My husband has a hunting bow that he doesn't use. A teenage neighbor said that he wanted to buy it, and my husband went ahead and let him get it before he even paid for it. I kept telling him that he should give the bow to the teen until it was paid for, because I didn't think the kid would pay for it. Well I was right, she kid finally came up like a month later and said he couldn't afford it, so my husband got it back, luckely in the same condition. Well, he has just done it again with a co-worker. He isn't friends with this guy, it's just someone he works with. The guy did give him $50 towards the asking price of $350, and my husband let him go ahead and take the bow. I told him again that he made a big mistake giving the bow to the guy before he paid for it, cause he could quit his job, break it, or who knows what, and my husband wouldn't get the rest of the money. He just says "Naw, cause I know where he works." That wouldn't hold up in small claims court! Did he make a bad choice?
2007-02-08 02:47:43 · 6 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off, I don't care if it is his bow. I pay 75% of the bills in our household. So the idea of him pissing away money that we need, because he wants to be the trusting guy, is ignorant to me. Does anyone else ever watch Judge Judy? LOL
But seriously, why would you hand over the item before it is paid for? He just went through that will the teenager and didn't get paid for it. The teen could have broken it, and then my husband wouldn't have gotten anything: not the bow and not the money. Sometimes he is TOO trusting. He works for a company with hundreds of employees, and this is not a close friend that he is selling this to. If he expects to get $350 for this bow, I just think that he should have gotten at least 1/2 before he gave the guy the bow.
I'm not a bit** or untrusting, but I know that people take advantage of people who are too trusting and my husband has been taken advantage of before.
2007-02-08 03:16:30 · update #1
When it come to business, always collect the money before giving over the merchandise.
2007-02-08 02:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you pay 75% of the bills in the house . it is true he should have discussed it with you but the decision is ultimately his . My hubby and I discuss everything right down to a dollar if need be cause that is what married people do . But if the item we are discussing is his or mine . Yeah we can discuss it but it should be the individuals decision to make cause it is their property. good luck .
2007-02-08 12:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad choice!! I kinda had the same thing going on with a fur coat the girl I work with wanted it... and kept trying to get me to go lower... she borrowed it.... kept asking how much I would sell it for. I told her $200 (she wanted to pay like $50) and told her my ebay name.... you want it... bid on it...
It's too hard sometimes to sell things to people you know. Ebay is the best cause you never meet the people.
2007-02-08 11:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should be a bit more trusting? If your husband thinks its fine, then there is probably a reason for it. Just see what happens, I doubt it will get to court, do you need the money for something badly now? if you asked him to speedy up his payments he might be able to
2007-02-08 10:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by jacks my boy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, he did not make a bad choice. He is a trusting person. You are lucky to have him, rather than having a spouse who second guesses, like you.
2007-02-08 10:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the bows his, he can do what he wants with it, quit being a whiney baby. Get off his back already.
2007-02-08 11:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋