Has anyone moved on from their first love?

Question

Has anyone moved on from their first love, b/c you thought it wasn't right, but never were able to truly move on to the person you are with? Was it a mistake? Did anyone go back? Was anyone better after it?

Answer 1

you always look back, unfortunately hind sight is 20/20.

Answer 2

My first love and I broke up when we were like 17 years and that was 15 years ago , Her mom thought we was getting to close and told her to stop seeing me .I always thought she was the first to be the last and I still do . I always think that her mother thought that i was never that good for her daughter and she wanted someone better for her .She started seeing this guy who was a lawyer so I never went after her again . We both went separate ways and started seeing other people . We lost contact for about 10 years and I am married now but I still think of her everyday because I had truly loved her and there will always be a placed in my heart for her . After 10 years I moved to the US
and my friend told me she also moved to FL. We spoke for the
1st time since 10 years ago and she told me her b/f the lawyer
married someone else and thats why she moved to FL. We spoke a couple of times since but I always wanted to tell her how I felt about her but When I was about to ,she got very sick
and lost her speech . I have no way to contact her now because
her mom does not want to give me her email which I am sure she has one .I cant call her because she cant talk .
Every day I think about her and pray that she gets better
and that one day she will meet that special person . As for me I know we could never be together because I am married and have a beautifull daughter now but there is not a day that goes by that I dont think how our life would have been . I also hopes she reads this so she will know how I feel about her.

Answer 3

No and it sucks very bad.I always moved on after every tragedy in my life 2 divorces,a childs death other boyfriends and at the age of 42 met someone who for the first time relly felt IN LOVE and its been 2 and a half years since the breakup,had to he was the sweetest man in the beginning and ended up being very abusive and like satan himself and even with a ton of therapy there isnt one day I dont think about this guy and lament.I cannot understand why at all,maybe it was the abuse and I got no justice at all I just know I never felt that way for anyone and never will again,I wish to God i never met him and if there was a way to erase that period of time out of my mind I would do it in a heartbeat.The depession I have suffered over this is so unrelenting,and I cant figure it out.I am not an ignorant person but this is so unreal to feel this way for so long,I always read or heard of this happening to others and now I find myself in the same position.Heartbreak is the worst feeling and I think alot of people stay in relationships that are so over just because they dont want to go through the horrible pain heartache brings.The funny part is i left and still it doesnt matter I just cant move past it although it is not your normal case,there is a lot of sick things that occured but the beginning of that relationship was the most awesomest thing I ever experienced in my life,I just wish it would have turned out different cause I loved him more than anything,I sortof just gave up after that.I have dated alot since than,but nothing so I remain alone,cause once you experience what you feel is this amazing thing,nothing ever compares,not that I want to try to reannact it cause everyone is different and all relationships are too.I just feel like Til the minute I die this will always hurt me.

Answer 4

Yes, i've gotten over my first love, I thought like it was going to be the end of the world, i had a chance to go back, but I realized it just wasnt meant to be, i didnt see it as a mistake b/c i learned from it, i started to understand what love truly means. It's been about two or three years since my first love and now i am happily in love with this beautiful girl, we've been going out for 11 months.
Good luck b/c there is someone out there for everybody, it could be your first love, or it could be another, remember, it's your life, live it how you want it.

Answer 5

My first hubby was an A**hole, but did not think that when he divorced me for another women......so I moved on until 1997 when I met the best ever man in the world. He is so much different from my first hubby, more loving, more caring, more everything that I wanted in the first place. The only thing good out of my first marriage was a son that has already grown up into a really good young man. So I can say I moved on and did not look back on a first bad marriage, and am grateful that he divorced me and that I could finally find my one and only soul mate.

Answer 6

In the life we live, the first means jus that. There is a reason y at some point the love is lost and they becum an X. Situations differ n i think that in life all we look for is that REAL and TRUE love, i admit the judgement omly becums feasible after a seperation. Sae u give it another try,to your surprise compromise becums a reality for the first tym in ur relationship, putting your needs first becums plausible, coz they realise how unbearable n unfullfilling life is without u. I think it differs with experiences but in life one alwaes needs an instance they can reflect on to show u how valuable wat u do have is. If u`v gotten beta luvin than b4 then dnt dwell on the past dearest its not worth it....at the end of the day all u really want is to be loved.

Answer 7

I think every person on earth will always have some feelings for their first love! No matter how the realtionship ended, it was still your FIRST love! You have to decide whether or not that person is worth throwing your life away for. Probably not, simply because, when you are remembering your past relationship, it's really easy to remember the good times, but we seems to forget about the bad. We remember our first love as being perfect, when in reality, it wasn't. It had as many problems as your current one, I assume, but there is a reason that relationship ended.
I tried for a number of years to move on from my first love, but always seemed to have him in the back of my mind, we tried numerous times to get back together. But we always eventually broke up again and it was for the original reason we broke up. When we were apart we thought of the good times, but forgot the not so good that led to the breakup. Eventually, I got tired of being hurt and the games of breaking up and getting back together, so I moved, in order to stop the cycle! And I now realize, after several years, that the relationship didn't work and I wonder why I tried so many times. But I know it's because I was remembering a perfect realtionship, not the real relationship!
Good luck!

Answer 8

My friend,

Your question made me feel like I was looking into the mirror back at myself.

I have never truly gotten over my ex, and it's catching up to me. I think of him everyday. it's painful. I don't want to love him anymore, but I can't do anything about it.

I am now engaged to the man I've been seeing for 3 yrs. Constantly, I find my ex on my mind. Even when I'm with my fiance.

I love my fiance very much as does he. But if I ever tell him how I feel, he will feel very hurt.

I feel broken. Some days I think of him (my ex) constantly for 2-3 hours. Those are the good days...

There are days I regret breaking up with him. He was a nice guy, still is, and is doing very well in life. He took good care of me, and I felt as though we were made for each other.
I miss him...

Answer 9

never went back to my first love, I was so young, and at the time it was heartbreaking, and it is very painful, but in time you do move on physically and mentally, and when you fall in love next time this will be your great love and may turn into the love of your life, sometimes thats 2 different people, so you will have your 1st love, your great love and then the love of your life/soulmate. You have lots more to experience, all these experiences will make you the great person you are. Look forward to experiencing them all, nothing better!

Answer 10

In today society, the moment you get out of your first love, you enter into the 2nd, the 3rd and so on. So, who care whether it is first love or not. Anyway, I can't even remember how many time I have gone thru loves before getting married. However, I think it is good to have many love experiences as it make me more mature and ready for marriage.

Answer 11

I moved on several times from my first love. We always got back together somehow, but it just wasn't meant to be. I will always love him because he is the father of my three children. He has since married again (although we never did), and I am in the process of a new found relationhsip with someone I've known since the age of eight. First loves are hard to get over, and you never forget them.