Can a Gay Man know what *LOVE* really is without a Woman's influence in his life?

Question

Maybe we can all agree here wether straight or gay that Men and Women are totally different, when it comes to how they view relationships, Love and Sex. As women we always have been able to show a great deal of compassion, affection and nuturing to our spouses families, children and friends.

Maybe we are expected to because we are the sex that gives life to all human beings. This being said it is inherent for women to be the *Gentiler Sex*.
Men have always been warriors hunting for food, providing and fighting for the family and what brings them a sense of how to Love feel compassion and having a sense of calmness ia a female starting from a Mother, Sister, Aunt and finally finding a good woman to love and grow old with.

That is why most people in the straight world view GAY men being all about Sex and nothing else. Not being critical but truly being honest with you all here.

Answer 1

No. Sodomites will never and have never known love. They claim they do they love their partner but yet they do everyone and EVERYTHING. Here's a web site that might shed some light on what their really about http://www.dianedew.com/homo.htm. God Bless.

Answer 2

Those people are wrong. I've seen gay men be very romantic and women of all sexual orientations be very un-romantic. Have you ever watched the L-Word? Shane, one of the most popular characters, is a lesbian playa! Or read an issue of Cosmopolitan magazine and see how straight women can act.

I have seen gay male couples together for 20, 30, 40 years, loving each other more every day and supporting each other when times are bad. It is beautiful. Surely when a man is loving another man through prostate cancer, as is going on with a couple of my acquaintance, there is something besides sex going on.

Answer 3

Yes, you're absolutely right. These are the reasons why people assume gay men are all about sex and not about love.

Thank goodness you can see through the stereotype; gay men are, just like lesbians and straight people, an equal mix of sexual desire and deep love, commitment, dedication, and emotional connection and intimacy. Just like with straight people, there are going to be individuals who are all about sex, but that doesn't reflect the whole of being gay, not by a long shot. Doesn't matter if there's not a single woman in a gay man's life; he can definitely really know *love*.

P.S. You ask a question and then answer it yourself; Yahoo! Answers is for questions you DON'T know the answer to. Please use it correctly.

Answer 4

I'm going to sidestep the homophobia disguised as well meaning "honesty" for a sec. As a woman I find the many stereotypes you have described about both men and women to be deeply misogynist and sexist. It is a slap in the face to all the bold, courageous women I was blessed to know growing up to simply label them as the "gentler sex". With pure strength and determination these women sometimes overcame tremendous obstacles such as sexism and racism to gain respect in the workplace, raise children (sometimes on their own), and have their contributions acknowledged. You have to be pretty tough to do that. It doesn't mean that these were amazon women who could not feel love, but to label women as the gentle sex is so restricting. We can be so much more. It's sad that you see gender as so one-dimensional. It doesn't have to define you. Being female doesn't mean that you are the gentle care giver and nothing more. Being male doesn't mean you are the sex-crazed provider and nothing more. We all have positive and negative facets of our personalities, so please don't let stereotypes blind you to all the wonderful characteristics of the individuals you meet.

By the way, what's up with your gay obsession? Looking through your question and answer history it seems like it's all you talk about. Perhaps there's a little internalized homophobia going on here? Don't be afraid to come out sister! It's a beautiful, rainbow colored world out here!

Answer 5

Whether a guy is gay or straight, they generally have had a female influence in their lives at some point. Gay men have mother's too. That being said, I think your view on gays is very narrow indeed. I know alot of gay couples who are in serious relationships and love each other dearly. Usually one of the guys is the more feminine whilst the other is more masculine so, despite being the same sex, they still have that male/female balance going on in their relationships.

Answer 6

"That is why most people in the straight world view GAY men being all about Sex and nothing else" Speak for yourself.

I know lots of women that are not the "Gentiler Sex". Are u saying that Gay men can't have sister, Aunts, etc?

Answer 7

It sounds like you've confused maternal love with romantic love. While it's true that most of us received maternal love and influence, that does not necessarily have anything to do with the love we find in a partner of the same sex.

I know many gay men who, despite being masculine, have a gentle and nuturing nature. A gay man can have compassion. He can relate to men AND women due to his balanced masculinity and femininity.

The reason that most people in the straight world view gay men as being all about sex is they are uneducated and close-minded about gay men and what makes them tick. Not sure what your "being honest" is about but it sounds as if you think gay men cannot love. And in that you are wrong.

Answer 8

Don't you believe that men can take on the roles of women? Cultural and gender stereotypes run deep in all of us because we are brought up with them. I think that a lot of men, whether gay or straight, and a lot of women, gay or straight are all about sex. It's a personal choice that has nothing to do with gender and sexuality. I think that the gay men are just taking the wrap for society.

Answer 9

Gender and/or sex does not dictate one's capacity to love or be loved. Men and women are only different because we have societal gender roles that make them different. We aren't as different as you may think. Women aren't the gentler sex and men aren't the stronger (it all depends on how you define gentle and strong). It's also cultural - what we define as man and woman is different from place to place, with different defining characteristics.

Your gender roles are pretty much what society's been telling you - men are hunters, women are mothers. That's crap. Seriously. That's an idea loosely based on our ancestry, and it held merit then, yes. But the "gender qualities" you're assuming grew out of that history which has historically subjugated women as value was placed upon property & materials (it's an entire history of gender inequality). This is where your idea of the 'gentler sex' comes from - the oppression of women. Not that every woman is oppressed if she wants to be a mother, don't get me wrong. It should be a choice. But the ascribed gender roles women are given are generally those correlated with weakness. Don't be fooled into thinking women are biologically meeker.

So, yes, gay men can get along just fine without the "love of a woman", because LOVE IS NOT GENDERED. Men and women alike all have the capacity to be loving, nurturing people, regardless of their relationship status, sexual orientation, gender identity, etc. It's the state of being human, with a capacity of reason and compassion, to love and be loved.

Answer 10

Now you're being silly, Dearest. Many gay men are very in touch with their feminine side and have been ridiculed by their peers for such.
It would be a bit like saying my own Partner and I wouldn't know was Love is without knowing a Man's influence (I have and I never want to again ick ick ick)
Please don't generalize. I know your question seems valid to you but Gay Men have long and deep Partnerships. Its not all about sex, it's about finding someone to grow old with and to be a Partner with. The sex just happens to be a rather wonderful benefit...okay, yes, when we're younger that's foremost in our minds but we're all walking gonads aren't we.
Blessings, my Dear.

Answer 11

Imposed cultural roles do not define who we are. If you let society tell you who and what you should be based on your sex, race, religion or any other factor, you are nothing but a tool, an unthinking animal rather than a human being. Self-awareness is the key to enlightenment. Try questioning your most basic assumptions once in a while instead of spreading stereotypical nonsence like this.