Do you truely believe that a woman and a man can only be friends???

Question

I have been trying to be friends with the opposite sex one thing is they both ended up telling me that they liked me or was falling for me etc... YUCK!!! I just want a male friend a real one not one with benefits and not one that will start crushing on you. Do you yahoo think that it is possible??

Answer 1

Yes I think it is possible. Some men act as friends and have alliterative motives. Some actually begin to fall for you because you are friends. You could be someone that man can relate to, open up to and count on. Even though you might not be looking for that right now. Friends can make for a great relationship in the long run. But a friend is going to be there for you and not constantly try to get at you. I was good friends with a lady. We both were dating other people. But we never disrespected each other in any way. We were open and there for each other. Over time mutual feelings and love was there for each other. And the story goes on from there. We now have been married for 12 years and have beautiful kids. And after all that, she is still my best friend.

Answer 2

Not only do I believe it, I know it's true. I've had male friends all my life. Guys whom I never had sex with but would hang out with and do stuff together.
It's very possible.
Maybe you're sending the wrong signals to these guys. Sometimes it's hard to turn off the charm when your with a guy and he is reading that you may want more then friendship.
Just be yourself around them, no flirting or talking about anything sexual, just talk about everyday stuff, weather, sports, current events, other friends, books you've read, movies you've seen, that kind of stuff.

Answer 3

I had this happen several times, I always viewed these guys as only friends, and was naive to their intentions, my bf pointed this out. Once a man is in the friend zone, for me, thats where he usually stays. I liked having guy friends to go out with, no hassles, no sex, just fun and hanging out, well a few ended up ruining it by telling me they were in love with me or whatever, the good news is that I think as long as you are up front and tell them you just want to be friends, things may be fine in the long run. I would like to say its possible to be just friends but in the beginning you have to set the rules down. I have a few guy friends who are just that but they had crushed on me, but in time knew that friendship was all that was possible and they are fine now, it was just uncomfortable in the beginning. They are hard to find. Men are wired different than us, we like having that man around to hang with, hug, dance with, talk to, and be able to leave without hassles and be able to call them up the next day, with no issues, unfortunately, men form a friendship, then realize that you are beautiful, easy to talk to, they can share anything with you, and those are all beautiful aspects of a great friendship but in a mans eyes, those are all beautiful aspects of a great relationship. Good luck!

Answer 4

I have a friend that I have known for several years. I believe man and woman can be just friends as all we have always talked about everything in our lives and after all these years, he and myself have stayed as friends and nothing else more. So maybe you should try to find the guy who truly wanna be friends with you. As the old saying goes, true friends are hard to find but it is worth the try!! Good luck!!

Answer 5

Every single male friend I've had has done the same thing too. I have heard it's possible to be friends with a man but I don't know a single person who's been able to pull it off personally.

Answer 6

It's definitely possible, although it's difficult. You have to establish early that your relationship is FRIENDS...use the phrases "like a brother" a lot..

The guys that you tried to be friends with--were these exes? If that's the case, then it just makes things complicated. If you have the kind of flirty personality--maybe the guys are getting the wrong message. Not that its your fault...guys just need things spelled out.

Good luck.

Answer 7

It is possible for me. Most of my friends are guys and we've never tried to cross the line. But, then again, we've been friends since we were little. I don't know what would happen if I tried to become friends with a guy as an adult. The best guy friend to have is a gay guy. At least then you'll know he's not interested in you sexually.

Answer 8

Yes, it is definitely possible. I have a wonderful guy friend who is basically like the brother I never had. We both like the same things, laugh and joke about the same things. We can enjoy each others company without it getting weird. We talk about each others girl and guy problems and what goes on at home and stuff. Whenever I talk to my little sisters at home (I'm in college) he wants to talk to them and I talk to his brothers and cousins too. I even started a conversation with his girlfriend on facebook and we're just talking on his wall to each other and completely ignoring him. It's all in good fun. Wow, that was long, but yeah you can just be friends with a guy. Just be yourself and everything will work out. :)

Answer 9

I think it's very possible. I've got a best friend who is a female. We've been friends since high school and now we're out of college. We are both married, and she was in my wedding and I was in her wedding. We've never been attracted to each other and never had any type of romantic connections at all.

We've just always been great friends. We never set any rules or anything about romance because it was just always implied that we were never attracted to each other.

Answer 10

Yes it is totally possible. I have had a male best friend for 30 years now.