My boyfriend broke up with me, after a 2 1/2 year relationship, on Sunday night, stayed the night, then left Monday morning with his stuff. He said that he was unhappy but scared he'd never find someone that will love him as much as I love him, and said he'll always love me. He said that he doesn't think I can make him happy, but I know I can since I've been so busy caught up with college and work, I haven't set a lot of time aside, and know I can make him happy if I set "us" time aside. I'm confused because I never knew he was unhappy, it was just an all of a sudden thing. We've talked on the phone since then, and I asked him if he would just think about it, he said that he just needs some time. What are the chances of us getting back together? I'm hurting so bad inside because I need him back in my life!
2007-02-08 02:48:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
okay, also he said its okay to call him, however i still feel guilty because he did say he needs time...is it okay to call? if so how often?
2007-02-08 02:56:26 · update #1
Girl get on with you life, do not compromise because this man is suddenly unhappy, it sounds like he found someone more his speed and this is his way of telling you goodbye.
2007-02-08 02:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break-ups can be tough!! Especially if you don't see it coming! Hang in there!
A little advice if I may - If you can, get this book a.s.a.p. "Love Must Be Tough" by Dr. James Dobson. It will help you navigate through these emotional rapids!
Don't call him. Let him reconnect. If he does, act very secure even though you don't feel like it. It will enhance your chances of getting back together.
Get emotional support from family and friends. And remember, it's not your job to make him "happy."
I've been there! Done that! Got the T-shirt!! Good luck! I know it's so tough!
2007-02-08 02:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put college and family ahead of my boyfriend and before I knew it, he was growing colder, and colder, and finding stupid things to argue about. When you reflect a ways back, do you see where you have neglected him? Do you see where maybe the Both of you lost that communication? In my case, the boyfriend end up calling me back because he knows I am educated, and nice, and its very hard to find that in someone else. Your boyfriend needs some time, and you need time to focus on you and your studies. It is okay to call every once in a while, but let it take its course.
2007-02-08 03:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through. I was with a guy for 2 1/2 years. And He all of sudden left me to. and since then one time we wanted to get back with me.. But I had found someone else and now married to. Girl you might have to just let him go. Its what i did and Its what i needed to find my true happiness. I know anybody can tell you this but it may not be what lies within your heart. but whats the use if he doesnt love you back and you cant make him happy. why do you think hes able to make you happy after him telling you. You couldnt do so. even if you two got back together in the back of your mind youll always think "am i making him happy" and drive yourself bananas cause of it. and since it was all of a sudden youll always thinking he isnt telling you whats going on with him. Trust me. Time will heal. i know easier said than done. but youll see.
2007-02-08 02:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jewelz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the time he needs. It sounds like he does love u, but there is something missing. When he is open to talking find out what the "something is" Don't phone him for a few days and just let him see what life would be like without u in it, that is when guys start to miss u and the reality of it all sinks in. If u are calling him he doesn't get the true affect of being alone. Just keep faith that if this love is meant to be, he won't walk away for good, he just needs to get a few things straight in his mind.
2007-02-08 02:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to give him some time to think things out or there will never be a possibility of you two getting back together.
2007-02-08 02:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by Alyssa K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is give it time and see if he comes back. Keep the lines of communication open. Good luck.
2007-02-08 02:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let go of him..
2007-02-08 02:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by -girlie054- 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋