Why blame all men if your choices suck?

Question

The women here come into work and talk about how awful their boyfriends and husbands are. They blabber on about how they get cheated on, dumped, yelled at, and ignored. Yet they take these guys back every time! Now that's not my problem. My problem is how they talk about how awful ALL men are. My question is why do women date m0rons and then pretend that this is how men just are? I'm starting to think these women choose abusive jerks on purpose. What do you think?

Answer 1

The simple answer is many times a person will complain about other people's faults, but they are really talking about themselves. These women may not feel worthy or secure enough to meet someone that is decent.

Don't get angry with them because they are pitiful to continue this way. You can leave the room when they start complaining are politely tell them you really don't want to hear it.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Because women are WHACK! Women will complain that their husbands look at porn online and read nudey magazines, but will deny their husband sex for a month at a time! Women will complain that their husbands never take them to nice dinners, but won't be able to tell you the last time they cooked a nice dinner at home! Women will sit at home chatting online or on the phone all day complaining about how their husbands left their underwear on the bathroom floor while their husbands are off working their tails off so that the wife can be a stay at home mom! The bottom line is that men are simple creatures! We like sex from our wives, a clean house where the wife and the kids listen, and good food to eat! That's pretty much it! If there was a woman out there that could realize that her husband would do ANYTHING she wanted with a few BJ's a week, a nice homecooked meal 2-3 times a week, and a smile instead of a complaint, she would be the lord of her house!!!!!

Answer 3

Like my psychology teacher said there's not something wrong with the men but the women that choose these men! it's the women's own fault for falling back into these situations because they let men rush into there hearts in a stupid way! I have been through this twice, I learned with my second time and what a good lesson that was! It's not that they choose them on purpose but women get emotionally involved fast because how a man gives attention to a woman, and because the men give women a diff face in the beginning of the relationship, and there true face comes out later on! But it does piss me off how women keep going back to the jerks that treat them like S*it! I guess we get what we allow them to do.

Answer 4

Very good point here. i totally agree with you and your viewpoint on this. Why do we as women take these guys back again time after time and choose to stay victims to them? This one makes me think for sure! Some guys do the same things these women do too. They take the women back over and over again and never learn to move on and get past things. Not all men are like this ... There are some good and decent ones out there. I happen to have found one of the good ones and i know what i have and will never let him go! Alot of times women have such low self esteem that they feel that this is the only guy who will ever love them and that they will never deserve or find any better. I can feel for these women because i used to feel just like them in my first marriage BUT now i know better and i have a much better marriage and husband and life for it.

Answer 5

Sorry , but because u dont have to deal with the "relationship " with other men, because well u are a man , u dont see what we have to go through.. unfortunately there are more "azzhole" type men out there, then there are good ones.. and unfortunately the majority are giving the minority a bad name..
I'll admit ive dated my share of men in my life, all different types of men, from different backgrounds, cultures.. different looks, different physiques.. and the majority rules.. most men are pigs, and most are selfish, most are liar, most are hypocrites.. etc.. But not all.. there were a few good ones in there.. but they were far and inbetween, and the jerks, they arent jerks for the moment and then u just go on with ur life, alot of these jerks, hurt a girl so badly that it affects the rest of her life, they tear down her self esteem , they control her, they play mind games, and screw with her head and her heart.. the heart is the easy part to get over , the scars left mentally and emotionally sometimes never go away....
Men are typically shallow, selfserving people.. Not saying that women cant be that way to.. cause just like with men, there are women that are horrible too.. so dont get me wrong..
But its really hard to find a good guy today because unfortunately we live in a society that doesnt teach people accountability , and morals anymore.. to many little boys trapped in mens bodies these days.. and very few actual "real men"

Answer 6

Congratulations, Joe - you've figured out the secret!!!

Many women expect to be abused, and subconsciously seek out abusive jerks. They come by this expectation honestly - their fathers were abusive, and even if their mothers left their fathers, they ended up getting with other abusive jerks. Their sisters date abusive jerks too as do their friends (that's the part that you have the misfortune of overhearing, when they compare notes about the abusive men they date!!!)

They expect men to cheat on them, dump them, yell at them and ignore them. Some of them even expect to be beaten and forced to have sex when they're not in the mood.

Now, they honestly hate every minute of this abuse.

But why do they CHOOSE men like that?

Because they see those men as "real men".

These women will not date guys who are not like that - if a nice guy tries to approach them, they will reject him. They will even go so far as to insult him by saying he's "gay" or "a girlyman" or "not a real man"!

But if an abusive jerk comes to them, they will fall at his feet!

To make matters worse, their daughters think the same way - they're learning that "real men" are abusive, and that it's a woman's lot in life to tolerate abuse from men.

It's sad, and really pathetic, to see this!

Answer 7

You've got a point. If a woman chooses to be in a painful, abusive, cheating relationship, they need to be able to accept the consequences. Some people choose abusive jerks (men AND women) because they think they can fix them. Some because they are afraid to be alone. But you're right. It's not your problem. Unfortunately people tend to project. They tend to see their reality as everyone else's reality.
Rest assured, there are people in happy relationships with well-adjusted partners. Not all women think they have to settle for jerks.

Answer 8

Lack of maturity. For some have not realized that life is a series of choices, and our choices are what get us where we are. However, one must also realize we choose who we choose because they are whom we feel most comfortable with. Therefore, many times we will pick others who have the same issues unresolved issues as we do. Then when things happen and their feelings are repeatedly hurt. They have to voice this so someone will hear them. They get a great deal of feedback and someone is hearing them. However, they are not paying attention to what anyone is saying and continue to do what they have been doing. Almost content in their misery; because this is all that they know. Women are not the only ones that do this, men also, however, they don't voice it so publicly. Have a great day. Just my opinion. God bless****

Answer 9

"I'm starting to think these women choose abusive jerks on purpose. What do you think?"

As a female, I honestly believe that there is a percent of females who date jerks just for the sympathy/attention they try to get from others.

I did date a few jerks, but I got rid of them as I deserved better. There is some females who just have such low self esteem that they will stay with a jerk just to say they "have someone". In reality, they fear stepping out of their "comfort zone" and meeting someone better.

Same goes for guys as I known some guys who just totally let a woman walk all over him many times.

Answer 10

The two or three times I have asked "Was he that way before you married him? He was? And you knew he was abusive? Then why the h*e*l*l did you marry him?" I get a 'violation notice' from Yahoo because some cry-baby women "tell on me" like vindictive 13 year olds. You have to think you're hitting close to a nerve if it ticks people off that much.

It's not *all* one person's fault in a relationship when it goes wrong. It's not all women who are sexless wives. And not *all* men are cheating creeps.