Any protocol for passing on wedding bands when divorced, Ie is it bad Karma or somthing...plus how to share three rings between two girls...does engagment & eterninty equal a wedding band, or not????
2007-02-08 02:45:17 · 28 answers · asked by raqsbanat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My mum gave me all three after her divorce, as I was the oldest.
2007-02-08 02:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by chelle0980 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, not bad karma. Why don't you ask your girls which ones they would like and hope they don't pick the same! Maybe they can come to an agreement between them, or you could wait and leave them to any grand daughters you have in the future. In terms of monetary value the engagement ring would be the most expensive, so the eternity and wedding bands could go together. Good luck with your new life! (Been there, done that!)
2007-02-08 02:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some interesting answers to an interesting question! I dont agree with Bubbles that an engagement ring is a 'waste' of money! But back to your question.
When my first marriage split up i only had one daughter from it, so gave her the wedding ring and kept my engagement ring just to wear as jewellery. It wasnt a diamond anyway. Didnt wear it much and eventually it was stolen while on hols. Hope he got bad karma for theft!
When my second marriage split up i had 3 rings - engagement, wedding band and a claddagh cos he was Irish. I have kept the claddagh and band but had the engagement ring made smaller and gave it to the one daughter from that marriage on her 18th - as an extra present not her main one.
In your case it may be as well to discuss the situation with both girls and see if they can come to an agreement. You won't get much if you sell them, unless they are antique or really spectacular.
It's a sad situation isnt it. Sorry i can't help much.
2007-02-08 03:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We did what made us happy. I chose my ring out and he proposed with it and I wore it as my engagement ring and my wedding ring. The main reasons we did this was because: 1. We didn't have enough money to buy separate rings 2. I liked the look of a solitaire ring and didn't want two pieces forged together because I hate it not being symmetrical. I love my ring and I think there is nothing wrong with making it both since I loved it so much!
2016-05-24 06:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as the rings go, the wedding band and eternity ring go together. I gave my daughter the option of having my rings after my split from her father. It isn't bad karma, she is not using it as her wedding ring. It is something that would have been passed to her anyhow, so I gave her the option of having it now, and she took it and wears it everyday. Maybe the 2 girls can decide between them what rings they want.
2007-02-08 02:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do as you wish - as in no protocol. However, on saying this my own decission would be to pass a ring each to the girls and perhaps have the band melted down and added to each band on the other rings. Dont take Karma into your next relationship - no scientific proof of such nonsense.
2007-02-08 05:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not bad luck, it's still their father.
I would personally hold on to them until one of them gets close to being engaged. They can alway have it reset or changed to make it theirs and that's less money they have to waste on a engagement ring!!
Wish someone in my family did that for me.... my aunt is sitting on an engagement ring and won't give it to anyone... it would have really help my fi and me if she gave us that one so we could have more money to pay for the wedding. But she rather keep it in a box- it was my great great aunts ring... and my aunt has never worn or used it.
2007-02-08 02:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Second hand jewellery has very little value so there's not much point selling it. If either the engagement ring or eternity ring have any decent stones in them perhaps you could get them reset into earrings for both girls. Alternatively, have you spoken to your daughters? Perhaps they could reach an amicable agreement between them.
2007-02-08 02:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go by the value - this would probably be engagement ring to one and eternity and wedding band to the other one. Then they have an equal(ish) share and then both have a momento of the marriage!
2007-02-08 02:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by JoJi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't after a divorce, but that's just me. It seems like it would bring bad luck. If your old and gray and have a had a long, loving marriage- that might be okay. But on the opposite side, luck is really what you make it- and fate will probably not curse your daughters with false love for getting a jinxed ring
2007-02-08 03:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would say give one the engagement and the other 2 2 the other girl. there is nothing wrong with giving them away i have my mums wedding rings
2007-02-08 02:50:14 · answer #11 · answered by jacquelinemeddows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋