He says he's very content and says I should be too.
2007-02-08 04:14:45 · 23 answers · asked by need help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I saw a similar question, but from the husbands point of view.
95% said to cut the wife some slack and be patient.
If the roles were reversed, most would say to be patient and try to get to the bottom of the reason. It could be hormonal or emotional - especially if this is new.
2007-02-08 04:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by Carl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should see a doctor. he may be depressed or have a hormone imbalance. (yes men can have hormone imbalances) do you think he might be having an affair or possibly had a one night stand? he may be concerned about having a disease and doesn't want to pass it on to you. if after all this nothing shows up to explain his contentment then you have several choices to consider. 1) take a lover 2) get bob -battery operated boyfriend 3) get a divorce and start dating. if everything else is good in the marriage i think you should try #2 before trying #1 or #3.best of luck. an empty bed can be awfully cold and lonely.
2007-02-08 04:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by alida 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say it sounds like he could be playing away from home, having an affair which fulfills his sexual needs.
Have an honest talk with him, straight out, tell him that your lack of sex is upsetting you, because it makes you feel undesirable and unwanted in bed. Ask him straightout if he doesn't find you attractive, or if he has a low sex drive.
Perhaps if it is a low sex drive, suggest a quiet visit to your GP or try to do something to get him in the mood- sexy bath, nice clothes, good wine etc.
If not, then you may have to find some counselling to help you get past this step.
Best of luck to you
2007-02-08 04:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by Alexandria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my.....that just doesnt seem normal hun.
I think i would have to question his fidelity. granted, sometimes when u are together for a very long time, the sex sometimes decreases, but i have never heard of it stopping completely.
i would question him for sure. and you can always tell him that u are still very much in need of physical contact with a man and see what options he gives u.
However, if you are content with the idea, then that will have to be your choice. afterall, who am i to say that its that uncommon.
i can understand reaching a comfort level and contentment in a relationship, but i feel intimacy is still a must in order to recapture the closeness that a marriage is made up of.
Good luck to u.
2007-02-08 04:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh that is a big problem as a woman... the best thing u can do, just ask ur husband to give u a valid reason why he acting like that and be honest to urself...tell him that it hard to handle and its unffair to ur side as a wife and so that u can move on... life is short my dear...lol
i had a friend that ur the same problem about her husband.... believed it or not... the mean reason why her husband no longer wants to have sex with her coz he found out that he is a GAY!!!!
2007-02-08 04:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by ladyjoyax 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex did the same thing to me and after 7 years of sexless marriage, I left him. He was more into "himself" than into me, plus I'm sure he was seeing other women. It's not fair or right to withold sex from your partner and expect them to just accept it. I refused to accept it and I'm in a VERY fullfilling marriage now. However, I dont' know if your husband might have a medical reason for not giving it up to you, though I'm sure you've considered it. Try to find out why and I hope you can work it out. Good luck.
2007-02-08 04:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, a marriage without sex is not a marriage at all. He is probably content because he is getting it elsewhere or is planning on leaving.
A healthy marriage relies on sex.
2007-02-08 04:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband stopped having sex with me for about 6 months and I went along with it but I am sorry we woman need to feel like we are loved. I am now since divorced and the happiest woman sexually and emotionally in the world. You can only beg til you are blue in the mouth.
2007-02-08 04:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by lmw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him 9 kinds of hell and tell him to get some help and that you want sex and will get it from him or somewhere else. Tell him to go see a doctor and get on some meds. have everything checked cause he could have a medical condition like low thyroid output or low testosterone etc. but if he is OK then find someone else.
2007-02-08 04:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who doesn't!! omg that's harsh! I think you should talk to him about it and tell him you do need sex and if he still disagrees divorce him! That's really harsh! I think something else is going on for him to make this decision! Is he cheating??? keep your eyes wide OPEN!!! This will end up bad because one of you is not happy, he's either cheating or your going to end up cheating!
Good Luck with all and remember look into this issue way more, go and investigate!!!
2007-02-08 04:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋