Me and my husband move to another state and about 2 years after we moved I started talking to one of our old friends on the phone. We talked every day for 4 months until I came back for a visit and ended up staying with this man for about a week. My husband found out and forgave me. Well now we have moved back to our home state and me and hubby have seperated and dont plan on working things out. This other man is calling me occasionally just to talk but now he has a girlfriend. Do you think there is any chance that we could be together again. (yes we have hooked up once since I came back). If not then why does he call me because its not just for the booty. He calls just to talk or at 11:00 pm when she is asleep and he cant hook up anyway.
2007-02-08 04:16:23 · 20 answers · asked by tootnsmile 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do either of you work for NASA?
2007-02-08 04:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by sligoman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, do not go back to the past move to the future. Now he has a girlfriend and when she is sleeping he calls. That is a player. He is not serious about you. You are a toy to him that's it. His next move will be his girlfriend is either at work or away from home and he will try to come over for the BOOTY!!!! But he will just say to see you and talk. Yeah right!! Now you are better than that. Find another man.
2007-02-08 04:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about settling your affairs first before you look at something else. Sounds like he's calling you on the sly, and what an ego boost for him to have 2 girls; one at home asleep, and the other on the phone...
Get your stuff together, get your divorce and then look around. Let the other guy know that you're not interested in a friendship with benefits and to stop calling. If he had no moral compass 2 years ago, then it's possible he doesn't have one now!
2007-02-08 04:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by laura g 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all tell him to get lost.... Change your phone number to an unlisted number so he cannot call or contact you again. Tell him there is not chance whatsover of you being together ever again as you love you husband and want to make the marriage work and that HE is not a part of your marriage and plans . He needs to back off and you need to slam this door in his face and never reopen the door again! You also need to be honest with your husband and tell him what is going on too. Tell him to stick with his girfriend and to get a life.
2007-02-08 04:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean he could in fact just wanna be friends with you. I don't think he should hide it from his current girlfriend but thats not the topic right now. If you feeli like you wanna do the friends with benefits thing then you should talk to him and see if he feels the same way. I mean at least he's not married like you were when you two first hooked up so go for it!
2007-02-08 04:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by felita2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship with this guy has already ruined your marriage whether you realize it or not. So at this point, what do you honestly have to lose? Your self respect? Seems to me you don't have any of that left, so by all means......bang away. And in 5 years when you're on the horns of another failed marriage because this guy has found another married woman to sleep with, you'll realize that marriage is about more than just sex, late night calls, and being desired.
2007-02-08 04:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run away as fast as you can. Let's see, here's what we know about this guy:
He's a cheater
sneak
liar
he gives you the time of day only when he knows the 'other woman' isn't around
I wouldn't allow my daughter to date a guy like this. Would you? Then why would you let yourself? Sounds like maybe you don't like yourself too much. Get some respect and enjoy life without comlicated relationships. Look at yourself first. What can you do to be a stronger person, a person who believes she deserves a geat relationship? A person who loves themself wouldn't look twice at a guy like that. Be a better woman and attract a better man. I believe in you!
2007-02-08 04:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by Queen Lear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is about the booty. he has know plans of leaving her. he's calling at 11 when she is asleep. he doesn't want her to find out about you. don't be the hotel girl where he gets what he want and leaves saying he loves you and wishes things were different. find you someone else. and try being with just one man.
2007-02-08 04:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you want to be with unfaithful boy (as real men are faithful).
Your choice but you made your own bed too.
He calls you because you are easy to him to persue and has no problem with having things on the side....... hope you get tested for stds.. No telling how many other girls he talks to after he gets off the phone with you.
2007-02-08 04:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto to a previous answer-He's calling you while his gf is asleep...hmmm????
He either really likes the conversation with you and your company as a friend, or, more likely, he wants to keep you on standby so you to can "hook up" again sometime. Please don't ever expect to have a serious relationship with this man.
2007-02-08 04:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by Leroy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think you do have some problems with relationship. If this guy is not honest to his current girlfriend, what makes you think he will be to you? He doesn’t want to leave his girlfriend but to secure booty outside if he needs it someday.
2007-02-08 04:31:01 · answer #11 · answered by Steve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋