Abortion, do you think a man should be allowed to ask for an abortion of the fetus he has created?

Question

If the baby was unwanted or suffered from a birth defect or drug addiction or any of the other reasons women use to justify abortions and if the woman decides not to have that abortion the man then would be released from any responsibility for the child.
This would free him from the troubles associated with an unwanted child the same way a women is with her choice to have an abortion. Wouldn't that be fair?

So men have all the responsibilities and no choice. Shouldn't the woman also have responsibilities and if she gets pregnant because she didn't "wrap it up" or abstain she should also be stuck with the responsibility of raising the child?

Answer 1

As you can see, virtually no one answered your question other than to espouse the typical freedom for women, slavery for men idea.
While the abortion can only be performed on the woman, men should not be enabled to dictate what, if any, medical procedures she must endure. Alternately, he should not be forced to comply with her demands that he financially support her choice to bring a child into the world unless he chooses. If he chooses not to do so, she still has other options available.

Women demand choice in whether or not to become parents but deny the same right to men, which is typical for the feminocentric socitey in which we live.

Logically, if men were offered the same option of opting out of parenthood in the same time period, or perhaps a little shorter than the women to allow her a few days/weeks to decide if she wants to continue the pregnancy knowing she will be fully and solely responsible for all costs associated with bringing a baby into the world, there would be some simblance of equality. As it is, there is not even the least amount equality between the sexes, especially in regard to reproduction.

As it is, women have at least four more choices in regard to pregnancy and parenthood that is not even offered to men: abortion, legal abandonment, adoption and keeping the baby with the hope of income through child support.
What is missing is that men are handed the responsbility without any choice while women are handed all the choice with no responsbility unless they choose to accept it.

When a pregnancy occurs in a marriage, most states, I believe, still resort to the old English law that children born in a marriage are determined to be children of the father. This, in spite of the fact that DNA proves this not to be the case in from 10-30% of cases. The anti-father bias in the laws are so adamant that even when DNA proves the "father" to be unrelated to the children, he is still often saddled with child support. Only a few states have started legislation to end this vile practice.

Choosing someone of like mind with which to copulate does not address the fact that many women who originally say they would abort, later change their mind when faced with the fact. Again, the man is strapped to a percentage of his income for decades without the possibility of excusing HIM from this expense.

If the mother states that she cannot afford a child, she is permitted, even idolized for aborting the fetus. Even if the father is in poverty, he still must make payments to the mother and is threatened with jail for failure to do if she decides to keep the child and demand money.

Contraceptives are never 100% effective so an alternate plan would have to be in effect. Even a written and notarized statement signed by both parties is worthless in court in these cases. Just the say-so of the other party is, at best, a gamble.

Common sense (which is often neither in this jumbled up world) would dictate that both men and women have the same rights to deny parenthood. Either both or neither. Allowing one greater rights in any area, including abortion and custody, is a backward step from equality. But then again, feminism was never ABOUT equality but special rights for women.

Answer 2

Sorry, but often the man can run away from the child and have no responsibility. Besides, if you got a girl pregnant, never saw her again, she had a baby and you never knew because she did not tell you? Sounds like she respected your right to no responsibilities and troubles...and you would be none the wiser. And she could go on with her right as a single parent...and you would be none the wiser. So what's the problem? A lot of men are not faced with the burden of unwanted children if they don't want to be. They walk away, whether they know the mother very well (relationship) or not (one night stand). Women have it differently and that is why men have no say in abortions being done to avoid unwanted fatherhood.

Answer 3

Wow! This is thought provoking. I do assume you are talking about unmarried couples. In that case, the obvious answer is no - it is the woman's body and her choice to make. However, the financial issue is something that makes it a little less cut and dried. I will probably make a lot of women mad also - but I do wonder if it is fair for the woman to make ALL decisions regarding the birth of an unwanted child and then to expect the father to willingly pay child support for the next 18 years. After all - it does take two people to have sex and create the child to begin with. In our culture, women have traditionally been given control over our own bodies for health and moral reasons. I do think this should still be the rule. But I will have to say, to be fair, men should be given some legal avenue to at least challenge support for children born out of wedlock .
The best solution for all would be to think long and hard about the consequences of having sex - especially unprotected!

Answer 4

Since a man cannot bear a child, there will always seem to be an inequity on this topic. A man has the right to assert his opinion but ultimately it is the women's choice since it is her body. The plain truth is any time two people have sex there is an chance of pregnancy and if you are not willing to deal with the consequence, no matter how little or small that possibility may be, then you should not have sex outside of a relationship where each knows where the other stands on the prospect of having children.

A man can release himself from parental responsibility in some states by signing away his parental rights, essentially abandoning the child. How fair does that sound?

Answer 5

Let's pretend that Doug is the one whom becomes pregnant. Sally decides that she wants no responsibility for the fetus/child. Is it her right to force Doug to take his body to the doc's office/hospital and go 'under the knife' for an abortion ? Let's pretend that pregnant Doug believes that abortion is murder and Sally doesn't. Should Sally have the right to force Doug to become a "murderer"?

No more pretend. Should Doug's lady friend have the right to force Doug to take his body to the doc's office/hospital for a vasectomy so she won't face pregnancy or an unwanted child in the future? Same thing. The fetus/child is in a certain somebody's body, therefore it becomes that somebody's choice not everyone else's.

Both are responsible for the child. It took two to create it.
If you aren't ready for the responsibility then abstain or sign away your parental rights. And, once again ......... another innocent child meets the cold cruel world (or death) due to someone else's carelessness, immaturity and lust.

Men have choices. They can abstain from sex until fully ready for the consequences it can bring, can get a vasectomy, can use protection, can terminate parental rights and can have a child or not. Men have plenty of choices. Perhaps, those choices don't appeal to you. But, whoever said that her choices appeal to her?

Answer 6

Yes, a woman can have an abortion, and a man is "allowed to ask for an abortion" but that doesn't mean the woman has to agree.

Guess what? Life's unfair. You should have learned that in preschool.

Child support isn't about the deadbeat dad, it's about the child. In the cosmic poker hand of life, women got dealt pregnancy and childbirth, which are massively unfair. So, men get dealt having to pay child support even if he doesn't want to have a child, which might seem unfair.

Really, it's your own ignortant, stupid fault if this happens to you. You shouldn't be having sex without communication, and you shouldn't be having sex without protection.

You know what rocks? Being a lesbian. I don't have to deal with this sh!t.

Answer 7

well..in my opinion...if that man didn't want the child then he ( along with the woman) should not have been having sex in the first place. if you don't want children then stop screwing around...or if you do, then use a freaking condom, along with birth control. have some common sense. sex causes babies. there are too many couples in this world that would love to have children but can't, and if you don't want that baby, then you need to give it up for adoption, but don't kill it. now if the baby had a birth defect, or the pregnancy threatens the mothers own life, or if she's raped by someone, or a family member and becomes pregnant..then I could understand abortion..but ONLY if it's early, like a month or earlier...after that the fetus' heart begins to beat, and it starts forming its organs..that is when it is murder to have an abortion. so word to the wise...if you don't want a baby...practice abstinence..or use a condom AND birth control. take all options. and if the guy your with doesn't want to wear a little hat on his second head then tell him to go, because i'd much rather be safe than sorry.

Answer 8

Its strange how many hypocritical women are on this board with the mentality like they are the only ones who should ever have the option to duck out of responsibility for a child, and the reason is because men do not know what its like to go through child birth? Get a life ladies, can you be any more pathetic? If a man should wrap it up, then maybe you should close your legs?

Answer 9

Yes I absolutely support the idea to allow men to opt out of responsibility for a child they do not want. Nobody has the right to force a woman to have an abortion against her will, but men sure as hell should have the right to not be held financially responsible for the womans decision to keep it.

Answer 10

Sure! The guy should have the right to ask. But he will never, and should never, be able to escape his responsibility should the woman decide not to have an abortion. The guy is still responsible for his role in the baby's existence. The guy played the game. He lost. Too freakin' bad. He should have kept it in his pants.

What you are suggesting would simply lead to guys making more excuses than they already do to try to get out of their responsibility. They would just say the baby was unwanted, or whatever. If you do not want to be responsible for a child, then you need to abstain from sex. End of story. Excepting responsibility for your actions is part of being a man. So tough cookies to the wuss who is in this situation. I don't feel sorry for him in the least. It is bad enough that there are so many women left to fend for themselves by dead-beats. No reason to make it legal, too.