2007-02-08 05:10:38 · 10 answers · asked by Heather T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to do what is best for you. You can still forgive them, but not forget it.
You will have to change the way you deal with them. You are the one that will have to make changes and not let them in close to you....if you want them in your life..
You should only keep the good people in your circle close to you and keep the others at a distance where they can't hurt you.
If you allow their behaviou to affect your well being then maybe you need to let them go..
it is a two sided sword, but the question is, is it worth to pursue a relationship with them.
if it is destroying you self worth and they are not good people then your survival instinct should click into gear and you have to leave them behind...
2007-02-08 05:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we dont talk to my husbands family because they threatened to sue us over gifts, used my husbands ssn to receive pay for jobs while they were on disability, to make matters worse the IRS came after us for the unpaid taxes which we had to pay back. They did this without my husbands knowledge. They have done other things too but those are the worst offenses. People dont deserve a second chance if they do messed up stuff like that. Family or not! Some people are only out for themselves. Give more details and I will give a better answer.
2007-02-08 13:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...if this is their first offense, everyone deserves another chance. You can't pick you family...if they are hurting you in a way that affects you in a strong way then you should probably distance yourself away from them..
2007-02-08 13:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by classy_uic_chic11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whose family are you talking about if it's your own like your parents you can always talk to them whatever you want
and if your talking about your in-law then your spouse will help you with that and if it's the family you taking bout maybe you are taking care of then don't trust them just take care
but seriously be more specific
2007-02-08 13:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by ImGodgifted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont no the circumstances of your situation but my mother and i dont talk and probably never will again so i believe even the supposed unbreakable bonds can be broken if you can never really trust or get over what they have done 2 you. good luck
2007-02-08 13:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by FUCK THE POLICE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a question? There's not enough info for us to form an opinion to share with you.
Being blood relatives with someone doesn't automatically mean anything about behavior. I have family members I don't see or talk to because of unethical things they have done to me. I don't care that they're related, it doesn't equal automatic forgiveness.
2007-02-08 13:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i guess that ur family is not a 'picture' perfect family. what u need to do is taught through a lot of therapy. it's called boundaries(Pia Mellody). once u know how to set them, u can give them another chance.
2007-02-08 13:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by disco ball 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
treat these people like you would someone at school that you dont like or that acted like a bully. in other words out of a long handle spoon dont let them close again
2007-02-08 13:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family always deserves another chance
2007-02-08 13:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by Cory S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont trust anyone but you
2007-02-08 13:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by punky89 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋