is that right?
2007-02-08 02:41:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I mean, jeeze, I'm just not that interested too often anymore.
2007-02-08 02:52:12 · update #1
She's fat.. does that make a difference?
2007-02-08 03:32:44 · update #2
Divorce is not an option.
2007-02-08 05:04:39 · update #3
Mambear... what kind of diseased crowd of people do you hand around with?
2007-02-08 05:13:18 · update #4
Uh no, she's not right. Get her a vibrator.
2007-02-08 03:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a game spouses' play when they can't get their needs met in bed. In a really screwed-up way this is supposed to put you back in line but it only serves to push the other person away.
You really should try your best to satisfy your wife's needs. Nobody likes to be sexually frustrated. Think of how you'd feel if the roles were reversed and you needed sex. You're her husband. You're suppose to be the one she goes to for sex.
On that same note she's threatening you that she'll go outside the marriage and that's very wrong. Even if she has no intention of cheating on you she's putting bad ideas on the table and forcing you to deal with it.
You should talk to her about this maybe after a good romp in bed. (When you are up for it too) She will be in a good mood and more receptive to listen than when she's sexually frustrated. Tell her how much the things she says hurt you. Offer to be more attentive if she is more gentle with you when she needs you.
Suggest that you will buy her toys to help her during the times when you're not up for real sex. Maybe you can use them on her. At least you can participate without having to perform directly.
She may thank you by not having to get toys on her own and appreciate that you care.
Definitely talk to her during a calm moment, but shame on her for the threat.
2007-02-08 11:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by IveBeenThere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she's suggesting is adultery and that's a moral sin. Would you want to ever have sex with her knowing she'd been with someone else of questionable character and health? If she isn't happy with the bedroom and sees no other redeeming qualities in you, then she needs to file for a divorce. She can then go out and get all the sex she wants, and maybe a few social diseases in the process!
2007-02-08 11:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is an intimacy.
It is saying.. I love you. I am interested in you. I think you are sexy and worthwhile.
Shutting her off with no explanation other than.."im not interested" is saying ..."you are not interesting. you don't stimulate me. you are ugly and not worthwhile and I don't love you."
so...WHY aren't you interested? is it a physical problem? are you getting older and having problems rising to the occasion? is there a sickness or medicine preventing y ou? has she gained a ton of weight? has there been a distrust between you? are you getting it somewhere else? are you too involved in work to care or are you just tired?
you need to talk to her.
she isn't saying she will find SEX else where..she is saying she will find LOVE elsewhere. women cheat for different reasons than men.
but..she IS telling you that you need to pay attention.
2007-02-08 11:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by foxinsox 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry, but it sounds like your wife is very selfish. I've been on this end of the deal, and I gotta tell you, sometimes it's tough for women to go without a while too. It gets really hard, but that doesn't make it "okay" for her to go get it someplace else. Maybe you could please her in other ways, instead of just intercourse. She should wait for you, but at the same time, you shouldn't take advantage of the situation and make her wait indefinitely either, because as they say..."If you don't take care of business at home, somebody else will"!
2007-02-08 11:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband doesn't give it to me anymore, but thats not right for her to say that. And if shes fat then let her know that she should lose some weight. My husband talked to me about that about 8 months ago and now I lost 50 pds for him and me. So maybe if you talk to her she will do something about the weight and then the sex will come back (hopefully)
2007-02-08 12:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your wife wants to go elsewhere for sex then get a divorce first. That isn't what you are supposed to do when you are married.
2007-02-08 10:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men just hate it when women turn the tables on them don't they. Usually it's a wife with this complaint. She just wants more from you. You may want to try new things to keep her happy so she doesn't go elsewhere to have her needs fulfilled.
2007-02-08 11:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you two need a therapist or a divorce.
2007-02-08 11:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by nanny2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, but only if you don't care what other people think. If she's wanting more sex and you don't wanna accomodate her, why deprive her? Plus, she's fat and that is probably a turnoff to you.
2007-02-08 11:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
no she pretty much just wants to cheat on u. why would u wanna allow it? jesust hold ur breath and bone the beotch
2007-02-08 10:55:00 · answer #11 · answered by BABi GURl SMiLY 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋