How do people, work full time, have a family and go to school?

Question

I work full time and I am about to go back to school full time. I had to take a break because its too much. How do people do this crap?

Answer 1

It is very difficult, leaving you with very little free time. At times you will be incredibly frustrated and ready to give up. But what will keep you going is the knowledge that if you persevere and struggle to achieve your goals now, that the future will be so much better once you are done.

It all boils down to how bad you want it. People that want it bad enough grit their teeth, dig in for the long haul and get it done.

People that don't want it bad enough settle for whatever their present circumstances throws at them, and years later they regret not having had the motivation and determination to do what they know they should have done.

Which type of person will you be? Only you can make the choice. Make sure you make the choice that will be best for you in the long run.

Answer 2

This is EXCEEDINGLY difficult to do. One of the foregoing will always subtract from the other, thus ensuring that neither activity can be maximized.

More so if one has a difficult medical problem.

Doing all together has been done by some, usually those who pick an EASY curriculum, i.e. not science or engineering or medical school.

Some few people are helped by a posh job which they were lucky to obtain. Most people cannot count on unusual help like that.

IF you have a family, even when you are YOUNG, your most importance INSURANCE is Major Medical, THEN Disability Income (minimum two years). You will ignore this advice at your peril. Accidents happen to young people, things change. If you wear yourself out, you are at increased risk for a driving accident, worse case, you also injure others.

POSTPONE having kids. You need a supportive spouse. Investigate Work-Study options for your State or Area. Ask the companies where you want to end up working.

If you have found the perfect spouse, a true love situation, though, I am going to surprise you by saying THAT is most important. You need to help each other now, through THICK and THIN. EACH needs the help and support of the other.

School is very important though. One can click that off a little bit at a time and with persistence achieve the goal.

In fact, you will find that learning occurs over a lifetime for all better people, most of it is not credited, sometimes even the most valuable parts.

In any case, you will need to maintain your health while taking on any big load.

I am experienced with SOME of this. Had a medical problem so bad it affected EVERYTHING. Ultimately, never married AND was not able to finish school.

But in my case, not finishing school was mostly owing to oppression and unfairness, even stupidity of the system. I am now old, you can take my word for truth.

If you doubt my capabilities, check out my answers and blog.

Even if you are THAT skilled you get very poorly paying work without a degree. And people think you are a nut when you say what you can do, such as work on New Energy or whatever.

There is a tremendous waste of human resources, nothing is perfect, there is resistance to beneficial change. Many others face like difficulties.

Do the best you can. A good help mate is a plus.

BTW, do not sell your car for tuition....

Answer 3

They do it at the expense of their family life, their children, and eventually their own health. Women bought the idea of "having it all" but forgot to ask what it would cost. It usually costs the well being of the kids, and any sense of family life.
In my opinion, feel free to work all you want and take all the classes you desire-- but don't get married if 15 hours a day are devoted to furthering your own personal gains. That's not what marriage and family are about.
I don't understand why women choose to get married, and then demand or expect a spouse to "understand" or "support" their decision to neglect their role as as wife and mother. Stay single.

Answer 4

I did it as a single mom with 4 boys to take care of. Made a 3.997 GPA in college at the same time. Took careful planning and budgeting.

Answer 5

Determination

Answer 6

It's called a nanny and a very understanding spouse and you take one class at a time that is once a week. Don't expect to do anything else beyond work, school, and family.

I did it and it wasn't easy or pleasant. I feel for you.

Answer 7

They are able to 'do this crap' because they are trying to make themselves into 'better people' and they know that while it might be 'difficult to do now' that their lives will be 'much better' later.

Answer 8

They just gave up sleep. They drank plenty of coffee, but it was worth it at the end.

Answer 9

Through hard work and dedication

Answer 10

They manage their time well and take care of business without whining about it.