sometimes i cannot control myself hurting the feeling the man i love most.indeed,he is the best man i ever met.after hurting his feeling,i only regret at the end.but it repeatedly again and again.im afraid that soon maybe i have loose him...
2007-02-08 03:20:32 · 20 answers · asked by honey l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I believe we do this because we know that they'll forgive us. But be careful, .....you can go to far hurting someone.
2007-02-08 03:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to do the same thing and I didn't know how to control it. The company I work for offers free counseling....so I went and discovered that the way I was acting was brought on by how I was emotionally abused as a child. They taught me how to acknowledge what I can control and what I couldn't and also how to walk away when I became angry so I could catch my breath and realize why I was really angry in the first place. It really helped me to acknowledge what I was doing and who I was hurting.....and to be honest, it made me realize how much of a fool I was acting. Counseling saved me....saved our relationship....and we are now happily engaged & planning our wedding.
If you really love this man, I would highly recommend you get some counseling.....you first.....then progress into couples. It will benefit you in the end, and if you choose couples counseling, it will help you both see where the other is coming from.
Good luck and god bless.
2007-02-08 12:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Connors! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when we hurt....that is the language we use to let them know....also....it is a protective measure we use....we are very vulnerable to the ones we have let in our lives....and when they do something that feels like it is hurtful....even small things....our anger puts up a wall that we have learned to use to protect us....I myself have a wonderful husband....I have hurt him many times with my words....especially when I am hormonal and vulnerable to my short comings....I don't know why he still loves me.....after 25 years. It has gotten so much better...years ago...if he did one minor thing....I would have to be mad for weeks....because nothing less would be like saying it was okay....I was on such a self defense mode....I was killling myself....because you can't be happy like that. It is good that you are looking at this....Good luck. For me this behavior stemmed from being raised in an abusive home...watching my mom be beat...I was just so afraid of letting something like that happen to me I couldn't chill for the smallest infractions....it has taken me a long time to really see that I could let that go...now if I get ticked at him...it pretty much is said and over in a couple of hours....if that.
2007-02-08 11:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somtimes we all make mistakes... We get our needs and whatever, but we know that the one we love will always be there maybe is there to much. Maybe u need a break with him so u can have ur fun b4 gettin in a relationship
2007-02-08 11:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by Adrianna N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I t is easy to hurt the ones we are close to because we expect forgiveness and understanding. You have ti find out if you really care for him, and if so, only you can stop the damaging behavior. Be honest with yourself first.
2007-02-08 11:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by Michael b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, one problem with this, is that we always find someone and start to love them, and make a relationship or fall in love, then we find somebody else and cheat on them. Which is very wrong, so yeah just remeber that and don't hurt your loved one. You will not hurt him/her if you just remeber this litle bit of info.
2007-02-08 11:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by asher_smith15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl you sound just like me except there is a difference between us i have lost my man but you have yours and its obvious you love him so let him know and as much as you wont want to tell him sit him down and let him know that you love him and at time your mouth can run away with you and if he is understanding and really love you he will understand and in time god willing you two will work things out .
2007-02-08 11:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by jmlhdarboe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too afraid to loss him, that's why you keep on hurting him. Relax, let go a bit and widen your circule of friends. Try talking to more friends and you will appreciate him more.
2007-02-08 11:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by burr burr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think we don't intend to hurt the ones we love, that it just happens . and the only thing we can do is try to let them know we didn't mean to hurt them, and to say how sorry we are.
2007-02-08 11:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because that you are frightened of change or the future that you push him away without meaning to
2007-02-08 11:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by Naomi d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋