Recently my parents found out that im a lesbian & r reali disappointed. But e thing is im a bisexual. N they intend to que me soon. So i duno if i shld lie to them n tell them tt im straight or tell them im bi . Coz i dun wanna hurt n disappoint them any further. I love to be truthful to them but im afraid if i do so, i will hurt them deeper. What shld i do?
2007-02-08 05:24:45 · 11 answers · asked by edit_bite 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
At this point, you should not lie to your parents.
2007-02-08 05:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to sound like one of those people who are super nitpicking on spelling and grammar, but I'm really having a hard time figuring out what your saying. So do you claim to be a lesbian or bisexual? Either way, if they already know you're in some form LGBT, lying would only lead to even more harm. You might be better off avoiding the subject whenever possible. Don't be surprised if they think it's a phase and try to force you to be heterosexual.
2007-02-08 13:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ievianty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being honest is a great trait to have. It shows maturity and responsibility. Those are things for a parent to be proud of. As for your sexuality, don't worry about disappointing them. No one ever lives up to all of their parent's expectations. Also, parents can have some really big expectations that are near impossible to achieve. It's not worth hurting yourself emotionally/socially to pretend to be someone you're not. I know people that have tried to live up to all of their parent's expectations and I've seen how unhealthy it is.
2007-02-08 15:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's be honest dear.. and cut that "They will always love you" crap..
It depends ..
If you suspect your parents will kick your butt outta the house .. maybe it's better to wait until you're capable of living on your own..
Would kinda suck to be kicked out just because you said to them you were gay..
Now if on the contrary you think it would actually help things .. then say it if you feel like it ..
You should not feel like you HAVe to tell them .. it's ridiculous .. you did'nt sign a "lesbians-united incorporated" contract that makes it obligatory to come out to them ;-)
Do it if you feel it's right..
2007-02-08 20:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by MapDark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if they are that dissapointed that you dont like guys, then they should feel a bit better that you actually like guys and girls! tell them you still love them and that you havent changed, your still who you were before they even found out. If that doesnt work, give them a bit of time or show them some websites where there is plenty of information for parents whose child has just come out about their sexuality. and dont worry, they will come around and always love you!
2007-02-08 13:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by Alex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u shouldn't tell them u r a lesbian, i know they had a right 2 know but maybe u shouldn't because if u r bi i think it would have worked out, if u would get a boyfriend your parents would have thaught everything is ok and u would have a little secret u r bi and they would think everything is normal
2007-02-08 15:06:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are bi then don't tell them because at least you still like men. Just be normal and marry a good man, and grow your own family.
It is difficult to be gay.
2007-02-08 16:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by Henry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not lie about it they have to learn to accept the truth. You need to give them time too accept it also.
2007-02-08 13:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them it's none of their business.
2007-02-08 15:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by wrjones559_1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell them your bi.. it might clear somthings up
2007-02-08 14:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by JOHN F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋