abortion right or wrong?

Question

I am 26 years old....not yet married, 50lbs overweight, poor....and I have an 8 year old son. I am so confused on what to do. I wasnt planning on having kids with my fiancee until after we were married. I do want a family, but I dont want to get any bigger, and honestly we are having a hard time making ends meet now the way it is.......can anyone relate to me, and please give me some advice? I dont want to make the wrong choice, I am scared!

Answer 1

There's always adoption
http://www.adoption.org

Answer 2

There is nothing that anyone on this forum can say that will make this decision easier for you. Abortion is deeply stressful and personal, even more so when there is already a family. I dont think that your weight is a good reason to have a termination unless you are seriously concerned about your physical wellbeing ( at only 50lbs overweight I dont think this is the case ). Also if you want to have a bigger family in the long term then choosing to abort is really going to hurt when those other children DO come along.

However, if you are simply not able to happily contemplate another child right now then a termination might be the wisest choice, especially if you run the risk of damaging the family that you already have. Whatever you eventually decide, good luck. Some people are against abortion in any circumstances but you have the right to choose what is best for you, not them. Make sure that you have the full support of your fiance, no woman should have to make this decision alone.

Answer 3

When I was 19 I got pregnant. Despite being on birthcontrol and using condoms. He left he claiming it couldn't be his. I was left to make the decision on my own. I didn't have a steady job, I didn't have a car or a license. I knew I had nothing to offer this child. Plus I was not emotionally stable enough to give the child up for adoption. I chose abortion. And I don't regret it at all. I made the best decision possible for my son & me. I just make sure I think about him daily to remind myself of why I did it and how to never be in that position again.

The reasons for everyone are different. Before I was in that situation I was against abortion. I'm not anymore. I now believe it depends on the circumstances. I do not believe in it being a form of birthcontrol like some women do. But you aren't wanting to do that from the sounds of it. It appears to me that this is between you and your fiance. Its a decision you both need to be making. Unfortunetly money plays a big factor in everyone's life. Especially when your talking about bringing a child into the world. You need to question if there is a way you two could financially do it. Or if not. Consider all options that you can. The most important thing is that you make the decision together. Just make sure your thinking about the child. Don't do something that is just going to make the child's life hell. If you aren't going to be able to afford diapers... maybe you should consider this option. I don't know your financial situation so I can't offer any major advise. But I can say that if you do it, I wouldn't blame you. You need to do whats right for you.

Answer 4

Thanks for sharing your situation with us. I'm going to be blunt, but it is out of genuine concern for both you and your baby. Regardless of your situation, your baby is totally innocent. It is not her fault that you are overweight, or that you don't have much money, or that you're not yet married, or that she wasn't planned. None of these things make killing her right, and I think you know that. You will manage. That is what families do! I'm sure you would never let anyone hurt your born son, and you shouldn't let anyone hurt your unborn baby either. She is just as much your child and is depending on you, her momma, for protection.

There is help available for you. If you go to a crisis pregnancy center, they will talk through all of your concerns with you and help you find solutions. You can find one near you by calling 1-800-395-HELP or visiting
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

They help women in your situation every day, and can give you referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance, free maternity and baby supplies, and whatever else you may need. All of their services are free and confidential.

If you need more help determining the right thing to do, please take a look at this information:

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf

You will never regret letting your baby live.

Answer 5

First of all Baby Gurl, is this your First abortion? If yes, DON'T DO IT....I Can totally relate to you if it is your First time or Not because the Things they do to you in Those clinics is Horrifying and Right afterwards you Feel a STRONG sense of loss, My baby's father Made me and Paid for mines because he Wanted to sweep it under the Rug and Not have his "Rich" parents find out he Knocked up a Black girl (What an *** I Know), but anyways don't, Even if you gain the Extra pounds! You can always Loose the Wait, but the #1 thing you can't bring Back is an Innocent child!

Answer 6

You will get all kinds of advice on this question. If you are not a god fearing person you will find that to have an abortion is not hard to do. If you beleive there is a god, you will find it hard to do. You and only you will have to decide if aborting a child is the right and moral thing to do. Perhaps you need to talk to a family planing expert and also a preast. I have seen women who aborted and it didn't bother them later on. I have seen women who aborted and years later they still regreted it. Good Luck.

Answer 7

Abortion is totally wrong if you were mature enough to have sex then be mature enough to raise a child. Sorry baby we are in the year 2007 there are so much methods of birht control there is no reason why a women should get an abortion. Yea is easy to open your legs when it comes to sex but is not easy when it comes to having a child.

Answer 8

ok i think abortion is totally wrong cuz you can prevent getting pregnant and your takin someone's life away that deserves a chance in the world. so if your gonna have sex there are concequences and you have to be willing to take them..if not then you have no right having sex basically. and yeah that sucks to hear that you can make ends meet or having a hard time BUT you should still have the kid and don't worry about getting bigger. its ok, you will be happy when you have your kid if you do choose that. good luck:D

Answer 9

Only you can make this choice. No one on this message board can do it for you. Sit down with your family and discuss this fully. I believe that a women has a right to choice; so therefore, I'm not going to tell you want to do. Don't let anyone but yourself, and fiance make this decision.

Answer 10

After having a child...I can't understand why you would even consider an abortion. But it's such a personal thing and it's tought to get an opinion that's not one sided nowadays. You have to do what's right for you. Oh yeah...it's called birth control, use it.

Answer 11

Well, I personally think it's wrong to do abortion because embryos can think in the mothers womb. However, if you don't want to take care of the baby then I suggest you give birth to it and bring it to an orphanage. Who knows, you might even be able to stay in touch with the baby if you can find out who it's parents are!