Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7yrs now. We made plans back in Oct06 to move in Mar07. And we have been purchasing a lot of things for the apartment. Which are all stocked up in my house. Now about 2 weeks ago my mom was diagnosed with liver and bone cancer (she had breast cancer in Jan 06 also). The dr believe she will be fine since the tumor in her liver is small and should disentegrate with the chemo and radiation. Since that happen we have changed the plan for April giving my mom 2 months to recuperate and see how the treatment goes. Yesterday my boyfriend got in a huge fight with his parents and they dont want him in the house (it was his dad's fault he disrespected him as usual; very negative man) so, now he wants us to move out together but I feel like I am in the middle I want leave because I want to be with him but, I dont want to leave my mom alone. Besides he would need me to move out with him because he doesnt make enough $ to pay the rent. We live in miami,fl
2007-02-08 03:26:05 · 7 answers · asked by ME 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and well the rent is not cheap here. Its 850-900 for a 1/1. What do you think I should do? And he can't go back home so he has to move out there is no other choice. your opinions would help. thank you
2007-02-08 03:26:59 · update #1
He also has a business he started and has to put $ money to cover the rent thats why he wouldnt be able to live on his own he would need help from me.
**his friends wont move out with him either.
2007-02-08 03:28:01 · update #2
My stepdad doesnt think he should stay living in the house with me. I already tried =(
2007-02-08 03:38:16 · update #3
He has a good job but like I said previously he opened a business and still has to cover some of the rent for the store. So no he has not asked to help him pay the rent but obviously if we move together we go half in the rent. When they kicked me out of my house he picked me up twice. So, I feel that i should support him in this time instead of walking out on him. Believe me he's not going to come around and not work and me pay the rent and all the expenses. I love him too much but for him be a freeload either. I know when he can cross the line and he hasnt done that yet. Hes been extremely supportive with my mom's situation. That is one of the reasons why he is moving out because his father is an old fashion man who is always fighting and is very negative about everything he was just trying to keep his cool till he moved out but, his father picked a fight on something so stupid and he couldnt take it and blew up in face and now they dont want him in the house.
2007-02-08 05:25:56 · update #4
I would have a hard time leaving my mother right now, right or wrong, that's the person I am. I couldn't do it, however, I would have to consider whether my boyfriend gets along really well with my mother. Did your mother know your plans of moving, I am assuming so. Talk to her, maybe he can move in with the two of you until, she gets back on her feet and feeling better! Hey, that way there are two people to take care of her, recouperation is difficult, more help may be really good!
If that won't work, then I would have to choose my mother. He has to understand, she has cancer, not a broken toe. If it were me and I left my mother right now, I would never be able to live with myself. Of course that's not to say it's the right way to feel, but you asked for what I would do.
Does he have any friends who may room with him for a while?
Good luck, hope it works out! And maybe your mom won't mind having him around her house for a while! Hope she gets better!
2007-02-08 03:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no respect for shack ups. What have you two been doing for 7 years? Either get married or go work on your separate problems. Be with your mom and let your bf prove he can be a man and either work things out with his parents or stand on his own. This is time you have to act like real grown up and not just pretend.
2007-02-08 03:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put the business on hold, Ask and see if your mother will let him stay with U both for the time being, hopefully everything will blow over.
2007-02-08 03:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by poetified2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to support him the rest of your life? Sounds to me like that is what he's after. If he can't afford a place after all this time he must be a moocher. Believe me I married one and its living purgatory.
2007-02-08 04:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by aelenaj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom tell her the situation maybe she'll let him move in with you guys for a little bit.
2007-02-08 03:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by ad121ana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing
2007-02-08 03:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by amirhossein 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is there any chance he could move in with you and your mum
2007-02-08 03:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by dumplingmuffin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋