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ok there's this really hot boy that i like and he like's me he is a couple years older than me.my friends dont like him.but when we are together iam happy.He dosent care what other people think,but i do ,so can someone help me.oh and he already has a kid,and has tried sleeping with me,but i told him no ,because i am not sure about things ,and because of things from the past.thanks

2007-02-08 04:01:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Friends

11 answers

Lets assume that you love this guy already. Sometimes when were in love, we get blinded by the reality and only see and hear what we want. People outside your relationship are the ones who have a better perspective on things. If majority doesnt like him, there might be something really wrong about him. Your friends dont have any reason to dislike him if theres really nothing to dislike. Dont be in a hurry. Try to get to know him more as he already has a kid but didnt take the kids mother seriously. Ask yourself maybe you could end up in same situation if youre not careful.

2007-02-08 04:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by mareko 2 · 1 0

This is a guy who knows he is hot.
he already slept with someone and had a child.
He wants to sleep with you so soon.
I think he is a little immature, even tho he is older and irresponsible.
He is in too much of a hurry for another conquest.
Your friends are probably seeing this and are fearful for you, that is all.
I think maybe you should find someone who wants to take some time to get to know you , has no children and is responsible,.
Being hot is NOT the most important thing here, you need to look a little deeper and not be mesmerized by good looks...under those good looks and clothes could be a dud not a dude....
Take the time to find out which is the case.
If he is empty inside what will you talk about??????
I think you can do better ......

2007-02-08 12:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1 0

maybe your friends think he's a jerk for pushing sex on you esp. when he has a child and so obviously that means he had sex with someone else he doesn't care about without regard for the consequences.

even if he "takes care of his kid" or says he loved her but it didn't work out, i doubt the baby's mom agrees with either one of these statements now

you probably don't want to hear this, but your friends are right.

just remember that there will be a lot of people in your life that will make you happy, it doesn't mean that they are right for you.

you should leave him now or you will spend the rest of your life regretting it. trust me, there are a lot of "hot guys" that will appreciate a girl who can admit her past mistakes.

as far as not caring what people think - with general society, sure, but if he doesn't care what anyone thinks, that shows that he doesn't care about anyone either - sorry, dear, that includes you too.

2007-02-08 12:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by mommynow 3 · 1 0

You should have state your age. Girl this is just too much for you. You need to make up your mind and consider if you can bare with this type of living. You still holding on to the past, which in that case is messing things up, really bad. So think and also considered of the consequences. Take care.

2007-02-08 12:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by tyra 1 · 1 0

You choose who you want to be with, not your friends. If they are true friends, they will give advise , but respect your decission , and still remain your friends. I also applaud your choice not to sleep with him, you may love him, but obviously you are not ready for the next level for different reasons. I do not know your age or his, but remember this, he has a child, he comes as a package deal, are your old enough, emotional and mature enough to handle a child , that child is his primary concern, and you will have to realize you should and will be put on the back burner for that child. Are you ready for that?

Also, ask your friends why they do not like him, there may some good reasons, and you are hearing them but they are not registering because you are in love. Take this slow.

2007-02-08 12:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by vivib 6 · 0 0

well my best friend doesnt like my husband but hes a sweet guy. and does the fact that he has a kid bother cuse if it does move on dont make him choose and does he push u to have sex b/c thats bad n u shold move on otherwise i guess give it a shot n see what happens you wont know how this will go untill you give t a try.

2007-02-08 12:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by Allibug'smommy 2 · 0 1

If he doesn't care about what other people say and you do then maybe you should just leave him alone so he can find someone that will feel the same way about him.

2007-02-08 12:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by felita2004 2 · 0 0

hey babeh.
You shouldn't hookup with him.
He has a kid. That's to much to
handle. The "Past" will NEVER
change. So it is good to look back
at the past. It's okay to talk to
him, but you already know what
he wants....sex.

Let me know what happens.
hxc_mercedes@yahoo.com

♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

Hardcore_MERCEDES

2007-02-08 12:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by xMercedesx 1 · 0 0

He is NOT the guy for you.

"He dosent care what other people think,but i do ..."

Until you don't care what others think, you are not ready.

move on.

2007-02-08 12:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by azarus_again 4 · 0 1

Unless you are sure...move on.

2007-02-08 12:03:34 · answer #10 · answered by rose 3 · 0 0

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