We`ve been together for almost 4 years now. When we first met that`s what he said and his opinion is still the same. I ask him why he never gives me straightforward answer...
2007-02-08 05:12:16 · 30 answers · asked by Noraaa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I suppose his answer would sound stupid- he's a chicken, he likes getting the goodies free, he's irresponsible.
If he keeps telling you marriage isn't in his future, I'd imagine he means it.
2007-02-08 05:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Maybe he does not want to be pressured into any long term commitments, so he does not want you to bring it up anymore. Another reason that guys say and do this is to feel in conrtol of a situation, he sounds like he is still immature and just not ready to settle down.
Another thing that I have heard, is when you reach the 4 year mark and there is no engagement or actual talk of marriage, it probably will never happen.
Unless, he is trying to through you off and there is a question going to be popped soon! You never know!
2007-02-08 13:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by sweetybaby 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he has trust issues he cant commit becuase past experiances have lend him to beleive that he cant either trust you (his girlfreind not you as a person) or himself , i look at this as a double negitive no matter what the reason it's not good it sounds like you love him and maybe you can convince him otherwise about being married but thats a bit of a long shot with out proper counsiling seriously trust issues arent really somthing you can deal with i really hate to say get some professional help as i really dont beleive in that whole cearal box religion but i see no wy for you deal with this you need some outside help maybe even a mutual freind would help you need a way of him trusting you wholey which can be a difficult thing for a guy espessialy if his girlfriend is smokin hot i even have some problems trusting my girl just becuase shes so fine and it really has nothing to do with her at all it's all me so as you can see it could just be his problem and you can do nothing about it so really there are 6 bottom lines put up or shut up , he'll change or not ,either he thinks of you as the marring kind or he does not simple as that
so for the bluntness but its needed sometimes
2007-02-08 13:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he does not want to marry YOU or in general terms, the marriage institution is not something he wants to be a part of. Basically, if you want to get married, yet in the 4 years you two have been together, he has not changed his tune, maybe you want to stop nagging the guy, break up with him, or continue the relationship as is.
2007-02-08 13:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What answer are you looking for? Obviously you won't be able to sway his decision no matter what the reason is. Life is short! If you want marriage and a family...find someone else. 4 years of love is better than a lifetime of sadness.
2007-02-08 17:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's not ready or i dont want to hurt you feeling but he might think that you are not good enough for him..
My husband have that kind of perception in life and his bestfriend told me that its all change when he met me..its funny but men dont feel to settle down without the feeling that they can make a good family with they re gf.But they really know who is who to be their wife..my husband bestfriend also have that kind of situation i ask him why he didnt propose yet to his 5 years gf he told me that he didnt feel the word "forever"to the woman..so,i just tell him that love is always takes time..
good day....
hope i help to ur problem...
2007-02-08 13:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by mariposang_gala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his past.. maybe his family slip up and he doesn't want that for himself or maybe he likes his life the way it is...ore i hate to say it but maybe he's not into and doesn't feel your the marring kind.. just ask him and let him know how you feel. 4 yrs is alot of time with it going no where fast if its still the same. do you want to be married then you have to move on. do you want kids? ask your self these and find someone who will full fill them don't wait on him because he may never charge his mind by then your going to be to old to look good in wedding photos...
2007-02-08 13:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by tlcoufan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Dr. Phils "Waiting For A Marriage Proposal"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/61
2007-02-08 13:16:57 · answer #8 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He doesn't elaborate further because he doesn't want your opinion on the matter, or for you to try to argue him out of his conviction. This is how he feels, how he has felt and how he wishes to feel concerning marriage.
It might be how he feels concerning marriage in general or it might be how he feels about marrying you in particular. He might change his mind at some point, but you constantly asking him about it might just solidify his opinion instead of dispelling it. Which might be one of the reasons it's been four years now. Because every time you bring up the subject you simply push him further away.
2007-02-08 13:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't want commitment, or maybe scarred from the past. I've said the same thing, but its only because I hate the memories that marriage brings to me.
2007-02-08 13:33:11 · answer #10 · answered by PastaKing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any number of things may have set him against marriage. Obviously he means it. Since it's been 4 years, and his opinion remains the same.
2007-02-08 13:27:13 · answer #11 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋