i am a 16 year old bisexual female and my girlfriend is pregnant with a baby girl.... im excited and everything but im kinda scared, because since her and the babys daddy split up and im still with her will she think i am responsible for helping with the baby?
2007-02-08 05:27:55 · 17 answers · asked by abraddock69 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well im in kinda the same situation. I am bisexual and i had a boyfriend and a girlfriend WEll once i got pregnant the boy slipt i was only with him for 1 month. On the other hand i have been with my girlfriend for a year and 2 month we plan on getting married in a year. We always wanted kids. I am now 14 weeks pregnant and my girlfriend IS helping with supporting the baby as well as me while i stay home with the baby. She is a wonderful person and i love her dearly. I think if you are with her you as much as a parent as she is IF you plan on staying with her for a long time.
2007-02-08 05:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a talk with her and request that she seek child support from the father to help with the baby. He is the father and should be responsible for the financial upbringing of the child regardless of the situation. Tell her that your willing to help her somewhat but remind her that the two parents should be the sole caregivers, your there more for moral support .
It could go either way (anger, resentment or acceptance) but it's really in the best interest of the child and is no way should be entirely your responsibility. One day you may be willing to offer more but be clear on what your willing to help with now. Good luck
2007-02-08 05:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am bisexual as well and have 2 children. well 1 and 1 on the way anyhow she is definitely going to need you to be there for her . How old is she? having a baby is alot of work be prepared,but the father should help out as well if not more especially financially if he does not help out with the money take him to court it is his responsibility not yours. Just do what you can and what feels natural to you don't overwhelm yourself your young still ,just let her know your there if she needs you.
2007-02-08 05:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by dominanyc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your want to be in a real relationship with her, that will now mean that the baby is part of the picture, too. You can't take one without the other.
Of course, if you split up one day, I don't see how she could necessarily expect you to be responsible then.
2007-02-08 05:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by teel2624 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, the father is still responsible for financial support.
Second, are you two living together? Regardless of whether she expects you to help, it's not your baby or your responsibility. She's the one that got pregnant by a shiftless jerk. Help if you want, but you're not obligated.
2007-02-08 07:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are only 16, how can you be responsible for a child, let alone another person's child. You can spend time with the baby, and care for it as much as you want. But the father and mother are responsible for caring for that child.
2007-02-08 05:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not responible for the baby whatsoever. If she does think you are then she's wrong. Be careful, don't turn into "daddy" the child has a daddy and it's not you. Don't let her use you because she MIGHT try to. Good luck to you!
2007-02-08 06:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get child support from the dad and help the girl with the baby and treat as if it was urs!
2007-02-08 05:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Laura Hicks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
financial no u r not responsible, the father is and she can fight him on the child support...but emaotional u r, if u r the one that it with her, than u need to support her emationally...u have decided to stay with her through out this than u need to be with her her the whole way...good luck
2007-02-08 06:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by eyesopen16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get child support from the father.
2007-02-08 05:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋