubes tied on Oct. 4 2005.
If anything I'd say it makes sex better because you never have to worry about getting pregnant. No it not make you feel any different. Just make sure that you don't want any more children. Once you do this there is no going back.
2007-02-08 13:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Carmella C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your reaction to the procedure and how it affects your "womanhood" is a personal thing. What do you feels defines you as a woman - being able to still bear children? If that's so, then will you not be a woman after you experience menopause?
Instead of looking at it as losing your ability to have children (which it sounds like you have already done quite well), look at it as gaining the ability to focus on your life at hand and enjoy your husband without constantly wondering if this time will be the accident when you get pregnant again.
Good luck and congrats on #3
2007-02-08 13:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by teel2624 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should not get your tubes tied, you never know how your life changes. My husband got a vasectomy 2 months before we even met because he had a bad experience with another woman, now we want to have a baby and it is very expensive to get it reversed. So you may think that it is the way to go now but things change and so do lives.
2007-02-08 13:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're silly for feeling that way. Being able to reproduce is an amazing ability that we have as women. But you shouldn't feel like any less of a woman. You have three wonderful children! And even if you didn't have children, you're still you :)
2007-02-08 13:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my tubes tied after my last child.Your periods are worse Tell him to get fixed..lol I wish I would have..I dont feel less of a women.I still feel complete.I just know i cant have any more childern.But like i said my periods are alot worse now then what they were before..But every one is differant..
2007-02-08 13:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I do not feel like less of a woman. I feel a little sad knowing that I cannot concieve again, but when 3 of them are screaming at you and you haven't slept in days you will forget those feelings. lol.
2007-02-08 13:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by shannanm2783 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say ya i do i had my tied in 04 and i really feel less like a women now cause i cant have any more kids if i could go back i would have never have had it done.
2007-02-10 09:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get an IUD - No hormones, side effect, or surgery! and it last for 10 years. I love it. Use something else though until you get it
I wouldn't recommend it for younger women, sometimes those little mishaps are the best thing that could happen
2007-02-08 13:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by mandms 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You certainly won't be less of a woman!! You are bringing three children up, that is amazing!
2007-02-08 13:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋