Say there's a gay couple, often we see one guy as the 'man' all macho and stuff, and the other half as the'girl' as in more femine. why so?
2007-02-08 02:53:19 · 12 answers · asked by C-va™ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
this is based on some couple. doesnt imply on all.. but most of the time there is..
2007-02-08 02:57:57 · update #1
Not the case in any of my relationships. You appear to assume that dominant equals masculine, and submissive equals feminine, a clear and sexist stereotype. I've known many happy hetero couples where the woman clearly wore the pants in the family, as have most of us if we think about it. Going beyond vanilla couples where do Female/male D/s relationships fit into your male/female paradign? You say "often", I reply that I've been bi for over 40 years, and in that time I can't, offhand, think of a dozen such couples I've known in my time.
2007-02-08 07:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may see that in some couples, but really, every relationship must have certain contributions, therefore each person assumes certain roles (one may cut the grass and the other cook, one may grocery shop and the other change the oil in the car). The couples you are talking about probably include one very open fem-male who wants nothing to do with the stereo-typical male tasks and chores in a relationship.
Fact is, when you see a gay couple in which both are " 'male' all macho and stuff", you would not know they were gay (unless they were holding hands, kissing, etc).
2007-02-08 11:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a total stereotype, and a result of very limited, ignorant thinking, to presume that in gay relationships the couple are filling male and female roles. A homosexual couple is by definition not about the opposite sex at all - it is always two women, or two men. I've had to explain this to my own mom - my partner is not the "female" in our relationship - we are both men.
Perhaps what you are seeing is that, as in all couples gay or straight, there is often a more dominant person in the couple. This could be the man or woman in a straight relationship.
2007-02-08 11:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by Steven D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a stereotype. I have seen many a two queens together. I think that in the beginning of gayness (lol) that might have been the case. A lot of newly gayed (lol) people believe that they need to play a certain role, when in reality you are who you are and you love who you love. End of story.
2007-02-08 11:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by mfupipoet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with you. You say MOST of the time, but I know several male couples, and in NONE of them EITHER one of them are feminine in any way. I think you are just trying to fit your concept of a couple into a heterosexual view of things.
As for me and my partner, neither one of us act like a girl either. In fact, when we are apart, BOTH of us have been hit on by women often.
2007-02-08 11:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Tikhacoffee/MisterMoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, with respect, I don't know who you do, but for myself I find that there may be on occasion a more dominant personality in a relationship but it is far from a masculine/feminine dynamic. I understand your question but I suspect that dynamic, male/female, is a rarity.
2007-02-08 11:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nature trying to instill itself.
Couples were meant to be one man one woman. Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.
2007-02-08 14:25:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
How come I wasn't aware of these cliches?
2007-02-08 10:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by Kedar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who says there is?
2007-02-08 10:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um...nope, not most gay couples that i know. not true.
2007-02-08 14:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by supposed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋