what is exactly verbal abuse?

Question

like how do you know if your friend is in a abusive relationship or not

idk what catigory[sp] it fits in but he constantly tells her not to getoffline of he will hurt her or hurt him and he will get extremly mad if she tells her good friends about there fights and ask he lots of sexual questions and she isnt like that so she doesnt answer them and then he gets mad and then he will call and call and call um till she answers or turns her phone on silent

Answer 1

To me - verbal abuse comes in many forms - and typically many of them are there if one is.
Cursing at a person
Yelling at a person
Putting a person down - making them feel like a complete failure and that they can't do anything right.

Sometimes verbal abuse does more damage than physical - because it is internal and can push a person to suicide when it's too extreme and there are no outer scars from the abuse.

Answer 2

Characteristics of Verbal Abuse

1. Verbal abuse is hurtful and usually attacks the nature and abilities of the partner. Over time, the partner may begin to believe that there is something wrong with their abilities (male or female). She/ he may come to feel that they are the problem, rather than the partner.

2. Verbal abuse may be overt (through angry outbursts and name- calling) or covert (involving very subtle comments, even something that approaches brainwashing). Overt verbal abuse is usually blaming and accusatory, and consequently confusing to the partner. Covert verbal abuse, which is hidden aggression, is even more confusing to the partner. Its aim is to control the person without their knowing.

3. Verbal abuse is manipulative and controlling. Even disparaging comments may be voiced in an extremely sincere and concerned way. But the goal is to control and manipulate.

4. Verbal abuse is insidious. The partner's self-esteem gradually diminishes, usually without them realizing it. The victim may consciously or unconsciously try to change their behavior so as not to upset the abuser.

5. Verbal abuse is unpredictable. In fact, unpredictability is one of the most significant characteristics of verbal abuse. The partner is stunned, shocked, and thrown off balance by their mate's sarcasm, angry jab, put-down, or hurtful comment.

6. Verbal abuse is not a side issue. It is the issue in the relationship. When a couple is having an argument about a real issue, the issue can be resolved. In a verbally abusive relationship, there is no specific conflict. The issue is the abuse, and this issue is not resolved. There is no closure.

7. Verbal abuse expresses a double message. There is incongruence between the way the abuser speaks and his real feelings. For example, he may sound very sincere and honest while he is telling his partner what is wrong with her.

8. Verbal abuse usually escalates, increasing in intensity, frequency, and variety. The verbal abuse may begin with put-downs disguised as jokes. Later other forms might surface. Sometimes the verbal abuse may escalate into physical abuse, starting with "accidental" shoves, pushes, and bumps.

Hope this helps in explaining what exactly verbal abuse is; for more on this topic check out the link below.

Answer 3

Does your spouse or significant other:

Hit, punch, slap, shove, or bite you?
Threaten to hurt you or your children?
Threaten to hurt friends or family members?
Have sudden outbursts of anger or rage?
Behave in an overprotective manner?
Become jealous without reason?
Prevent you from seeing family or friends?
Prevent you from going where you want, when you want?
Prevent you from working or attending school?
Destroy personal property or sentimental items?
Deny you access to family assets, such as bank accounts, credit cards, or even the car?
Control all finances and force you to account for what you spend?
Force you to have sex against your will?
Force you to engage in sexual acts you do not enjoy?
Insult you or call you derogatory names?
Use intimidation or manipulation to control you or your children?
Humiliate you in front of your children?
Turn minor incidents into major arguments?
Abuse or threaten to abuse pets?
Withhold affection from you?
Now, if you were honest and answered them truthfully, here is a statement that might shock you. If you answered YES to even ONE of those questions, you are being verbally abused.

Answer 4

If you are in a relationship with someone who constantly belittles you, that's verbal abuse. Like "You're so fat/ugly/stupid, you're lucky I'm even willing to be with you", though it doesn't have to be as obvious as that. If the person is always saying things that make you feel bad about yourself simply for who or what you are, then it's a verbally abusive relationship.

Answer 5

Anything that is demeaning, belittling to the point that it makes the victim feel worthless and insecure. But, sometimes people do that when they are arguing. It has to be something that is continuous. But, you are going to have to be more specific. What is your friend's partner saying exactly?

To answer your description of the situation, he sounds like an *** and controlling. He's not just verbally abusing her, he's putting her in situations that make her feel uncomfortable. Why is she with him again?

Answer 6

Verbal abuse is using words to attack someone. You are not attacking the person physically but you are attacking the person by your words. What you say to a person can have great affect on them. For example, a mom telling her daughter she is stupid, fat and no guy will like her. That is kind of what verbal abuse is. Hope it helped!!!

Answer 7

Verbal abuse is when someone puts you down and does name calling. Ex: "I can't believe you're that stupid for doing that" or "I can easily find someone who is much more fun". Anyone who degrades you or puts you down is verbally abusive. If you are in a relationship like that, it's time to get out. If you know someone who is in that situation; offer your help.

Answer 8

Verbal Abuse is anything that directly affects you emotionally. Anything that can bring upon depression. Like parents telling there kids they are worthless and that they are mistakes. That kind of thing can dramatize a kid. Also Threatening to hurt them physically and striking fear into them

Answer 9

Verbal abuse is saying things that hurt or upset someone. If they are in a relationship with someone who says things intentionally to make them feel bad, it's an abusive relationship.

This can be very subtle or very obvious.

Answer 10

when he or whoever talks 2 u in a way that u feel insulted, because friends sometimes talk to each other saying bad words... etc.. or like insulting but is part of being funny with the other one.. but .. if is getting to the point that u feel uncomfortable then u are being abuse in a verbal way