im 17....18 in march and have never had a girlfreind. i dont understand but there's this girl in school that i really like and dont know how to ask her out. dont even konw if she's intersested in me.
how can i find out and get her attention.
any help would be great : )
2007-02-08 04:27:56 · 28 answers · asked by Vikrant S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My son had this same problem, so I told him to get a group of people together and go out, including her.. this continued for a while and before you knew it they started dating...This has been going on now for about 6yrs.. I can't wait to hear " Mom we're engaged".
2007-02-08 04:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by Diana J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a very simple answer that many have already said, but one that can be much more difficult to live up to than many realize. CONFIDENCE. Women love a man who is confident. You have to believe in yourself and that you have something to offer.
A previous person said maybe you are shy or ugly. Let me tell you, even if you are ugly, there are women that see past that if you are fun and confident. Look at most rock singers, as rarely are they good looking, but they are definitely fun and confident. Every person has unique and amazing talents, gifts and traits that someone else will find appealing. You will never find that person sitting on the sideline though. You HAVE to get up and take the risk. It may be difficult, but the more you do it, the easier it gets. Be prepared to get turned down, or to have a relationship and get dumped. It happens. But you will only grow and become stronger and more confident by having those experiences. Hard times will come, but good ones will only come as well if you step out there and take the chance. It is highly unlikely that a woman will just fall in your lap and beg to be with you.
I was like you when I was 17 too. Quite frankly I did not have my first girlfriend until I was 23. I am now 29 and I have been married, and unfortunately divorced, but also am dating an amazing woman who truly makes me happy. She is only with me because I confidently showed her who I was and believed that I had what she needed. I also treated her as a woman deserves to be treated and she loves it.
Keep in mind that you are young and so are the women you are interested in. It is likely none of you truly know what you want yet, even if you think you do. Just trust me on that one. Younger women tend to date the jerks because they seem more appealing at the time. My current girlfriend is 29 and can’t stand the morons she used to date and now has realized how good it is to be with the nice guy. Even if takes a long time, don’t give up, but do step out there and try.
2007-02-08 04:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to communicate your interest.
Despite mysticism and superstitious BS about women being mind readers, it's not true she will magically figure out you are interested in you - even if you do a little flirting.
SO, you have to ASK. If you don't ASK, you will not know the answer.
That said, the answer may suck. If the answer sucks, it's either she doesn't want to seem easy or she is not interested or she is seeing someone else. Hopefully you can tell the difference.
Fear: asking someone out is not unlike the emotional equivalent of being like a lemming. Yes, you may fall and hit the rocks and "die." However, it's a metaphor and you still live. You'll have a crush again and another chance until you get it right.
Good luck.
2007-02-08 04:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Cheshire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As to not having a girlfriend...
its not a requirement to have a girlfriend by the time your 18....why not wait until you've found the ONE person you will spend your life with? why waste or break your heart on other girls? my suggestion is to wait till you find the right girl, and when your sure, ask her!
getting the girls attention?
Maybe she's the one! The most obvious answer is to tell her... but for some odd strange reasons most guys wont. So try and build a relationship with her (friendship) then see if shes the type you like!! then move on from there, hope this helps!
2007-02-08 04:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jewls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever asked a girl out? It could just be that you're very shy, and there's nothing wrong with that. Start out simply, build a relationship with her without stressing the dating thing - just be friendly, let her get an idea of your personality. Then, if you still want to be with her, ask her out. Confidence has a lot to do with it. But don't worry, you will meet someone at some point and take her breath away. Just remember, when you finally get the girl, treat her the way she deserves to be treated.
2007-02-08 04:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda Drowry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most girls expect a guy to approach them. She maybe interested but she is waiting for u to make the first move. If you are really interested just approach her like you would a friend. Dont just say that u r interested show ur interest as well. You sound like a real shy person but it should never be a barrier. If she is not interested just forget about her, she's not worth ur time or effort.
2007-02-08 04:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by Fancyface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
''I merely choose somebody who i will carry close out with and be waiting to savor having their business enterprise and having some user-friendly pastimes and sharing those pastimes.'' ''I even have lady friends.'' sounds such as you obtain what you're searching for. that is crucial which you be attentive to your self in the previous searching for companionship in somebody else. in case you enter a relationship under the pretension you have defined to us, it's going to be doomed to failure. Wait till you're of the up-maximum sincerity, because of the fact that is then you rather will discover somebody without even having to 'artwork' for it. it's going to be the suitable in advantageous condition, for you have found a kindred spirit to accompany you in this life.
2016-11-02 21:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by barn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be yourself. If you like yourself and are confident others will see that in you. If you are timid and insecure it makes other people uncomfortable. If you like this girl try join a club that she is in or find some common interest that you can talk to her about. If she likes you too she'll respond and you can go from there. Good luck.
2007-02-08 04:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by CamKeeTai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget girls for right now and concentrate on building your life. You'll never get anywhere as weak as you come across, anyway.
Learn a martial art for starters and then develop some sort of business. You have to become a champion.
2007-02-08 04:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Joseph C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you DO know how to ask someone out...but you have to make the first move.
Ask her out for lunch/coffee. something not too heavy, and take it from there.
You have to approach her as if she will already say YES, otherwise she will sense in your body language, and tone of voice uncertainty. Take control(but not in a forceful manner). And treat her like a woman, not a piece of meat.
2007-02-08 04:34:14 · answer #10 · answered by LovePinkPuffies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋